in peoplelifeMarriage is a very important thing. However, sometimes people do not have a deep understanding of each other's details before getting married, which leads to various problems and conflicts after marriage. Therefore, as parents, we should help our children understand the following three details so that they can be preventedMarriageLosses and regrets.
No matter how beautiful love is, money is the supportMarriageimportant factors. MarriageA large part of the contradiction is becauseEconomyThe problem is raised. Therefore, it is necessary to understand each other before marriageEconomyVery important. EconomyIt can be viewed from four aspects: what parents give, what is hard-earned, what is made of wisdom and what is illegal.
The money given by the parents is inUniversityoften appears. Some people will be attracted to rich lovers and think that they have found a rich second generation. However, once leftUniversity, the parents cut off the supply, can they earn a lot of money on their own to maintain luxurylifeThis? Even if the parents continue to provide for it, it may develop the habit of being a loser. When a parent dies, the family is in trouble.
Hard-earned money is not sustainable. After the age of fifty, it becomes difficult to rely on manual labor. lifeIt is difficult to reach the ideal level of state.
Wisdom is a more reliable way. As suchMenciusSaid: "Those who work hard govern people."LaborHe is governed by man. Those who govern eat people, and those who govern eat people, and the common meaning of the world is also. "This kind of wisdom turns money into ** is good.
Illegal ways should be resolutely avoided. Once anyone uses the stolen money, his character is very bad, and he should even report to the police in time.
Therefore, when we choose a partner, we do not necessarily look for the rich second generation, but to look for a poor boy with ideals and backbone. People who are skilled and good at learning will develop better in the future and will also make more money. Find one that hasEconomy** The companion is to avoid for a lifetimelifeWorry.
With the development of the times, the ways to support parents have become diverse. ElderlylifeThere is no longer a single way. Some elderly people live on savings and pensions, while others rely on odd jobs to make ends meet. Others rely on child support.
DifferentRetirementThe way it will directly affect the childMarriageQuality. IfRetirementIf there is difficulty, it will increase the burden on the children. In some families, parents are always dependent on their children, which puts a lot of pressure on their children. And in some families, the parents live wealthylife, children'sMarriageIt will also be relatively easy.
Therefore, when choosing a partner, it is best to know the other parent'sRetirementManner. And, as a daughter-in-law, you should hope that your in-laws can think about the long-term and don't always rely on your children's help. If the in-laws always favor women over men, then you can't blame the daughter-in-law for being polite. Daughter-in-law forEconomyIn-laws with poor conditions will be biased, while parents with pensions, houses and savings are more popular.
Therefore, relatedRetirementThe problem needs to be communicated and understood in advance. Children should also respect their parents' decisions and do their part to maintain the happiness and stability of the family.
HealthIt is the greatest wealth in life, one person is sick, and the whole family is uncomfortable. InMarriageif a family member'sHealthIf the condition is not good, it will not only increaseEconomyburden, but also affect the children and grandchildrenHealthand happiness.
Therefore, before getting married, get to know each other's family membersHealthThe situation is very important. It can be done before marriageHealthCheck and learn more about each other's grandparentsHealthsituation to assess the risk. If the other family has a hereditary disease or has a long-term problemChronic diseasesneed to consider whether you can accept and bear the relevant responsibilities.
In addition, it is also necessary to take into account the other party's familyRetirementIssue. Once the other party's family exists notHealthof the elders, then extra energy and money may be needed to take care of them after marriage. This is for both sideslifeand career will bring a certain amount of pressure.
To sum up, as parents, we should help our children understand each otherEconomy**, parents'Retirementway as well as family membersHealthState. Only on the basis of sufficient knowledge can they make sensibleMarriageChoose, to avoid all kinds of problems and contradictions after marriage. In the same way, as children, we should take the initiative to understand and care about these issues and make the best decisions for the future of ourselves and our families.