Why do women only want to make money now
The story begins on an ordinary afternoon, when sunlight shines through the window on the couch in the consultation room. I sat there and waited for my first client of the day – Rei.
Ling is a working woman in her early thirties, and as soon as she walks in the door, she has a capable atmosphere. After she sat down, she said directly: "Teacher, I'll just say it directly, I just want to make money now, and I'm not interested in anything else." ”
I smiled and instead of answering directly, I asked, "Why do you think so?"”
Ling sighed, "Because money can give me a sense of security." You know, I once gave up everything for love, only to be betrayed. Since then, I have come to understand that everyone will run, and only money will be the most reliable. ”
I nodded in understanding. Then he said, "Actually, it's not a bad thing to want to make money." However, if you ignore your inner needs just for the sake of security, you may go to the other extreme. ”
Ling listened to my words and asked with some puzzlement, "What do you mean?"”
I explained, "That is, money is important, but it's not everything. Some things, such as family, friendship, love, etc., cannot be bought with money. If we only focus on the money and ignore these, we may lose even more. ”
Ling was silent for a while, and then said, "Teacher, you have a point. However, I still feel that money gives me more security. ”
I smiled and said, "Then let's do a little experiment." I pulled out a piece of paper with a few questions written on it, "Please close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and then answer these questions." ”
Ling complied, somewhat confused. The questions are about her happiest moments, the things she is most proud of, etc. When she finished answering these questions, I noticed that she had a smile on her face that I hadn't seen in a long time.
I took the opportunity to say, "You see, these feelings of joy and pride cannot be bought by money. However, they can bring us more satisfaction and happiness. So, we shouldn't just focus on money and ignore these good feelings. ”
Ling listened to my words and nodded thoughtfully. Then he said, "Teacher, I understand." I will try to focus on my inner needs and find more joy and happiness. ”
I smiled and sent her out of the consultation room. I know that this consultation didn't completely change her mind, but at least it made her aware of some problems. And this is the charm of psychological counseling - through guidance and inspiration, the client can find the answer on their own.
A few days later, I received a message from Ling: "Thank you, teacher. I'm starting to try to do something I love now, and it's really good. ”
I replied, "Glad to hear about your change. Remember, no matter what time you go, don't forget to pay attention to your heart's needs. ”
This is the end of the story. However, I would like to say that everyone has their own answer to the question "why do women only want to make money nowadays?" As a counselor, I don't give answers directly, but let my clients find them by themselves through guidance and inspiration. Because only in this way can the client truly understand and accept the answer and take action to change their own lives.