Just now, a friend of the crew sent me a message asking if I could introduce him to a girlfriend, the Chinese New Year is about to begin, and the elders in the family have been urging him to get married early, which makes him annoyed. He also wanted to get married early, but as he himself said, he didn't meet the right one.
This crew friend is my hometown in Huanggang, who is 33 years old this year, graduated from a nautical college in Wuhan 11 years ago, majoring in navigation technology, and is currently working as a second officer on the ship. And his second mate has just been doing it for a short time, and the reason why he is only doing it now is because he hasn't run the ship for more than three years, and he saw that the crew's wages rose wildly and the crew was relatively short when he saw the epidemic, so he came out to run the ship again.
In fact, for this fellow, I have always had a question, maybe it is more difficult to find a girlfriend on the boat, everyone knows, but he has been on land for more than three years and has not found a girlfriend to get married, it is a bit incredible, the average person who works on land must find a girlfriend than the person who works on the ship, after all, he is not young, unless he himself does not want to get married. Even if he didn't want to get married, his family wouldn't have agreed, otherwise he wouldn't have asked me to introduce him to a girlfriend.
As far as I know, there are not many crew members who are single and single, especially senior sailors, and the crew friend I know may be one of the few crew friends I know who are not married. Actually, it is not difficult for the crew to find a girlfriend to marry, but it is better to do it sooner.
Many of my crew friends got married after completing their internships. The wives of these crew members generally talked about themselves during college, and of course, some met through blind dates. This is actually the best, get married earlier and then go on a boat, there will be no big worries, at least don't find a wife.
In fact, for seafarers, there are many advantages to getting married earlier. The first is that when I got married, my wife still had to enter the society for a long time, and she generally didn't have so many requirements for material conditions, and she didn't have too many thoughts about marrying you. After getting married, as your position becomes higher and higher, your salary is correspondingly higher and higher, and your vacation time is getting longer and longer, so you will have more time and conditions to slowly make up for the previous debt to the family.
The second is that after the seafarers get married early, they may have less worries and more sense of responsibility when they run the boat. Because I always think that I am also a family person, I may be more careful about how to behave on the ship.
The second is that seafarers get married earlier, and at this time the parents may also be relatively young, and if they have children, the parents have enough energy at home to help take care of them. After all, seafarers are away from home for a long time, and it is very difficult for their wives to take care of their children alone, and it is much easier to have parents to help take care of them. As my wife said, two people take care of the children all the time, and when one person takes care of the children, the other person can do the housework and have more energy to cook the food that the children like to eat. If you get married late and your parents are older, they may not be able to take care of their children.
Finally, it is estimated that the job of a seafarer is rarely achieved at the age of 60, and after the age of 50, it is almost a state of semi-retirement. If you get married earlier, your child will be born earlier. By the time you are semi-retired, your children are already adults, you don't need to pay much for them, and when your parents are older, you can also spare more time to take care of your parents.
Nowadays, many young people are reluctant to run boats, one of the reasons is that they are afraid that they will not find a girlfriend or that their girlfriend will break up with them. If you get married earlier, you don't need to worry about this reason. I don't know any of the seafarers who are divorced. Some ill-intentioned people are always speculating whether a seafarer will have a colored hat on his head, and that is nonsense.
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