Let's take a look at today's topic:Is your relationship over? Is there any possibility of continuing?
Here from left to right are the first group, the second group, and the third group. Now let's calm down together, think about that person, and today's topic, and choose the group you feel the most from these three groups.
Okay, have you made your choice? So let's start with the first group.
From my point of view, the other party has brought you harm, how to say, I think he doesn't care about you so much in the process of getting along with you. He is more concerned about his own feelings and may inadvertently hurt you. I don't feel that he has a deep love for you, and when he is with you, he may think that you are not doing well here, not doing well there, and is always very picky.
I think you are still too dependent on the other party, even if you are hurt by the other party, you have to bear it silently. When you think of each other, you always think about those happy times in the past, hoping that your relationship will go back to the past and will slowly get better. But you're always accommodating to each other, in a very low posture. Maybe you don't know why this is happening now, and in the end, all these accommodations of yours make him hurt you more brazenly. He may feel that you will not leave him no matter what he says or does, and he is increasingly inconsiderate of your feelings.
I see that he is a very face-conscious person, and under the influence of various factors, your position in his heart is not as important as before. Maybe you have limited help for him in life and work, especially financially, and you may need him to bear the burden for you. These are the things that he feels dissatisfied with, maybe in his heart, those flashes of your past have disappeared, or they have been worn out. So on the whole, even if your relationship is not over, emotionally the relationship is nearing its end.
Then I would say that what you have to do now is to focus on yourself and improve yourself. Maybe in this relationship, you really attach too much importance to him, and even want to live with each other in some ways. But this is really not going to work, and you will find that there seems to be an obstacle between you that cannot be overcome, and the distance between the two of you is getting farther and farther apart. So we still have to re-understand ourselves and find our true selves.
Maybe we still have to learn to let go and let go of those obsessions with the past, instead of being overly dependent on others. Find the direction of your life, pursue your passion for your career, and discover your own shining point. Of course, this does not mean that we should completely give up the pursuit of feelings, but to treat feelings with a more mature and rational attitude. Don't pin all your expectations and happiness on the other person.
You must know how to love and respect yourself, first make yourself more independent or autonomous, become a more attractive person, and attract more suitable people and things into your life. When we deal with relationships, although we sometimes face the dilemma of breaking up, we still hope that everyone can look at it rationally. There are many other good things in life, don't limit yourself to a relationship, learn to face up to what is happening now, don't run away, respect your choices and take responsibility for your decisions.
In a relationship, there is really no need to compromise. You must believe that you deserve a better future and happiness. It may not be as good as the message is conveyed to us right now, but it is also a reminder to be brave and not to be overly dependent on others. Pay more attention to our own growth and development, so that our future will be brighter.
With this group of friends, your current relationship is at a critical juncture, and it may seem like you're on the verge of ending. Then I see ah, especially for some friends who are in the midst of disconnection, you are very helpless, it may be a practical problem, or a problem of distance, your communication is getting less and less, but you don't have a good way to solve it.
The feeling of unrest in your heart is slowly emerging, and you begin to wonder if the other person is sincere about you. In this process, although you will be concerned about each other, you can't see it on the surface, you are still deliberately controlling your emotions and state. Maybe you will tell yourself to be sensible, and if the other person doesn't come to you, then you won't go to him. In fact, these are your disguises, you are very confused in your heart, and I hope that the other party can be more proactive in this way.
But in reality, the other party is not as active as you think, and all the current feeling is that the distance between the two of you is getting stronger and stronger, and I don't know how to continue. It's really embarrassing now, but I want to say, just look at it here, you still have room for each other, but you haven't acted all the time, and the energy of compounding is slowly fading between you. Maybe you or the other party has a better choice, and it is very likely that you will let go of the other person and choose someone else who you feel is better.
But if you really want to save the relationship with the other person, maybe you need to make some major challenges in the future, maybe you have to let go of some things that are important to you, maybe you will be afraid and confused, this is a very difficult process, it depends on whether you are willing to pay, then your relationship is still possible to repair. But if you don't feel as invested in the relationship and don't have that deep feelings, let's be honest, letting go might be a better option.
Maybe the two of you really lack that kind of commonality, so it feels like the relationship will be unbalanced. On the other hand, your current thoughts and expectations do not match the relationship, or do not match the actual situation, which will lead to problems between you. If you can recognize this and make changes, it can help you avoid similar problems in your relationship later on. In any case, these are things that you need to think about and deal with.
I would like to say that the current situation is only a temporary dilemma, and we can actively look for solutions. Sometimes, an opportunity arises to help you maintain the relationship, or to regain the lost connection. Listen to your own voice and don't let outside pressures and ideas dictate your decisions. Everyone has their own feelings and choices, as long as you really think clearly about what you want, you must see the road ahead.
I don't think the relationship between you has come to an end. In this relationship, he is actually not willing to cause you too much harm, and the decisions he makes are more out of desperation. He doesn't really want to end the relationship with you, maybe because your relationship has affected his life or family, causing him to suddenly withdraw from the relationship, which makes you feel confused and helpless.
But deep down, he doesn't really want to leave you, and there may be friends whose relationship is not public, so he can't choose you firmly. Although He can give you some care and attention, and even help you on a material level, you have to understand that there is a limit to what He can give you. After he weighs it in his heart, he can only provide you with a certain degree of giving, and once faced with a realistic choice, it is unlikely that he will put you in the first place.
So now, there will be some changes in your relationship, maybe because of some unexpected circumstances or other reasons, he will choose to keep a certain distance from you. But this is also temporary, this person will come to you in the future, and it feels like your relationship has not really ended, but only temporarily separated for some practical reasons.
He may choose to keep a certain distance from you because of some practical problems, but that doesn't mean that he doesn't have feelings for you. In fact, he himself knows that he is wrong in dealing with you, and is even willing to make amends. So even though the current situation doesn't seem good, he hasn't lost much affection for you, and he won't forget you. Then we have to remember that his contribution to you is limited, and you still have to look at this relationship rationally, and don't have too many or too high expectations.
If possible, I suggest that you still have a communication with him, to understand his real thoughts and feelings, and then decide whether to continue the relationship or not. If you can't continue, or if you're really disappointed, I hope you can look forward and find your happiness again. Everyone experiences their own particularity, whether it is continued or ended, recognize the reality clearly, and accept the reality, so as not to let yourself fall deeper and farther.
Okay, that's all for today, I hope it can help you, thank you for your support, and we'll see you next time, bye.