Career is the external symbol of success in life, and it is also the spiritual pillar and sustenance of men. Unfortunately, people's perception of career is still two extremes, either go with the flow, endure boredom and mediocrity; Either it's desperate, playing with your life and dying. is unwilling to take the "mean" road. Those who do not seek to be motivated need the courage to take risks, and those who choose the wrong place need to re-examine themselves and choose again. The focus here is on the problems of "workaholism" and "death from overwork".
Why do people overwork and ignore the dangers of physical and mental health and marriage? One is the issue of values; The second is the excessive desire. The vast majority of workaholic behaviors regard wealth as the first value of life, and physical and mental health, marriage and family, freedom, interpersonal relationships, and happiness are all ranked secondThis kind of person thinks that if there is a career, there is successMakes a lot of money, and the restWhatThere will be, and until the loss of health and the suffering of seriousnessDiseaseLater, I learned the philosophy that it is better to spend money to save lives than to spend money to support lives; It is not until the relationship between husband and wife breaks down, or even divorces, that the children rebel and run away, or even embark on the road of crime, and embark on a desperate road and the family is ruined, that they regret it and realize that some things cannot be replaced by money. When a person is rich, he regrets why he didn't show filial piety to the old man immediately, and why he didn't take his parents out on a trip? So much so that they leave lifelong regrets, they always think that they will wait for me to have more moneysomeWhen time comes, don't you know that life is impermanent, and there are no young and old on the Huangquan Road!
Osho said: If you are obsessed with wealth,That's itManufacture of drugs,BecauseYou are completely anesthetized by wealth.
You treat the means as an end, and whatever you're doing, whatever makes the contemplation lost, it's a drug.
The right thing to do is to observe as you do, and don't forget to remind yourself, to be happy, to be happy, to be free and to be at ease. Fight hard, but don't work hard; We must strive for life, but also enjoy life, only in this way can we be worthy of the true meaning of life.
At the moment, it is an advocacyFastIn the era, everything is proud of fast, fast is victorious, fast food, fast pace, and even marriage has appeared "flash marriage family". In the era of fierce competition, time is money, time is efficiency, and it has long taken root in the depths of people's hearts. Especially in Japan, there is a trot when going up and down the stairs, and the concept of time in the south, southeast and southeast coasts of our country is particularly strong. In terms of social development, this has its positive and progressive side, but things are always opposites. The so-called "way of civil and martial arts, one piece and one relaxation." "When people go to work, they always look forward to Sunday, and they don't want to work overtime at night, so they always want to take more rest, spend more time with their families, and enjoy family fun. But once he became a boss, he canceled Sundays and often took the office home after work, so it is no wonder that many bosses suffer from high blood pressure, neuropathic headaches, insomnia, heart disease, etc.
This often makes people fall into the contradiction of the two laws, do not start a business, do not work hard, will be reduced to mediocrity; Start a business and struggle, and fall into obsession, lose freedom and leisure, and have a lot of inferiority and misery in mediocrityAfter development, there is loneliness, the absurdity of interpersonal relationships, and the busyness and overdraft of body and mind.
Someone said, "Money buys time." But if the premise is: "Time is money", and the time bought is added to obtain more capital, then it is a lifetimeToilThere is no end to it. There are many bosses who sit on the plane and also take care of the documents and review the company's business. After getting off the plane, he plunged into intense negotiations and investigations.
The notion that should be changed is that time is not just money, but life, and that the value of life cannot be measured by money.
weeksKokuheiHe said: "Of course I am lucky to have money and leisure, but if I can't, I would rather be a poor person with leisure than a busy person with money." I love leisure more than money. After all, money is something outside the body, but leisure makes us feel that I am the only master of life. ”
It is impossible for us to reach the realm of Mr. Zhou's philosopher. But can you "mean" it?
Practice has proved that the bigger a person's career, the less leisure and freedom time he enjoys. Some bosses work more hours than their employees every day, and if they don't rest on Sundays, the children won't know their dad after a long time. Some bosses do not realize the importance of time freedom until they are unable to communicate with their children, or even when their children become rebellious and go astray. It seems that the issue of children's education is more important than earning millions more!
If you lose the time of freedom, how can you always go home to see? You don't have time to give your parents a thrashing of their shoulders and rubbing their shoulders. Without free time, some relatives and friends will be estranged and bleak. Reduce your free time, and your body and mind will not be able to adjust and recover.
A one-time life is the most precious treasure of life, but many people prefer to exchange it for those precious or not-so-precious treasures, spending their entire lives on the accumulation of knowledge, fame, power, or money. When they die, they should regret that I only used my life, but I did not enjoy it!
Rousseau said: "To give up one's freedom is to give up one's personality, to give up the rights and duties of a human being......." The abolition of all freedom of self-will is the abolition of all morality of self-action. ”
Goethe said: "The kind of person who is not free but thinks he is free is a slave in the truest sense of the word." ”
Freedom does not only mean being physically unrestrained and trapped, but more importantly, mentally not being self-confined and self-cocooned. In the box, you can only become a free slave if you imprison your own transcendent consciousness.
One day, a successful person who was working hard received a mail bag with a note that read: "When I die, please give this gift to Jack, it is the most cherished gift of my life." Inside the box was a beautiful gold pocket watch with a line engraved on the flap: "Thank you for your time." ”
Jack's heart pounded, and the things that he had forgotten about the clouds came to his mind. As a child, Jack used to play in the old house, where a single old man lived. Jack didn't expect that the old man would regard the time he spent with him as the most precious time in his life.
Jack suddenly called his assistant and asked him to cancel the three-day work schedule, and the assistant asked why, Jack said, "I have to spend some time with my family, there is nothing more urgent than this." ”
We spend our days striving for the future, climbing one peak and looking at another, and nothing else seems to matter to us.
We ignore the "expiration date" of life, ignore some uncertain factors in life, and can change our original intentions and promises at any time, so that our care and love come to naught, so that regret and epiphany can only turn into a long sigh.
According to reports, Franks, the first commander of the United States, had a prosperous career, but he retreated bravely, not only refusing to take up the post of secretary of war, but also wanting to be disarmed and returned to the field, because he fulfilled the promise he made to his wife when he got married to return home.
Christine, the No. 1 female boss of the EPA, received a bouquet of flowers from her husband on Mother's Day and said to her, "Welcome home." She suddenly realized that it was time to go home, so she resolutely resigned from her public office and went home, staying with her husband day and night.
Sweden has a paid "parent-child leave" that everyone enjoys, that is, in the eight years from the birth of the child to the age of 8, both parents objectively enjoy this leave for 480 days, of which 60 days are stipulated as "father's day". Many men who have gone through "parent-child leave" think that no matter what kind of work they do, they can find someone to replace them, but no one can replace them as a father.
Set aside some time for your children, your loved ones, and your parents, so that your loved ones can get the most cherished things in their lives.
If our parents, before they pass away, take us by the hand and say, "Thank you for your time." "That's really the most complimentary thing in life. In this way, we also happily enjoy the precious time that our children dedicate to us.
Freedom is the ultimate value of the human soul, so anything that detracts from your freedom, that seals you off, you hate. That's why love always hates each other.
Psychologists have seen that erotic relationships are not simply erotic relationships. Now they call it the "love-hate relationship." ”
Love, but not possess. Zhou Guoping said: "Life cannot be occupied. "Rather, it is a temporary gift that has fallen into our hands by chance, and we will have to return it sooner or later. We prefer to play with it in a relaxed and leisurely mood than to let excessive eagerness and the trouble of gain and loss take over us, so that we no longer have a playful mood.
In fact, everything changes, and nothing can be truly possessed, and the one who gets everything gives everything up when he dies.