Male cheating feelings:Inner monologue
In "The Siege of the City", Qian Zhongshu once wrote: "Marriage is a city, people in the city want to escape, people outside the city want to break in, and most of the desires in life are like this." ”
Some men have money and leisure time, and they are easily attracted by the outside world of flowers, and they make big mistakes if they are not careful. So, how do they feel when they are with their lovers and then come back to their wives?
Hear what these three men have to say. The first man said, "The one outside is getting gentle. After 7 years of marriage, his relationship with his wife began to dislike each other, mainly because of the seven-year itch.
His wife often blamed him for being lazy, making little money, and not having a good life after marrying him. He felt angry, and he didn't want to deal with her, and he didn't go back to his home often, and he was annoyed when he saw her.
Later, he met a person who knew cold and hot outside, and she would stew him soup every day, which made him feel warm. He admits that he made a mistake and feels sorry for his wife, so he works harder when he comes home.
But he also doesn't know if his wife found out about his cheating, he didn't think about divorce, but his feelings for his lover are getting deeper and deeper. The second man said, "My wife suffered with me. ”
After five years of marriage, his relationship with his wife became flat. He began to get bored, and his wife complained about him a lot. On an outing, he meets a beautiful young girl, and they quickly fall in love.
His relationship with his wife became more and more estranged, but he still did not have the courage to divorce. He admits that he was wrong, but he can't control his feelings. The third man said, "I'm sorry for my wife. ”
Ten years after his marriage, his relationship with his wife became flat. He began to look for excitement outside and had relationships with multiple women. There were a lot of problems between him and his wife, but he didn't solve them.
He admits that he was wrong, but he can't stop his actions. He hopes to find a way to meet his needs while keeping his family ties alive.
02."My energy is limited, and I go home less and less" @王先生 (4 years of marriage): "I have lived with my other half for more than ten years, and every day is as plain as water, without a trace of waves.
Later, I went out with friends a few times, and I had bad thoughts and began to look for excitement outside. But when I'm older, my physical strength is not as good as before, and every time I finish doing something with my lover, I just want to sleep when I get home, and I don't have the energy to communicate with my wife anymore.
I think my wife noticed something was wrong with me as well, but she never brought it up and our lives went on like that. In the relationship between the sexes, there are only 0 and countless infidelities.
It takes a long time to warm a heart, but it only takes a moment to hurt a heart. Once a man starts cheating, it will only get worse. And this kind of abandoning the person who has been with you for the sake of short-term freshness is not worth a woman's nostalgia at all.
03. "The rift is hard to repair, and each is fine"- Mr. Wang (7 years of marriage) shared his experience of having an extramarital affair. His wife found out about his fault and publicly exposed it, causing the family and relatives to know about it.
Although his wife seems to have forgiven him, their relationship has become distant and cold. They now sleep in separate beds, their conjugal life is almost gone, and his wife does not want him to touch her.
He knew he was wrong, and he lived every day with trepidation. At first, he would serve with care, but then he also felt exhausted. Now they are living their own lives, and although they still have untiring knots in their hearts, they are already separated on the surface, and they are suffering from each other.
Sleeping in separate beds is not only a separate bed, but also a separation of the hearts that were once close. A marriage that looks like a divorce will only make both parties miserable.
The complexity of the world and the intricacies of marriage have made it difficult for a man who is not kind to his wife to have a happy ending since ancient times. Therefore, I hope that male friends who are in marriage can keep a clear mind, cherish the happiness they have, strengthen their hearts, and no longer be half-hearted.
Stick to your original intention, stay patient, stay loyal to love, stick to your bottom line, and make your lover feel at ease. Otherwise, in the end, you will only lose yourself and fall into it, like setting yourself on fire.
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