February** Dynamic Incentive Program
In this complex world, people are constantly looking for their place and sense of belonging. Some people like to be lively and like to get together with friends to share each other's lives; While others prefer to be alone and enjoy the tranquility of solitude.
I thought it was good to be alone, but slowly I realized that this tendency to be alone can also be a pathology. This realization came to light when I had dinner with my peers after retirement.
After I retired, I used to get together for dinner with a group of my peers. Although it is not as frequent as at work, it is a more profound reflection of everyone's inner changes and attitude towards life. Every time we have a meal, we choose a cozy restaurant where everyone sits together and talks and laughs. Sometimes we reminisce about interesting things at work, and sometimes we talk about current events in meetings. But as time went on, I found myself uncomfortable with this type of gathering.
When I have dinner with others, I always feel like I don't match their communication style and energy. They like to laugh and share the moments of their lives, while I prefer to be silent and listen to their conversations. In this lively atmosphere, I felt out of place, as if I was an outsider. What I crave is a quiet space, a corner for me to ponder alone, not this noisy dinner venue.
In my case of preferring to be alone, I asked a TCM friend for an explanation. He told me that people who like to be alone may be due to the lack of qi and blood in their bodies, which leads to mental fatigue and emotional fragility. In such situations, people tend to be more inclined to be alone and speak less in order to protect their physical and mental health. This explanation made me pause, as if I had found a plausible explanation for my emotional state.
People who like to be alone tend to exhibit some traits and behaviors. They are not comfortable with noisy environments and prefer a quiet lifestyle. In the crowd, they often choose to remain silent and do not want to participate in the lively discussion. I prefer to think alone and enjoy inner peace. These traits and behaviors are a reflection of who I am and reinforce my belief that I am indeed someone who likes to be alone.
Through the communication with my TCM friends, I gradually realized that my preference for solitude and lack of speech may be due to physical problems, and I tried to find ways to improve it. Begin to pay attention to adjusting your lifestyle and pay more attention to the maintenance of physical and mental health. Learned to find inner peace when you're alone, and try to be as open and communicative as possible when you're around others. I've come to understand that being alone isn't a bad thing, but that over-indulging in solitude can also have a detrimental effect on your physical and mental health.
While I still enjoy being alone, I no longer see it as an escape, but as a way to regulate my mind and body. I learned to find balance in solitude and cherish every opportunity to communicate more when I was with others. Only when you balance solitude and socialization can you live a healthier and more fulfilling life.
In life, everyone has their own unique lifestyle and emotional state. Some people like to be lively and like to communicate with others; Others, on the other hand, prefer to be alone and enjoy the tranquility of solitude. But either way, it should be done in the premise of ensuring physical and mental health. Enjoying solitude is not a pathology, but it can also adversely affect one's physical and mental health if you indulge too much in solitude.