The object has not changed, but the likes and dislikes have changed

- Your own heart is the main cause of suffering.

You can also completely change your clothes for something else. For example, for someone, relationships are the key to happiness. We feel happy to see someone we like, and every time he or she appears in front of us, our hearts are happy and happy; But this person may not feel anything about some people, and some people may even hate him or her.

It can be seen that our likes and dislikes of people and things are subjective judgments in our hearts.

We know someone who at first is just a stranger and we may not care at all, but after a while he or she becomes our friend, we have no doubt that he or she is kind and lovely. If someone doubts him or her, we will defend him.

But after a while, the situation may change again. Maybe he or she is no longer doing what we want, or behaving in a nasty way, for whatever reason, he or she is now completely different, and all our old affection for him or her has been replaced by disgust, and the experience of getting along has changed from pleasure to pain.

So, it is easy to see clearly that the reason why we are disgusted and suffer is not necessarily because of any change in the object, but because of a change in our attitude.

Some people may disagree, saying, "That's because he or she changed first, so I changed." ”

Of course, people change, including you. Maybe you've been a fan of rice for a long time, but now you're eating pasta. What changed your preferences? Obviously, the change in preference has nothing to do with the object, because the food itself does not change. While we often think that the object itself is changing, the real reason is our change.

Another example, one day we were in a good mood and walked to the park and thought all the scenery was so beautiful; Another day, we were in a bad mood and walked to the park and felt that it was not beautiful. This shows that the beauty or non-beauty of the park is not determined by the external subject.

It is up to our hearts to love a new garment when we first get it, and to become bland after a while.

In the same way, we should all understand that the real cause of our anger lies in our hearts. Occasionally, we are on good terms with someone, but suddenly we think that they have done something that makes us hate or feel sorry for us, and the whole emotion comes up.

Sometimes, we are about to lose our temper with someone, but suddenly the thought that he or she used to be kind in the past flashes through our attitudes. When we remember what he or she has done for us, or the good things he or she has done to us, the feeling of hatred disappears.

In different states of mind, we see the same people and things, but they show different faces.

Most of us have been in this situation at one time or another: some people go crazy and lose control over a small matter, while others are calm and patient. It follows that what happens around us is far less important than our own reactions.

If you know what the mind is and how it works, the next time, when someone or something disgusts you and makes you feel angry, you won't blame someone again and again. You have to understand that your own heart is the main cause of suffering, and the other person is only the secondary cause.

Have you ever observed that the external environment changes according to your state of mind?

You can think back, when you were in a good mood, was there anything that made you feel pleasing to the eye? Even if something happens then, you probably won't care. However, if the same situation happens when you're in a bad mood, the result is completely different.

Everyone looks at others and things subjectively. The object being looked at is just a screen, and when you like it, what you see is an image; When you're disgusted, you'll see a different image entirely. The same screen, but the projection is different.

You don't see it, it's because you've been deceived by your likes and dislikes, blinded by your own attachments.