Many friends said that when the Spring Festival arrived, they were inexplicably anxious and wanted to escape. In fact, I would like to say that this is probably the mood that most Chinese have.
What kind of problems do Chinese encounter? It's people who feel that they are not living a very ideal life, and they don't seem to have reached the state where they can glorify their ancestors. If you say that people who are more successful and richer outside, or who are more famous and wealthy, and who have more status, may not have such anxiety and worry when they go home.
But if we feel that we don't make any money, that our work doesn't seem to be so decent, that we don't have any status, and that we don't have any reputation, we may feel that there is infinite pressure to go home, and the closer we get to the Spring Festival, the closer we get to our home, the worse our anxiety becomes. For the Spring Festival, the hope of saying goodbye to the old and welcoming the new has been completely lost.
Where does this pressure come from? This pressure may come from our family. Because our parents have a lot of high expectations for us. Or rather, our parents expect to be able to save face through their children. Or is it that we ourselves feel that we are not as good as others, as if we feel that we have no face to be with others, and we feel that we don't know what to talk about. Others can talk about success, money, and circles, and they seem to have nothing, except for a year of hard work and exhaustion.
In fact, I have had this kind of mental journey for many years, and it has also made me escape for many years. Even for many years, because of the pressure, I felt that I was not glamorous enough, and I couldn't let my parents have a light on their faces and not go home. Now I don't think so, why? Because I figured out one thing, that is, I don't live for other people's eyes. I live to live for myself. Why should I live in the eyes of others, in the standards of others? Why should I live for the sake of face? When I was living for the sake of face, I couldn't go home to my parents as often as I could, so much so that it became a lifelong regret and made my life very unhappy. Since the ultimate goal of life is to be happy, why do I make myself unhappy for the so-called invisible and untouchable face?
Happiness when you have money? It does not mean that you are happy when you have money, nor is it that you are happy if you have fame and fortune and status. There are many people who are well-dressed and look rich, but in fact they may not be as happy as we have, of course, I am not absolute, but I see through such a data that I understand, many friends around me are very rich, but often very painful. A friend can't spend all the money on tens of millions of sales a year, but he often complains to me, saying that he is very painful.
A lot of the time what we see is just a surface. thinks that if you are rich and famous, you will be happy, but in fact, this is not the case. Happiness only lies in the heart, and I think if we go back to our hometown, it is just to be able to have a happy reunion with our family and be able to spend more time with our parents. If we go back with this kind of heart, then our other irrelevant anxieties will be much less. The further you go, the less you go, because you gradually find that you are doing well or not, in fact, no one really cares, only your loved ones. Whether it is good or not also depends on whether you can convey the happiness in your heart. Live and work hard, eat no more than three meals, wear no four seasons, lie down no more than two feet, and it is enough for you to be happy in your heart and pass it on.