Making mistakes is inevitable for people, who can do nothing, and change it after that, and the good is great!
Our parents and friends often can't tolerate the most when children make mistakes.
In the first case, the child breaks your beloved object, and you are very distressed, and then you get angry and fight so that you will remember it for a long time, and you will never make such a mistake again. He doesn't know why you're thundering, because you haven't told him the value of this thing, and he doesn't know how precious it is, and he doesn't even know what it is, at least the preciousness in his eyes is not the same as what you see.
He may think that a one-dollar coin is valuable and precious, because a coin can shake an electric toy, but a hundred-dollar bill does not have such magical powers, although a paper bill can be exchanged for a hundred coins.
In the second case, the child makes a mistake in public, which makes you embarrassed, you feel embarrassed, and you want to find a crack in the ground to get into, and you are annoyed and angry, and you reprimand the child with your head and face, and even fists and kicks. In fact, many things are a matter in the eyes of adults, and children don't take it to heart at all.
For example, when two children fight, the adults feel embarrassed, and the children turn around and reconcile again. If there is an argument between adults at this time, the relationship is broken, or they punch and kick their own children, or even adults help their children do it, it is too boring. Do you remember how many fights you fought and how many punches and kicks you took when you were a child?
In the third case, there is no need. Originally, the child did not make a mistake, but it was only because you were in a bad mood at the time, or you only saw part of it, and misunderstood the child's original intention. You will also yell at the child, pull out the Chen sesame seeds for no reason, and count the child down.
The child was confused, and the second monk was confused, thinking that he would be appreciated and praised, but who knew that it was a basin of cold water, and he was a slap in the head. The child has been wronged in this way, and he will be forced to apologize to you and promise not to make mistakes again in the future.
There are n more scenarios.
In fact, isn't the process of children's growth coming step by step in making mistakes again and again? Who is not like that? It's just that we can't face the fame and fortune that we value, so we don't give up on our children, compared with the growth of our children, what are these fame and vanity?
Let's talk about the mistakes in the exam, every time the child takes the exam, it affects the fragile glass heart of the parents, and the child gets a full score, so he touches the child's head and says that the child is awesome; 99 points will attract your accusations, why don't you seriously review the question, just one point! 99 points and 100 points, just one point difference, is it really that important? Children need recognition and encouragement, and the point lost is the most valuable point in the exam, because it allows the child to see his own shortcomings.
I often tell my children that the results of the test are very important, but the important thing is not how many points you get, but how many points you lose, and the questions you get points for the questions you get will still score next time, but the questions that lose points may still lose points if you take the test again, so the questions that still lose points are more valuable.
Except, of course, for the fateful test. Getting a perfect score is the least valuable test, because the knowledge points examined are all familiar, and it is not too difficult for you. But some children need perfect marks to boost their confidence.
We face the wrong mentality, which determines our behavior, and how to cultivate depends on the parents, but the happiness of the child's life is hidden in your attitude.
How to educate children well has always been a big problem for parents, and there are many books on children's education on the market, most of which are too individual, too theoretical, and too little practical, and not easy to use.
Jane Nelson's "Positive Discipline" is very systematic, professional, and practical, and very easy to use. Personnel range from 3 years old to teenage children. Therefore, I recommend that both parents and teachers read this book, and your parent-child relationship will change a lot.
Several good friends around me bought this book to read and study, because after reading this book, their parent-child relationship and family atmosphere have changed a lot. Because of their recommendation, I bought this book, and after reading it, I was very enjoyable, so I was moved to write this short article and encourage you.
There is no parent who does not do his best for his children, but the best intentions do not necessarily bring the best results to their children." —Excerpt from Positive Discipline
Therefore, I advise you to read the book "Positive Discipline" carefully, because each of us has to deal with children and communicate with them throughout our lives, and we need lifelong learning, lifelong growth, and growth and progress with children.
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