As they grow older, siblings each have their own home. Despite this, our siblings are still the ones we dearest to us. But when I reached middle age, I suddenly found that some siblings have drifted apart, and many of the reasons are because one party has paid too much or been calculated too much by siblings. I realized that the person who harmed you was not necessarily an outsider, but your closest relative. Therefore, don't be too realistic with your brothers and sisters, and leave "2" eyes, this is vision, not scheming!
One, don't tell the other person about your income.
In real life, there are such brothers and sisters who are very real, and these people don't mean that they want to show off anything in front of their brothers and sisters, but when the other party asks about their income, they casually tell the original plan without thinking. On the surface, this seems to be nothing wrong, but it lays a hidden danger for future relationships.
Some things are like this, the speaker is unintentional and the listener is intentional. If one day your siblings come to you and need your financial help, you say, will you help or not? If you don't help, you can't clean it up, because you have money and your income is high. Help, maybe your savings may be fixed, maybe you don't have that much cash on hand, or maybe there are other reasons why you can't get the money. In short, whether you borrow or not, it is you who are hurt.
An old classmate of mine is a very real person, and we have not broken off contact for so many years. It was because of her reality that she could see the true face of her brothers and sisters in the family thoroughly.
My old classmate has a relatively thick background, my mother-in-law's family is in business, there are 7 houses alone, although my classmate and his husband are office workers, but in recent years, my husband has made a fortune because he has partnered with friends to do a few businesses.
The old classmate was happy and told her parents. As a result, his younger brother needed money to buy a house and did not want to take out a loan. The parents told the younger brother to ask the younger brother to borrow money from his sister, saying that the elder sister had money. Originally, the younger brother didn't know that his brother-in-law had made money by partnering with others to do business, but now he let the brothers and sisters passed on by his parents know.
Later, my classmate had no choice, so he took out the family's large deposit certificate and lent it to his younger brother. This money has not been paid back for five years now, and my brother has not paid it back. Every time I asked my brother for money, my brother would say, "Wait."
Once a classmate was hospitalized, he asked his younger brother for money on the grounds of hospitalization, but his younger brother came and said: If you don't have my money, won't you still be cured? You're so rich, and you're missing that little money? At that time, the classmates were so angry that they almost didn't go away. The most angry thing is that my classmate was hospitalized, and my younger brother did not go to the hospital once. Afterwards, my classmate told me that she didn't plan to ask her brother for this money, and the family relationship ended here.
Therefore, no matter how good your financial conditions are, don't disclose your family background to anyone, including your parents. Don't underestimate human nature, what often chills you is the person closest to you.
2. Don't trust your siblings too much.
When we were young, apart from our parents, we thought that our brothers and sisters were the closest to us, but when we grow up, you will find that it is your brothers and sisters who are likely to calculate you. Your kindness is not worth mentioning in front of him. We must understand that kindness does not mean that there is no bottom line, and kindness should be given to those who are worthy of our trust, even if he is a stranger. Because the person who is worthy of our trust must be a person who understands and is grateful.
The neighbor's eldest sister was cheated by his brother and is still lying on the hospital bed. At the beginning, because she had to take care of her elderly and dementia mother, her brother discussed with the neighbor's eldest sister and asked the neighbor's eldest sister to resign and take care of the old mother. The old mother's house and pension belong to the younger sister, and the elder brother doesn't want anything. At that time, it was because of the word trust that the neighbor's eldest sister did not ask her brother to write a note. In this way, my sister took care of my old mother for six years.
But after the death of her mother, when she planned to transfer her mother's real estate, she found out that her mother had already notarized the house to her brother, and in the will, all the mother's property was also given to her brother. When the matter came here, the neighbor's eldest sister realized that she had been calculated by her brother from beginning to end. If there had been a piece of evidence between them in black and white, they would not have suffered this big loss. Later, because he couldn't accept his brother's deception, the neighbor suddenly suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and is still lying in bed and unable to take care of himself.
Therefore, sometimes, in the face of interests, family affection is really not worth mentioning, which is also the most selfish point of human nature, interests are greater than everything. When interacting with brothers and sisters, you must keep your eyes on it, too much trust will make you chill. I hope that all brothers and sisters in the world can love each other for a lifetime and will always be the closest people.