When you pay, you don't ask if it's worth it, move forward bravely, and walk out of a "Long Song Xing".
Recently, a wife's eulogy for her husband on the Internet "In memory of Xiaohong|Chen Lang: Please re-do the drunken song line" has attracted attention. This article was first fermented on Weibo, and later due to many comments, the author wrote another one. The two articles let me see the heart of a woman with high sensitivity and high internal friction in Kochi.
As the author mentioned in the eulogy, I can't wait to carve a *** on my husband's tombstone so that more people can read his **. He also said that his husband had been writing ** before his death, and he did not leave any words and images for his daughter. This embodies a kind of spiritual internal friction. People with internal friction are always in the first meaning.
Writing ** is of course a serious thing for a humanities scholar, but the hit rate of submitting to a good journal is very low and the cycle is very long, and it takes 12 points of effort to only have 2 points of return, or even 0 returns. And taking the time to record your child's growth is a matter of spending 2 points of effort but 12 points in return. However, humanities scholars do not like to use economic thinking to guide life, and uphold idealism.
I read it with a lot of affection. I also have internal friction, for example, after spending two hours typesetting documents, I think that it is more worthwhile to spend two hours making a delicious meal for my child. For example, if I declare a topic, I will first use critical thinking to argue, is it necessary to declare, and what is the meaning of the declaration? After criticizing and deciding to apply, set the investment degree according to the hit rate, and feel that it can be controlled at 6-7 points. But it's often uncontrollable as soon as you put it in, and at the last look, good guys, you unconsciously use 10 to 12 points of effort. When the declaration results came out, I didn't win, so I regretted it, saying that I only used 6 points of force, why did I use 12 points. But the next declaration will be the same cycle. This is a typical internal friction type of thinking, like to review, often reflect, good at regretting, always thinking, "It would be nice if I didn't do that at the time". This kind of thinking is more hurtful, and it took 12 points of effort to do it, and 3 points were added to the mental internal friction, for a total of 15 points of damage.
In the second article, the author asks, "Is our academic system inhumane?" Is it alienation? "I understand this kind of torture very well. Academics are narrow, and those who are not gifted with special talents should be cautious if they have ordinary talents. In particular, the humanities should be prepared to work hard all their lives, and eventually their research will not be recognized. Whether people live for ideals or for reality, if you choose a path to go to the dark, it doesn't matter, what you are most afraid of is a moment of idealism, a moment of reality, very internal friction. So the author goes on to say that, as a counselor, "I believe that everyone should allow themselves to have different and even opposite emotions in their hearts. Any emotion is legitimate".
Reading this, I can see that she accepts her own internal friction. Just like her sacrifice in marriage, although she is still sacrificing emotionally, she has a deep love for her husband, which is very moving. Her academic literacy and professional knowledge allow her not to be controlled by internal friction, so the article is written with restraint and calmness, truth and affection.
So, what do we ordinary people use to counter internal friction? I like the sentence "Love works in the end", let's look for love, love regardless of the cost, don't ask if it's worth it when paying, move forward bravely, and walk out of a "Long Song Xing". (North North).