In fact, it is very common for children who have just entered elementary school to take other people's things or let others take things. However, I personally believe that there is no need for parents to over-interpret their child's behavior and conclude that the child is "stealing". If you can, it's best for parents to guide their children to solve it on their own.
In life, when encountering the problem of "children's things being taken away by other children", there are four common practices for parents.
1.Buy your child a new one.
Most of the parents around Kaka's mother, after their children's things are taken away by others, as long as they are not particularly valuable or have special commemorative value, parents will take a calm attitude and buy a new one for their children, and it will be over.
Parents do this because they feel troublesome and don't want their children to get entangled in these trivial things. On the other hand, they don't want to put pressure on their children and affect their relationships with their classmates.
However, this approach of parents does have a big drawback: children are likely to learn this way of doing things from their parents, and when they encounter problems in the future, they will not be able to fight for it, and they will even become timid. Get into trouble.
2.Find a way to get your child back.
If the child particularly likes the thing that has been taken, or if the thing that has been taken is of great memenbilical value to the child, then some parents will give the child ideas and ask them to take the thing back.
For example, parents can help their child prepare a new item that is the same as the one that was taken away, and let the child take it to a classmate to exchange the old one, so that the other person will usually be happy.
However, before doing so, parents should think carefully: on what basis should children seek communication with others? After all, if the reason is not sufficient, and others insist on not changing, you can't do anything.
3.Ask your teacher for help.
When a child loses something, some parents will ask the child or go to the teacher to help deal with it. I'm also not sure if it's appropriate to ask the teacher for help if the child loses something. ". However, if a child loses something at school, I think it is reasonable to ask the teacher to help deal with it, and the teacher's intervention is very helpful to avoid promoting all kinds of bad habits.
However, Kaka's mother feels that if the child loses the pen, notebook, etc., the parent only needs to guide the child to deal with it by himself. There is no need to go to the teacher. After all, the workload of teachers is also very heavy. However, if your child loses valuables, such as cash, mobile phones, watches, etc., you need to go to the teacher and ask the teacher to help you deal with it.
4.Ask the other parent's for help.
Some parents will try their best to contact other parents after their children's belongings are taken away by others, so that they can understand the situation, pay more attention to their children's behavior, and educate their children. Of course, the main purpose of this practice is not to demand compensation from the other party, but to hope that the other party can correct the bad habits under the guidance of parents.
Kaka's mother feels that as long as the other parent is sensible, this method of dealing with it is very effective.
I remember when Kaka was in the first grade of elementary school, there was a classmate in the class who liked to pinch Kaka. Kaka told me that the more he **, the more his classmates pinched him.
Although I feel that the classmates who pinch people are not necessarily malicious, this behavior must be corrected. So, I got the ** of this classmate's father, told him about it, and asked him to help educate the child so that he didn't treat "pinching" as a game. Since then, I haven't heard any more complaints from Kaka.
Actually, I thought about looking for a teacher at that time, but I finally decided to find a parent. Because the kids were just starting elementary school at that time. If the teacher deals with this matter, it will definitely bring a lot of stress to the child and may even affect the child's psychology. But if parents handle it well, the child will be much less stressed.
That's my answer, I hope it can help you.