What does a happy marriage really look like? It doesn't have a fixed template, and no matter how much chicken soup you drink, it's not as good as real life.
Recently, I went online and saw Guo Xiaodong and Cheng Lisha during the New Year. Both of them are stars, but standing in this small rural courtyard, they are so harmonious.
The yellow earth, red brick walls, and old-fashioned glass windows of the small courtyard in rural Shandong reflect the two people dressed in redThere is a kind of prosperity, down-to-earth, and steady happiness.
Guo Xiaodong's hometown is in Dafangqian Village, Fangqian Town, Junan County, Linyi, Shandong. He was born and grew up in Sri Lanka, which is the root of his life and the place where his youthful dreams were born.
I once said that Guo Xiaodong is very much like a realistic version"Sun Shaoping".。Then this village is for Guo Xiaodong, it is Sun Shaoping's dear Shuangshui Village. It was his deep nostalgia and lifelong longing.
Cheng Lisha is the opposite, she is a standard urban coquette. But because of love, she also has a connection with this land. And their 14-year-old son. It is rare that the two can take their son back to their hometown, and their son is willing to go back together.
To be honest, today's children are used to living in the city, and not many are willing to return to their hometown. I understand, but I also have some regretsSometimes what can't be returned is not only the seemingly simple courtyard, but also a kind of family affection and the root of life.
Guo Xiaodong and Cheng Lisha, standard".A big straight man, a small wife”。Not only did they come together, but they have also been happy for so many years, creating a set of happiness templates that belong to them.
Guo Xiaodong was born in 1974 and is just 50 years old this year.
Today's rural young people may never be able to understand the desire of the post-70s generation to jump out of the farm, out of the yellow earth, and change their life destiny through entrance examinations.
In the 70s, there were not many ways out in the countryside, and if you didn't go to school, you could only farm, and there were no large machinery for farming, and it was purely physical and very hard. If you don't want to face the loess with your back to the sky, you have to grit your teeth and study hard and jump out of the farm.
Guo Xiaodong's family was poor when he was a child, and the pants he wore were often patched, and he grew up with self-esteem, and his only wish was that his mother could sew him more carefully when he sewed patches, and the patches were closer to the color of the pants.
When I was in the second year of junior high school, because of the tuition fee of 34 yuan, my father was worried for several days, and he ran to the east and borrowed from the west, but he still didn't borrow enough. At that time, everyone lived a poor life, and few families had spare money. The father sighed and said, "I'll borrow it again tomorrow!"
Guo Xiaodong stopped it. He decided to drop out of school and stop attending.
He gave up his studies and went to work in the county seat. I have worked as a waiter and a construction worker. I've slept on a park bench and spent the night in the stairwell of someone else's house.
If it goes on like this, he may also become what Tian Xiaoxia worries about Sun Shaoping in "Ordinary World":
One day, I gave up the broader spiritual world and the pursuit of my dreams, and then got married early, took a child to the street, and by the way, I saw if there were any cheap pig babies.
When he was 18 years old, Guo Xiaodong accidentally saw a magazine that changed the direction of his life.
That day, Guo Xiaodong accidentally saw a magazine with the news that the Beijing Film Academy was holding a summer camp.
Maybe it was curiosity about the performance, maybe it was the desire for the wonderful world outside, he suddenly wanted to participate, so he signed up without hesitation and went to Beijing.
The summer camp lasted for half a month, Guo Xiaodong visited the Beijing Film Studio, and also preliminarily learned some acting courses. He decided to stay in Beijing and take the Beiying exam. But he didn't graduate from junior high school, so how could he be so good at taking the exam.
In the first year of 1993, he didn't even pass the first exam, and he only had 30 yuan left in his pocket. But he didn't give up, and while continuing to prepare for the exam, he was looking for a place to earn living expenses. When I was the poorest, I ate a pack of instant noodles for 3 days and woke up hungry in the middle of the night.
Another time, he went out to take the bus with only two cents in his pocket. When he went, the ticket was a dime, and he thought that the return fare was the same, but when he came back, he knew that the return ticket was two cents.
Guo Xiaodong is making a difficulty, where to get this missing dime? The conductor thought he was deliberately evading the ticket, and was so angry that he accused him in public, and Guo Xiaodong felt deeply ashamed. Fortunately, a kind passenger helped him out of the siege and helped him out of the dime.
In 1996, Guo Xiaodong applied for the exam again, and this time he finally succeeded. However, the tuition fee of art colleges is high, and the tuition fee of 10,000 yuan makes his heart heavy and overwhelms the joy of being admitted.
10,000 yuan in 1996 was almost astronomical for a peasant family. I was admitted to a medical secondary school in the 90s, and the tuition fee for three years was 1800, which I felt a lot at that time.
The simple parents gave Guo Xiaodong the greatest support. They went door to door to borrow everything they could, and their kind relatives, friends and neighbors also reached out to help, and finally managed to pay for the tuition.
When paying the tuition, Guo Xiaodong took out all his big pocket of dimes, and the charging teacher looked at him silently and counted for a long time.
Interestingly, Guo Xiaodong studied and became famous later."Beiying 96 star class”。Chen Kun, Huang Xiaoming, and Zhao Wei are all classmates in this class.
The head teacher, Cui Xinqin, is very caring, and the class fee of 2,000 yuan per year in the class, she asked everyone not to tell Guo Xiaodong, and she also stipulated that when she came to the class to shoot advertisements, she must bring Guo Xiaodong with her, so that he could have some income.
In this context, Guo Xiaodong grew up step by step, although he was not as popular as Zhao Wei Xiaoming and so early and so fast, but he worked steadily and steadily, and every step was very down-to-earth, creating his own excellence.
In 2000, Guo Xiaodong met Cheng Lisha while filming.
Cheng Lisha is 3 years younger than him, a native of Wuhan, a delicate girl in the city, her parents are civil servants, and she was successfully admitted to the drama again, and her growth is very smooth.
But the relationship is so magical, Cheng Lisha, a city girl, fell in love with Guo Xiaodong from the countryside at first sight, and she liked him so much.
This silhouette is not very dramatic.
Guo Xiaodong also loves Cheng Lisha, but he has low self-esteem in his heart, feels that the gap between the two is too big, and is worried that he can't give her a good life.
The two are divided and combined, and Cheng Lisha often has to take the initiative. Fortunately, at the critical moment, Guo Xiaodong finally showed the momentum of a man and took the initiative to propose, and the two still came together. has been married for more than ten years, and has always been happy and loving.
Guo Xiaodong is a straight man and has shortcomings, but the advantages are also obvious.
Simple, sincere, hard-working, reliable, and family-oriented. has come all the way from the bottom, knows how to cherish and be grateful, is in the big dye vat of the entertainment industry, always cleans herself, and spoils Cheng Lisha in her own way, giving her the greatest sense of security.
Some people say that he is "soil", but soil is also the foundation of life, and it is the most down-to-earth and down-to-earth thing. The most valuable thing about Guo Xiaodong is that he always sees the thick warmth in the difficulty of growing up.
His kind father and mother, his simple villagers, his teachers and classmates, he always had simple gratitude.
Others always want to get rid of the "rustic" and become "foreign", but he always remembers this "soil" in his life and never forgets his roots.
Cheng Lisha is also quite smart, knows what she wants, and can grasp the big and let go of the small. seems to be based on Guo Xiaodong in everything, but in fact, she is the backbone, which is called "four or two thousand catties".
seems to be a "love brain", but in fact, it is quite assertive and has a strong ego: I will do it if I like it, and I will chase it if I love it. She loves Guo Xiaodong more than her son.
Guo Xiaodong is a straight man and is not good at expression, but Cheng Lisha is good at expressing it, and even the first kiss when she is in love is her initiative.
She also likes to be coquettish, and if she doesn't agree, she will tell her husband to drill into his arms, Guo Xiaodong seems embarrassed, but in fact, she can eat her.
When people who love each other come together, it is the greatest victory. Big straight men and little wives, they have been happy for more than ten years, and they will be happy in the future!
I'm Luo Hongchen, welcome to pay attention!