Fan Shengmei was once a star in her student days, but once she stepped into society, she was frequently frustrated and became a "top person" who was neglected. We need to get to the bottom of why.
During her study days, Fan Shengmei had a sweet appearance, elegant manners, and outstanding achievements, so she was called the "campus goddess". And Wang Baichuan is just an ordinary person among many suitors.
Over the years, Wang Baichuan has a deep affection for Fan Shengmei and never forgets it. In Wang Baichuan's words, it is: "Treasure in your heart, never forget it every day." ”
However, this passionate relationship could not withstand the torture of real life and was eventually eclipsed.
When she was a student, Fan Shengmei, a high-profile "top person", was proud and proud, so she was not only picky about her partner, but also strict with her interpersonal relationships.
However, real life has dealt a heavy blow to Fan Shengmei, she has not achieved remarkable work achievements in society, nor has she found the partner she wants.
At the age of thirty, I felt like I had achieved nothing, had neither savings nor a close boyfriend.
The capital that I was proud of when I was a student became worthless once I was in society. Fan Shengmei began to doubt herself: "Maybe I should lower my requirements for my other half, such as accepting an ordinary car, or an ordinary house." ”
Even if the standards are lowered, Fan Shengmei is still repeatedly frustrated and unable to consummate. Her situation is the same as ours in real life.
At a young age, whether it is because of good grades or good looks, people always think that they can succeed in society with these unique advantages.
However, I have worked hard in society for many years to realize that those who have mediocre grades in school are more likely to succeed in society, and women with average looks are more likely to find a good home.
In society, people pay more attention to a person's abilities, character, interpersonal relationships, and family background. And Fan Shengmei does not have significant advantages in these aspects, especially her family background has become a fatal shortcoming.
In the original family, the emphasis on men and the contempt for women, as well as the bloodthirsty environment, shaped Fan Shengmei's strong personality on the outside but inferiority complex on the inside.
Her contradictory personality makes her lack of self-confidence both at work and socially, so she is afraid to try and challenge for better job opportunities.
Fan Shengmei's original family is a bottomless pit, which makes her unfortunate to spend her life **.
A beautiful woman in her thirties, even if she is not very good at work, her financial situation is not rich, and the situation of her family of origin is very bad.
She has a very limited range of choices in the marriage market, which is also a major reason for Fan Shengmei's failure to "pinch the tip".
Some people think that although Fan Shengmei is beautiful, shrewd and capable, she did not choose her original family. So how can it not be suitable to be a partner?People who say this are clearly lacking real-life experience.
His father was paralyzed in bed after a stroke, his mother was unassertive, his brother and sister-in-law were violent, and his nephew was still a child, so choosing to be with Fan Shengmei meant taking on the burden of the whole family's life.
Choosing Fan Shengmei is equivalent to challenging the hell mode, Wang Baichuan has been silently in love with Fan Shengmei for 10 years, and in the end he can't escape the trouble of the hell mode.
Don't overestimate the power of feelings, and don't underestimate the complexity of human nature. In the face of reality, even the best feelings may not be able to withstand all kinds of tests.
Despite the vows of some people, most people choose to endure it, and the relationship is bound to be full of contradictions and exhausting.
The reality is very skinny, relatively speaking, the ideal is very plump. Fan Shengmei's story tells us: don't dwell on the glorious moments of the past, learn to surpass yourself, judge the situation according to the situation, and adjust your position.
Only when a person has a complete and clear understanding of himself can he live a transparent life and live an indomitable life.