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Educating a boy requires parents to guide him at a very young age to accumulate the abilities and qualities of success.
It is not uncommon to hear parents of boys complaining:
Obviously they are all boys, other people's children are sensible, polite and have good grades, and their own children will only be stupid all day long. ”
In terms of brain development, there is a saying that boys are "late at the beginning". This claim is not groundless, as Australian psychologist Steve Bidalf pointed out in his book "Raising Boys".
In boys, the brain develops significantly slower than in girls during the fetal period, and there is less connection between the left and right hemispheres of the brain in boys than in girls. Therefore, if we want our children and boys to become better and better, we must master the laws of their brains and find the most correct way to raise boys.
British scholar Geof Harman has mentioned in his quantitative research:
In terms of self-control and language development, boys are particularly backward. ”
The delay in the development of a boy's brain will bring many differences in learning, emotion and even behavior to the child. In addition, boys are less active on the left side of their brain, so they often have less ability to concentrate.
Professor Li Meijin of the Chinese People's Public Security University once said: If you want your children to have a chance, before the boy is 12 years old, parents must adhere to 5 principles! Don't blindly spoil your child, otherwise the child may not be able to become a talent in the future, there is an old saying: "How can you see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain".
Now the living conditions are getting more and more perfect, there are many families who spoil girls, and spoil girls as little princesses. Pampered boys inevitably have no sense of responsibility and no responsibility.
It is difficult for people who have no sense of responsibility to gain a foothold in today's society, whether it is a career or a love life, there is no need for a man without a sense of responsibility.
Sufficient sense of responsibility and self-confidence is one of the important conditions for a happy family life, so parents should adhere to the following 5 principles in raising boys:
Learn to be independent
George Bernard Shaw once said:
An independent and confident person can turn smallness into greatness, and mediocrity into magic."
Independence is the premise that a person has self-confidence and responsibility, whether it is a boy or a girl, after all, one day you need to leave your parents and be independent, if you let your child get used to relying on you, then, when the child leaves you, the child's situation is to face the panic of difficult times, and is not confident in the face of anything.
Children will one day enter the society, to climb and roll on their own, in the face of complex life, the sense of independence is essential.
How can I enhance my child's sense of independence? Start with the little things in life. Let the children organize their homework, pack their schoolbags by themselves, and deal with the emotional ...... with their friendsParents should interfere less in children's affairs and reduce dependence on parents, so that children's lives can be more independent and organized. Cultivate children's sense of independence from an early age, and after children enter the society, children will be able to face various uncertainties in life on their own and have a sense of security.
Learn to endure hardships
As the saying goes: you can't raise a thousand miles of horses in the courtyard, and you can't raise a 10,000-year-old pine in a flower pot."
There is no doubt that no one can succeed casually, so that children learn to endure hardships, is to lay the foundation for the future of children, although now the living conditions have come up, but hardship education is still necessary. Take the initiative to consciously assign some tasks to your child, whether it is physical or psychologicalPhysically, let the child grow a little strength, not pretentious, psychologically, temper the child's willpower, improve the child's ability to resist frustration, and make the child more confident.
Let children experience the difficulty of being a parent when doing tasks, and it is easier for children to understand their parents and know how to be grateful, so they can start by letting them tidy up their toys and do some housework within their ability, so that children know that they are also a part of the family, and they are also obliged to do the housework of this family, and they are more responsible.
Cultivate children's sense of responsibility
There is no family that doesn't like their children, sometimes what they say may be angry, but when the child makes a mistake, he is still reluctant to scold and will only complain a few words behind his back. Even now, some boys make mistakes and always think that their parents won't beat me, so I just do it as a matter of course, and I don't think about the consequences of everything I do.
Therefore,When your child does something wrong, don't turn a blind eye and be sure to punish him appropriatelyLet your child know that if you do something wrong, you must bear the consequences.
Learn to be brave
The famous writer Montaigne said:
Whoever fears will be tormented, tormented by the fear that arises from him. ”
If you are not brave, who will be strong for you". Courage is the first prerequisite for a boy to be responsible.
Improving the courage of boys is an important part of family education, boys will pay special attention to the words and deeds of their parents, and whether parents have enough courage to face things is very important to children. If there are many things that children cannot face in their lives, we should not be afraidBe sure to give your child the right encouragement to take the first stepWhen the child bravely takes the first step, he may be able to taste the sweetness.
For example, boys are afraid of non-existent "demons and monsters", "You are the bravest baby." There's no ghost you can't beat."
, happy life
A person who knows how to live happily is more likely to be grateful for life itself, more positive and optimistic in the face of difficulties, and thus willing to take responsibility. Parents, as the center of family life, should face life as happily as possible and infect boys with positive and active factors. When a boy is wronged, he should also actively guide the boy to recognize his mistakes and correct them in a timely manner.
When boys deserve praise, tooDon't be stingy with appreciation, positive motivation helps boys keep sticking to good habits, do not indiscriminately solve the problem by violence, this will only distort the psychology and make it difficult to form a sound personality.
In life, parents of boys often have a lot of helplessness:
Teach him to be brave, but he always does things submissively;
Teach him to be strong, and he repeatedly gives up easily;
Teach him to be decisive, but he still procrastinates;
Whenever such a situation occurs, the boy's parents will always comfort themselves in this way:
When he grows up, he will naturally understand ......"But the reality is often diametrically opposed to what parents expect.
If you expect a boy who has always given up lightly to suddenly become strong when he reaches the age of 18, is this realistic?
Is it possible if you want a young boy who has always cowered to suddenly socialize like a great diplomat after the age of 20?
If you hope that your son, who has been spending a lot of money, will be able to manage his money like a financial expert after the age of 25, this can only be a good dream for you.
No boy can live in the dreams of his parents. Therefore, educating a boy requires parents to guide him in a down-to-earth manner at a very young age to accumulate the abilities and qualities of success. I hope that every boy's parent can be proud of their son and proud of their amazing boy in the days to come!