Wen Xiaomo.
I saw a post on the Internet complaining that girls in the countryside are getting worse and worse. I can't help but think about it.
Why is this happening, is it that the girls in the countryside in the past are very flirtatious? Is it easy for rural girls to pursue?
If you think about the examples around you, it's true.
My uncle's relatives all came back with their aunts after a few years of going out to work, and some families of three came back.
So why is it getting more and more difficult for girls in the countryside now?
I think there are three main reasons.
First, the education level of rural girls has improved, and their perception of marriage and love has changed
For the post-80s and post-90s, it just happens that the country implements the family planning policy, so many families have only one child, so it is natural for girls to have more opportunities for education, coupled with good social development, people's living standards have improved. Many rural girls have gone to high school, technical school, and there are also many female college students, so their concept of mate selection has also undergone great changes, not only paying attention to the material conditions and family background of boys, but also paying attention to character, personal ability, development potential, and even personality, appearance and hobbies, bad habits, etc.
So, when a boy pursues these girls, he thinks they're picky.
Second, rural girls' social circles are more diverse, and they can come into contact with many different types of the opposite sex, which affects their expectations of marriage and love
Nowadays, very few young people are willing to stay in the countryside, and the same is true for girls, who have run away to the big cities. In the big city, they find a job in the big city, find their worth and purpose. They will also come into contact with many different classes and backgrounds of the opposite sex, they also have a lot of social activities, and the circle is no longer classmates in the village or town, so their expectations for marriage and love are affected by values, and they prefer to find a partner who has a similar background to them, has the same three views, has a common language, can grow together, or is helpful for their future development. I no longer expect the life of a husband and a child in the traditional countryside.
Third, the feminine consciousness of rural girls is gradually awakening, which affects their attitudes towards marriage and love
The consciousness of women in modern society has gradually awakened, and the status of women has been improved. Rural girls are no exception, and they no longer see marriage as a necessary stage in their lives or as a mission to carry on their ancestors. On the contrary, they are more focused on their own feelings and well-being, and are not willing to compromise their choices in order to cater to family and social pressures.
I have a female colleague who is from a rural area. People look average, not tall, but love to laugh, just started to do a few years of sales, and then began to follow the designer to learn design, the company also gave her a good opportunity to learn, is now an excellent designer, she has been working in the same unit for more than 10 years, although it is an older young woman, but live a very full and comfortable life, and is not in a hurry to fall in love and get married, but enjoy the current life.
In short, don't have any prejudice to look at rural girls, they are no longer the obedient little white rabbits in your eyes, they are synonymous with modern independence, self-confidence, tenacity, and beauty, because they were born in the countryside, they understand the suffering of the world better, because they have seen the wider world, so they want to pursue a more true self, so they are not limited to petty things like love and marriage!
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