If you want to develop a good habit, such as exercising every day, do 100 push-ups; or read 10 pages a day; These things will generally not be jealous and sabotage, but will admire you more because of your persistence.
The benefits are numerous. Therefore, these things can be announced in the group and the circle of friends, so that more people can see it, supervise you, and force yourself to implement it.
Now that we're done with that, let's get back to today's topic.
There is hardly anyone who does not feel anxious and fearful.
As long as it is an individual, it is inevitable that there will be feelings of anxiety, confusion, pain, and fear at some stage.
These emotions come from contrasting with others.
The spread of short ** has allowed everyone to see a bigger and more exciting world.
Rich people hug left and right inside, living a glamorous life.
It is easy for many ordinary people to have an inferiority complex and a huge gap.
Because comparing their lives to their own, it is true that they feel hopeless and unable to catch up.
Under the huge gap, it is natural to worry about fear and anxiety.
How to solve this problem?
In my experience, there are two ways:
Do something specific and right.
What is the right thing to do?
It's something that can improve oneself and have positive feedback.
Reading, exercising, learning a language, learning a technology, or something that must be done at the moment.
Understand that worry, fear, anxiety will not have a positive effect on your life.
No matter how much worry and fear you show about your current situation, they will not have any positive effect on your well-being.
All you need is action.
No matter how much you worry and how long you are anxious, it will only consume your energy, and only by taking action can you change the status quo and create a life.
No matter what you want to do, what you want, how much you want to do, how big you want, they need to start with the smallest action, the most insignificant change.
In short, once you realize that you are starting to think cranky again, pessimistic and depressed, you should find something concrete to do.
Believe in yourself and admire yourself.
We don't need to compare ourselves to others.
Do your own thing, and you can get what you want.
There are some outstanding people in every field, and when I see a master in a certain field, I respect him, but I also tell myself:
I was exactly the same person as him, no different, even with the same talent, but he had the opportunity to get in touch with the field early and worked harder and more focused than others in the field to achieve these achievements.
But I can also be him and even surpass him if I want to.
It's the same for you, whether you can actually do it or not, you have to believe in it.
Anyone should have such a belief, it may not guarantee your upper limit, but the person who has this belief, the lower limit must not be very low, because he believes in himself, a person who believes in himself, there is no reason to be a waste.
Take myself as an example, there will also be times of anxiety, whenever this happens, I will take out the computer to write, write articles, write logs, write tutorials, or do my own ** account, in short, there will be a lot of specific things to do, just choose one at will.
Then, in the process of typing and writing, I will slowly calm down, and there will be a surge of energy in my heart, which will smooth out my anxiety and become more confident.
Seeing the glamorous lives of others, I will not feel inferior and envious at all, because I know that I am not bad myself, and I can live that kind of life.
After training like this for a while, you will master the way to eliminate anxiety and fear, gradually focus all your attention on yourself, focus on doing what you want to do, and life will give back to you with energy, money, other people's attention, and other good things.