Love is an eternal proposition in human society, some people will need love explosively at a certain age, and some people will be looking for love all their lives.
Shi Tiesheng once described the relationship between man and love in this way: "People are looking forward to others in a lonely position, and they are all following the vast ** with a lonely note, in order that life will no longer be lonely, no longer fearful, and return to the Garden of Eden of the soul by the way of love." ”
In love, people can not only perceive emotions such as excitement, fanaticism, and longing, and feel the secretion of dopamine in the body, but also find a missing part of their soul.
But love has never been just a symbol of beauty, from ancient times to the present, there have been too many past events that have been harmed by love in history. For example, the story of Zhuo Wenjun running to Sima Xiangru at night made her a model for women to fall in love freely, but in fact, Zhuo Wenjun's father Zhuo Wangsun is a giant businessman in Linqiong, Sima Xiangru's family is poor, Sima Xiangru lives a good life with the property of the Zhuo family, but after becoming a **, he saw something strange and wanted to abandon Zhuo Wenjun, and finally was saved by Zhuo Wenjun's song "Baitou Yin". For example, Wu Qi, a military strategist during the Warring States Period, in order to prove to Lu Yuangong that he would not be partial in the Battle of Qilu, he killed his wife of Qi to show his loyalty.
In modern society, there are many inferior incidents such as falling into the "pig killing plate" because of love, emptying the wallet by the "emotional master", bravely chasing love in the end in old age, and "killing the wife and cheating the insurance".
Love is both honey and hurt, and perhaps as Kafka said, "If you are my most beloved person, then perhaps this is not true love; Love is, I feel like you're a knife, and I stir my heart with it."
Love is the stake. Some seemingly absurd things are named in the name of love, and it seems to become reasonable.
For example, a middle-aged and elderly woman who took a train from Jilin to Shandong alone and traveled thousands of miles to find a "Xiucai", the people around her did not understand her, and netizens did not understand her.
Love that starts out of nowhere is the fastest way to build trust between two strangers. Such characteristics make love sometimes become a "sugar-coated cannonball", luring the person who pursues love into the trap step by step. Especially in the virtual world built by the Internet, it has become easier to meet love, which can not only be adulterated, but also become a cash cow.
The elderly who know little about the rules of the "cyber world" have become the "hunting object" first, and three years after the outbreak of the "fake Jin Dong" incident, there are still many emotional *** numbers on the Internet, under the guise of "emotional bloggers", deceiving the elderly.
The elderly who do not understand the rules of the online world have become the target of many criminals. (Picture unsplash).
In November 2023, netizen "A Bottle of Nose Medicine" posted a post on Xiaohongshu titled "I don't know what to do, the elderly fall in love with the subscription account", in which she described in detail the love process between her grandmother and the subscription account. Grandma has followed a lot of accounts such as "Brother Dong with Sister" and "Rarity Brother with You" that specifically target the elderly, and has always thought that what she sees in ** and *** was sent to her by someone she likes, and has responded enthusiastically. Those who started with "Big Internet celebrity, hello, now the whole of China knows you", also completely made grandma **, causing grandma to feel that many people like her, and Ma Yun wants to take her to do business ......Even if the blogger took his grandmother to the police station to do cyber security education, his grandmother still believed in it and stubbornly immersed herself in that illusory and beautiful world.
In fact, in places that are ignored by people, there are not a few elderly people who have established an emotional connection with such an emotional number, such as the ** number called "love each other for a long time", there are often hundreds of thousands of comments such as "dear brother, good evening, I know, I love you more than myself" and "brother, no one can replace you in my heart". The ** in the account is all shoddy, and each one is a fixed template of "landscape maps, middle-aged and elderly people's favorite **, male love words", and from time to time there will be "Shall we meet?" Private message brother plus you" and other words. Many of these accounts have opened the reward function, and even more directly coax the elderly to transfer money in the form of love and miserable sales after adding friends.
In essence, there is no difference between the elderly and emotional accounts falling in love and being defrauded by emotional accounts, and young people being deceived in online dating and marriageable people encountering "pig killing plates", they are all on the road to chasing happiness and falling into the trap carefully designed by people with ulterior motives.
They may not have wavered, and human instinct may have made them smell danger, but love can overcome all difficulties, including their own intuition and nature.
When love becomes a business.
Among the younger group, more complex relationships have emerged in the "market" of love. Young people who felt lost in love began to rush to the doctor, and many metaphysical masters and emotional teachers lived a rich life because of this.
There are many tarot masters on the Internet, and female customers who divinate love are the most important ones in their income**. Many drainage tarot cards** start with the same "Now you are silently reciting that person's name in your heart", "Can you still get back together with him", "Your positive fate is in**" and so on, making it difficult for people who are distressed by love or have expectations for love to look away.
Of course, in most cases, tarot counting is more of a daily pastime, on the Internet, you can find various types of tarot masters, all kinds of price points, within the ability to spend dozens or hundreds of dollars to face their inner doubts, for many people is worth it, will not cause a burden.
Most of the former have a very self-consistent set of metaphysical logic, combining seemingly scientific theories such as energy and magnetic fields with metaphysics, and gradually attracting people who are desperate in their relationships to do rituals, buy lamps, light candles, buy charms, etc., and even some "masters" claim to use the mysterious power from Thailand. As for the cost, it is naturally expensive, and if you search for the keyword "metaphysical compound" on the Internet, you can see a large number of cases of being cheated, ranging from tens of thousands of yuan to more than 100,000 yuan.
Compared with metaphysics, one way that is easier to take advantage of the void is to have various emotional recovery institutions. Hu Li paid the consulting fee two years ago, and before that, she had always considered herself a calm person. At that time, she had just ended a three-year relationship and was in a very bad mood, but she didn't want to disturb her friends, so she became active in a lovelorn enlightenment group on Douban.
In fact, I had seen some advertisements from emotional counseling agencies before, but I didn't take it seriously, because it is not easy for people to trust them when they have normal judgment. The emotional mentor I met was in a very gentle way to share her experience of breaking up and getting back together in the group. From her description, I feel that she is a person with a very stable core and is good at grasping human nature, and she also replied and gave advice to many people in the group, and I also confided in her some. Later, she said in the post that she could give everyone a free opportunity for consultation, and also sent me a private message, (gave me) her *** After I finished telling my story completely, she pointed out that I ** did something wrong from the perspectives of human nature, psychology, energy field, etc., I thought it was really like that, but then talk about what I should do in the future, she refused, but at that time I was already on the top, so I spent 1988 yuan to buy a month's consulting service. Hu Li said.
As a result, during the four-week service period, according to the instructions of the "teacher", Hu Li had to stay out of contact with her predecessor for more than a week. "The rest is nothing more than to tell me how to pull、How to build a circle of friends,I think these are all integrated by them on the Internet,The only thing that is useful is that you can chat without using your brain,She asked to try to take a screenshot of every chat to her,And then she taught me how to reply,Very conscientious,But it's scary to think about it.,And I think they should be replaced later.,The attitude has changed quite a lot.。 After half a month, Hu Li suddenly woke up and didn't want to fall into infinite pulling and internal friction anymore, but the money was no longer coming back.
Where there is emotion, there is business, and in the marriage of middle-aged people, there are also niche but multi-gold professions such as marriage repairers, "little three" separators, and private detectives. In the face of the rapid loss of emotions and the irrepressible sense of loss, people need a life-saving straw to maintain the stability of their inner order. The writer Gibran wrote in "On Love" that "when love crowns you, it will crucify you." As a result, the love business has more room to survive.
November 11, 2023, Hangzhou. A blind date conference uses MBTI to classify and match the information of single men and women. (Photo: Visual China).
Notch. Whether it is an old man immersed in emotion, a young man who is superstitious about compound metaphysics, or a middle-aged person who is trying to repair his marriage, there is both love and gaps in his past life in their motives.
Chi Zijian wrote in "The Right Bank of the Erguna River" when describing the old age of Evelyn and Kunde, a couple who hated each other: "Two people sit together for a long time, and the more they sit, the older they get, the more they look at each other's aging faces, and their hearts will soften. And this is also a portrayal of many older people for most of their lives. In that era when they were ashamed to express their love, many people spent most of their lives with a person because of "the order of their parents and the words of the matchmaker". In their past lives, they have started a family and had children, but they have never felt straightforward and passionate love.
The elderly are deceived by emotion, which not only reflects their reduced adaptability and lack of judgment of new things, but also reflects the lack of love in their lives. It was an emotion that they had never experienced before, and they were suddenly awakened in their twilight years, which is why they were so paranoid.
At the same time, the growing number of empty nesters is also an important reason for the elderly to immerse themselves in the virtual world. According to the data of the seventh national population census, there are nearly 50 million widows in China. According to the National Office on Aging, according to the current development rate of population aging, by 2030, there will be more than 200 million empty nesters in China.
At present, although there are some popular blind date programs for the elderly in China, their radiation scope is limited after all; The elderly dating app that has been developed is also doing elderly dating with the thinking of young people, which is destined to be difficult to open the market. Therefore, while doing a good job in cyber security education for the elderly and avoiding emotional fraud, how to solve the emotional needs of the empty nesters is still an objective problem that requires the efforts of many parties. Overseas popular elderly marriage agencies, online and offline combination of dating**, may be a reference case.
The "compound metaphysics" that occurs among young people and the "'little three' separation" that occurs among middle-aged people not only reflect their inability to overcome their sense of loss and try to repair their emotions through money and external forces, but also conceal the discipline of traditional secular concepts. When browsing information related to "compound metaphysics", you can often see phrases such as "break up at an older age" and "his energy is higher than mine", many people are not only unwilling to love, but also because they think that they have reached the age when they should get married, and it is difficult to meet someone better than the other party, so they are in a hurry to redeem it.
Human fear of the unknown and uncertainty is also perpetuated and deepened in emotional relationships.
What kind of self should people keep in love? Lermontov may have given a good answer in the poem: a ship sails lonely on the sea, it neither seeks nor escapes happiness, it only sails forward, with the calm blue sea below and the golden sun overhead.