In the face of unsatisfactory people and things, we often use two ways to solve them: internal and external, but which way is better?
Internal seeking is to seek oneself and seek the way or method of solving the problem from oneself. If you want to do well within, you must cultivate your mind, increase your mental strength, and become stronger, so that you can be comfortable with anyone and everything. External seeking is to find external resources to solve a problem. Although it is more practical and common to seek external relations in a relational society, relationships do not come out of thin air and need to be established and maintained by themselves.
Personally, I think that everything that affects your mood and brings pain should be begged from outside, for example: my mother's personality is used to his mouth like to talk, and it is useless for you to reason with him, at this time you have to ask outside, either stay away from her, or take a little action to make her behavior somewhat restrained. There is also school bullying: if a classmate at school bullies you, you have to ask for help from others, and if you ask inward, the person who bullied you will only get worse.
When to ask inward: metaphorically for a thing that has happened and the result is very bad, and there is no way to recover, at this time you have to ask for it, adjust your mentality, and go to the quagmire. There are also two lovers who have broken up, and you have to ask inward, so that you will grow and reflect, why did this relationship break up? The reason is in**? will meet the next better person.
So having said all this, it is not so rigid to seek from inside and outside, don't blindly seek from within, that is ignorance. Rather, it should be combined according to the occurrence of things, and I conclude that it is to seek happiness from suffering and seek happiness inside.