At the beginning of the new year, there is one place that is overcrowded and has a long queue, and that is the Civil Affairs Bureau. Civil affairs bureaus across the country ushered in a wave of "divorce waves". On the first day of work after the New Year, couples queuing up for divorce even blocked the gate of the Civil Affairs Bureau.
Watching the marriages of these couples come to such an unfortunate point, we can't help but ask, why is the marriage that once supported each other and said that it was good to grow old is so fragile? After the year, the civil affairs bureaus in various places were overcrowded, and for a time they became the busiest units. This has led people to think: marriage is not easy, but it is done and cherished. It also reflects that happy families are all similar, while unhappy families have their own misfortunes.
Internet**. Why is a good year a high incidence of divorce?
In fact, it is not a good year that divorce is a high incidence period, and in the process of marriage, every couple will have countless thoughts of divorce.
Some marriages just don't want their children to be pitiful, and they endure it again and again in order to let their children have a complete home, and they put it off again and again, and every day counts as a day.
It's just that the New Year is over, and the divorce is concentrated in this time period, which also reflects this problem.
The Spring Festival is a festival of family reunion, the husband and wife are already full of contradictions, and the Spring Festival holiday and live together for a long time, so that the usually unbearable contradictions and small frictions are magnified unlimitedly like a demon mirror.
Looking back, it is actually a divorce caused by some minor living habits, personality conflicts, and even attitudes towards trivial family matters.
Let me tell you my story!
I am married to a husband who is not wealthy, but he is more considerate, although we often quarrel with each other, but we will be happy during the New Year's holidays. Because everyone wants to be happy during the New Year's holidays. But it always backfires.
After my husband and I got married, because of the different regions, the language is different, the lifestyle is different, and the diet is also different......In the past, I thought that since I chose to be with him, I had to adapt to his life, tolerate each other, and understand each other.
Until one day, a friend said that their family overturned the table for the New Year, and the parents had a fierce quarrel, and no one let anyone, just because the dishes fried by my mother were too salty and spicy, which was really unbelievable and speechless! I can't understand why I want to lift the table at all, not to mention the New Year, even if I usually lift the table, it is very suffocating!
My husband and I are from Jiangsu, Chongqing, one likes sweet and the other likes spicy, and the Chinese New Year is not the same cooking. I told my husband that two people need to tolerate each other, understand each other, and adapt to each other's tastes.
He replied, "Why don't we need to be tolerant and understand each other, why don't I have to adapt to your taste", I suddenly woke up, yes, our marriage has always been only me tolerating, I am adapting to him, I have been wronging myself and fulfilling each other.
When pregnant
Because of the first pregnancy, short and too big a belly, it is difficult to have a normal birth, and most women will have a sense of fear in the face of a caesarean section.
On the day of admission, he signed and the doctor informed him of the risks. I told me my fear, thinking he would comfort me. Who knew that there was no comfort, and he came and said, "What are you afraid of, what woman doesn't have children?" ”
I clearly remember that tears flowed out at that time, and I felt that this was not what a husband should say.
At that time, I decided that when the child was born, I had to divorce ......
The first year after the birth of the child
Because the child recognizes his birth, if he can't see his mother for a while, his throat will be hoarse from crying.
But the child's father and mother-in-law don't say a word, you accompany the child, let's cook the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner!
At that moment, I was thinking, when the year is over, let's get a divorce......
During the Chinese New Year, there are many people, many things, and more contradictions. How many seemingly beautiful marriages can immediately show their original shape in a year.
The Chinese New Year is like a mirror of marriage, reflecting the true face of every relationship.
Internet**. In "New Marriage Era", the performances of Liu Ruoying, Mei Ting and Guo Xiaodong are deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. This TV series not only shows the sweetness and bitterness of marriage, but also reveals the family conflicts and pressures during the Chinese New Year, which is thought-provoking.
In the play, the Spring Festival is approaching, He Jianguo's father called him to take Xiaoxi, who had just gotten married, back to his hometown for the New Year, Jianguo also felt that he hadn't been back to his hometown for several years, but Xiaoxi felt frightened when he remembered the scene in his hometown before, and resolutely refused to go. Jianguo felt that Konishi was not very popular, and the two had a cold war.
Under the persuasion of Konishi's parents, Konishi reluctantly compromised, and Jianguo was very happy.
Back in the countryside, in order to take care of Jianguo's face, Xiaoxi tried his best to imitate the rural daughter-in-law waiting for a man, and Jianguo also yelled at her in front of outsiders. But she has never done housework in the city, and now she is like a little maid in her husband's house, called by her elders. When the men were talking, she was busy with housework for the day but she was not qualified to go to the table, just because she was a woman.
Although Konishi tried his best to adapt to the local customs, he was unable to adapt to the harsh living conditions of the local area, and suddenly fell ill. And the careless Jianguo, in order to show his masculinity in front of his relatives and neighbors, completely ignored Konishi's emotions, and even she was sick but didn't know at all, Konishi was chilled and left his hometown ahead of schedule.
People's hearts are not cold for a day. Similar contradictions accumulate day by day, and you can't change the concept of others, you can only change yourself. In the end, Konishi was disheartened and had to choose divorce in this unfair marriage.
In fact, whether it is on TV or in reality, there are many similar scenarios:
When the woman came home for the New Year, she cleaned up and washed the clothes piled up by the old people in the family one after another. I feel like these are deliberately left for women who are out to go home to do it. When eating, women are busy cooking in the kitchen, while men are mostly in the living room with their children eating melon seeds, or watching TV and playing games. When the meal was ready, the men gathered around the table and began to eat, drink, and chat, while the women were still busy in the kitchen, unable to move their bowls to eat, despite all the exhaustion and hunger that came their way. When the men are full of food and drink, and go out for a walk, the women start to move the bowls.
Internet**. You earn money to support your family, I protect the warm home, we share each other's burdens, and create a happy life together.
Your heart is full of me, my eyes are full of children, we rely on each other, support each other, and experience the ups and downs of life together. You are my day and my child's day, sheltering us from the wind and rain, while my child and I are your home, providing you with warmth and strength.
For the rest of our lives, we will understand each other's hard work and dedication, and share the joys and sorrows of life together. Marriage is not a simple matter of consideration and demand, but a deep relationship based on mutual respect, tolerance and understanding.
We achieve each other, grow together, and weave a better future for us with love.