February** Dynamic Incentive Program
In the summer of 2011, my daughter graduated from the kindergarten class, and in order to pass this long and monotonous holiday life, I compared several holiday tutoring classes with my wife on the street, and also combined with the child's hobbies, so I enrolled her in a painting class. Through a month of study, my daughter has improved her painting skills and also enhanced her awareness of pocket money.
When my daughter used to go to kindergarten, there were no snacks sold in the park, and she didn't usually mention pocket money. My wife and I are also very strict about our daughter's snacking, so she didn't get into the habit of snacking. But I don't know who set up a stall in the painting class, and my daughter can't resist the ** of "food", so it has gradually become a habit to ask for pocket money before going to the painting class every day, although I also keep telling her about the dangers of junk food.
The holidays are over, the children should go to elementary school, and the first problem in front of my wife and I is the problem of the children's pocket money. Give it, let my daughter eat junk food every day and worry about her body; Don't give it, thinking that the child sees that other classmates have snacks to eat every day and can't eat themselves, will there be any problems in the heart after a long time, and we didn't eat less junk food when we were children, and now our bodies don't feel bad. This question is very headache and contradictory, and it has made me struggle for a while.
After many discussions with my wife, after repeated consideration, combined with the actual situation, it was decided: give, but to set a system: spend a total of 2 yuan for five days a week, only 5 jiao a day, one day can not ask for pocket money, as for which day is up to the child to decide. After we agreed, we called my daughter over to announce the decision to her, and my daughter expressed her inner dissatisfaction with her eyes after listening to this almost "cruel" decision, but my daughter seemed to feel that it was useless to resist, so I basically agreed, that is, I was very conflicted about choosing which day not to have pocket money, and I was also as entangled as me, and I wrenched my fingers from the week.
1. Tuesday was counted all the way to Friday, then counted backwards again, and finally decided not to spend pocket money on Thursday. After a long time, our daughter and I implemented this system very well, although sometimes her grandfather and grandmother couldn't stand the hard grinding and begging, and occasionally made an exception a few times...
One day, I called my child to me after she finished her homework and asked, "Girl, now you spend 5 jiao a day, if I give you 6 yuan, how many days can you spend?" My daughter began to think about it, and I thought that when she couldn't answer, I would educate her about the dangers of snacking. Just when I was thinking about how to turn profound truths into simple language for children to understand, my daughter told me that the answer was 12 days, and I was amazed and asked, "What do you think?" The child replied: "6 yuan is 6 1 yuan, I first take out 1 5 jiao from each 1 yuan, spend 6 days first, then spend the remaining 5 jiao, and it can take 6 days, which is 12 days in total." "My wife and I were completely speechless. I could never have imagined how a child who had just entered the first grade could have such a mindset, not only answering the questions correctly, but also thinking clearly and organically. My wife and I both taught senior math classes, and we both tried to use mathematical methods to analyze the children's ideas and find out the basis and methods of the children's problem solving, but we couldn't explain it clearly. In this way, a carefully planned ideological and political education class ended in shock for my wife and me. So, everything is business as usual, and the system is still being implemented.
Daughter, Mom and Dad want to tell you that we really love you, but we will never indulge you. We hope that you will develop good habits from an early age, and it doesn't matter what this or that family you become when you grow up, we just hope that you can grow up healthy and happy under our care!