We have all had the experience of having a conflict with a friend who was once close for some reason, and then we never got in touch again. Maybe it's because of a word, an event, a misunderstanding, or a quarrel that leads to the breakdown of friendship. At that time, we may feel that we are right, or that the other party is unforgivable, or that both parties are unwilling to compromise and communicate, so we choose to be indifferent and distant.
But when time passes, do we regret our decision? Do we think of that friend, of the happy times we spent together, of those shared memories and feelings? Do we feel that if we had been more tolerant, more understanding, and more communicative at that time, maybe we would not have lost that friend?
In fact, everyone has their own personality, opinions, and emotions, and sometimes, when we and our friends think and practice differently, there will be disagreements and frictions. This is quite normal because no one is perfect and no one can always live in harmony. However, this does not mean that we should give up friendship with friends, because friendship is a precious emotion that can bring us support, comfort, and happiness. We should cherish and preserve our friendship, not simply cut it off.
Of course, there are times when we break up with our friends, for example, when a friend betrays us, hurts us, or does something that goes against our values and principles, we may no longer be able to trust and forgive them. In this case, we don't have to force ourselves to reconcile, because some injuries are irreparable, and some rifts are irreparable. We can only accept the facts, let go of the past, and move on.
But if we break up with our friends just because of some small things, some misunderstandings, or some emotional catharsis, should we give ourselves and each other another chance? Should we reach out to each other to apologize or explain? Should we try to understand and forgive each other, and rebuild and restore friendships?
I think the answer to this question is known only to us. Everyone's perception and attitude towards friendship is different, and some people feel that once they fall out with their friends, they will not reconcile again, because they feel that it is an insistence on their own dignity and principles, as well as a punishment and revenge for the other person. Some people feel that falling out with friends is a temporary emotional out-of-control, and as long as both parties are willing, they can become friends again, because they feel that it is a kind of tolerance and consideration for themselves and the other party, and it is also a kind of cherishing and valuing friendship.
No matter what kind of person we are, we should ask ourselves, when we have a falling out with a friend because of a falling out and no longer contacting each other, do we also regret it? If so, should we do something to redeem that friendship? If not, can we really let go of that friend and stop missing it?
Friendship is an emotion that needs to be paid and maintained by both parties, it is not a thing that is taken for granted, nor is it something that can be discarded at will. We should cherish each of our friends and should respect our every choice. When we fall out with a friend and no longer keep in touch, we should think clearly about whether this is the outcome we really want, whether this is a decision that is beneficial to us and the other person. If it is, we will stick to it, if not, we will change it, because there are some friendships that are worth saving.