List of high-quality authors Son-in-law: If you don't sell your old house, don't let me support my old age, father-in-law: I'm old, but I'm not afraid.
As people get older, one of the biggest concerns is pension. With the gradual decline of physical functioning, as well as the psychological loneliness, the elderly are eager to be able to live a happy old age.
There are many ways to care for the elderly, such as hiring a nanny, living in a nursing home, choosing a community for the elderly, or relying on children to care for them. However, in the current situation, the ideal way to provide for the elderly is still to rely on children. Because no one can compare to the careful care of the elderly by their relatives, living with their children is also the moment when the elderly can feel the most happy.
However, a major obstacle to relying on children for the elderly is that sons or daughters may accept the elderly, but daughters-in-law or sons-in-law may not.
Uncle Zhou, an old man who has passed the age of six, hopes to go to his daughter's house for the elderly because of his physical inconvenience. However, the son-in-law put forward a series of difficult conditions, and Uncle Zhou could only go to his daughter's house if he agreed.
One of the conditions made Uncle Zhou feel very hesitant, that is, he was required to ** his own real estate and hand over his deposit and salary card. Although the son-in-law said dissatisfiedly: "If you don't sell the old house, don't think about coming over and letting me support you!" But Uncle Zhou still insisted on his position: "Although I am old, I am not afraid. ”
Hello everyone, I am Lao Zhou, an old man who receives a pension of 4,800 yuan a month, although he owns real estate and savings, he still lives an unsatisfactory life in his old age.
When I was younger, I was an employee of a state-owned enterprise. Since I started working late and got married late, my wife and I only have one daughter.
In the past, our family of three lived happily. Since my wife and I both have jobs and only one daughter, our material life is relatively good, and we have been living a well-off life.
We have carefully nurtured our daughter, provided her with good living conditions since she was a child, and rarely let her do housework. We also enrolled her in various extracurricular training courses.
My daughter is also very competitive, she has excelled in her studies since she was a child, entered a key middle school, and later was admitted to a key university, and was successfully employed after graduation.
As my daughter grew up, my wife and I grew older and began to care about our daughter's marriage. When her daughter was 26 years old, she married a young man two years older than her.
At that time, the son-in-law's family was not wealthy, he lived in an old house, and his economic conditions were not very good. Therefore, I did not ask my son-in-law to give us a bride price, I only hoped that he would treat my daughter well.
Considering our son-in-law's financial situation, we decided to gift them the new house we bought in middle age because we had already paid off the loan and could move in directly.
Over the years, my wife and I have been very good to our son-in-law, without asking too much, and even lending him money to do business. I jokingly told my son-in-law that in the future, when I am old and have limited mobility, I hope he will take care of us.
When my son-in-law smiled and said that I could support my old age, I was only 60 years old, my body was still very strong, and my wife was always by my side. I didn't worry about pensioning.
However, life is often not as it should be. My wife died when I was 63 years old.
After losing my wife, I often felt lonely and helpless. Living alone, cooking, and living like a year, I don't even have a partner to talk to.
Luckily, I was still strong enough to go out and practice tai chi and climb and fish.
However, at the age of 67, I broke a bone at the base of my thigh while climbing a mountain, causing me to limp and unable to do many things.
Last winter, I had a cold and fever alone and was very uncomfortable. In a daze, I decided to call ** to my daughter.
When my daughter heard the news, she immediately came to pick me up. After two days of infusion** in the hospital, the doctor advised me that I would need someone to take care of me for a month.
My daughter took me to their house for a while. At my daughter's house, I feel happy, with my relatives and able to play with my grandson.
My daughter's home is nice, with lots of light, beautiful surroundings and many parks. Bask in the sun every day and live a comfortable life.
After a month of staying, I really don't want to go back. I feel satisfied when I think that my daughter's house was given to her and her son-in-law.
When I proposed the idea of living with my daughter and son-in-law, my daughter readily agreed, saying that there was no problem. I used to get along well with my son-in-law, and I felt that if I asked him for retirement, it shouldn't be too much of a problem, which was a kind of reward for me.
Later, I expressed to my daughter and son-in-law that I wanted to move in with them. My daughter gladly accepted and said she was always ready to welcome me. And when I proposed this idea to my son-in-law, he was a little stunned at first, then reluctantly smiled and said, "Of course, you can come, you are always welcome." ”
However, to my surprise, when I officially moved in and settled down, my son-in-law's attitude began to change. On the first night of moving in, he prepared a good wine and a hearty meal to welcome me. After we had our fill of wine and food, we sat down together to make tea and chat. However, in the course of the conversation, the son-in-law made some conditions that surprised me.
When I was younger, I was a skilled worker and didn't care much about my image. My son-in-law reminded me that it is good to take a shower and change clothes frequently, and I am acceptable and willing to improve.
However, he sometimes interferes too much in our husband and wife's lives, chattering endlessly, and always meddles in things. I agree with the need to be moderate and not to meddle too much in their affairs. I live with my daughter and son-in-law, respect their living space, and keep quiet after eating.
As for the issue of handing in the salary card, I feel that I have some concerns. After all, money is an important resource for adults, and giving it all to my son-in-law may put me in a passivity situation. However, considering that the cost of living in my son-in-law's house has increased, I am willing to pay part of my pension and leave only the necessary living expenses.
As for the last point, my son-in-law suggested selling the old house, which I was firmly opposed. That house has been a place for my wife and me for many years, and although the city center location is old, the surrounding primary schools and neighborhoods are in good condition. I was worried that if I sold it, I might be kicked out of the house by my son-in-law in the future, and I had nowhere to go. For me, this is unacceptable.
The son-in-law may be upset by my refusal, and he wants to sell the house to his sister so that her children can study there. He may think that he can afford my retirement after selling the house, but I still insist on keeping this foundation, after all, the uncertainty of the future is difficult for me to accept.
Despite my old age, I knew how important this old house was to me, so I decided to defend it tenaciously and never let it go no matter what.
After many requests, my son-in-law suddenly became angry and threatened me, saying that if I did not agree to sell the old house, I should not expect him to provide for me.
When I heard my son-in-law's threat, I cheered up. I've been a laborer all my life, and I'm a hard-boned person, and being scared by my son-in-law wasn't enough to make me succumb.
I stood up and said firmly, "Yes, I'm old, but I'm not afraid." I don't need you to provide for my old age, I can take care of myself. ”
After saying this, I packed up and went home, and decided not to go to my daughter's house again.
Now, it's fine for me to be home alone. I spent a little more time in the community, cooked my own food, and lived a simple and happy life on my own. I don't want to be wronged by other people's requests.