The Chinese New Year is a festival of reunion and joy for many people, but for some single young people, it is a torment and embarrassing test. Because, they inevitably have to face the urging of relatives to get married, and hear all kinds of questions and suggestions, such as "When are you going to get married?" Do you have a partner? ", you have to hurry, don't delay yourself", "I'll introduce you to one, it's very good", and so on. These words sound nothing more than concern and kindness, but for single young people, it is a kind of pressure and trouble, making them feel uncomfortable and helpless.
So, in the face of these marriage urges, how should we respond? Are there ways we can protect our dignity and privacy without hurting the feelings of our relatives? Below, I will share some magical responses for you, so that you can easily deal with the New Year's urge, so that your New Year will no longer be troubled.
1.*Rhetorical question**: This is the most common method, which is to answer a question with a question and leave the other person speechless. For example, when the other person asks you, "When are you going to get married?" You can ask "When are you going to get divorced?" Or, "When are you going to have your second child?" Or, "When are you retiring?" "Wait. In this way, the other person will feel that your question is rude, or embarrassing, or sensitive, and will shut up.
2.*Ridicule**: This is a more humorous method, that is, use some funny words to send the other party away, so that the other party thinks you are funny, or very helpless, or very innocent, and will let you go. For example, when the other person asks you, "Do you have a partner?" You can joke and say, "I have, I have a lot of objects, such as mathematics, physics, chemistry, ......."Or "I have, I have a good object, that is, myself" or "I have, I have a rare object, which is your child" and so on. In this way, the other person will think that you are funny, or pitiful, or cute, and will laugh.
3.*Transfer method**: This is a more ingenious method, which is to use some irrelevant topics to divert the attention of the other party, so that the other party forgets to urge marriage, or feels that marriage urging is not important, or feels that marriage urging is not appropriate, and will give up. For example, when the other person says, "You have to hurry, don't delay yourself", you can shift and say, "Look, the weather is so nice today, let's go for a walk" or "Have you heard, there is a very popular TV series called "How to Avoid Urging Marriage" or "Did you know, I have been studying a very interesting course recently called "How to Deal with Urging Marriage" and so on. In this way, the other person will think that you are very smart, or interesting, or very knowledgeable, and will follow you.
4.*Rejection method**: This is a more direct method, which is to reject the other party with some firm words, so that the other party understands your position, or respects your choice, or understands your difficulties, and it will converge. For example, when the other person says, "I'll introduce you to one, that's great," you can refuse to say "Thank you for your kindness, but I don't need your help" or "Please don't interfere in my private affairs, it's my freedom" or "Please don't stress me, it's my problem" and so on. In this way, the other party will feel that you are very firm, or very autonomous, or very sincere, and will back down.
The above are some of the magical responses I want to share, so that you can easily cope with the New Year's marriage urging, so that your New Year will no longer be troubled. Of course, these responses are just some references, and you can flexibly use and change them according to your own situation and the other person's personality to find the most suitable response for you. The most important thing is that you have to have self-confidence and courage, don't be urged to marry and affect your mood and holidays, you have to believe that your happiness and future can only be decided by yourself. I wish you a happy Chinese New Year and worry-free singleness!