Often yelling at children, how to control themselves
How can it be like this again! "How many times have I said it! Have these words slipped out of your mouth, accompanied by anger and disappointment, and rushed straight to that little figure, your child? Yelling at children seems to have become a "compulsory course" for many parents when they are emotionally out of control, but after yelling, guilt and regret come like a tide. So, how can you control yourself if you often yell at your children? Let me take you on a journey of spiritual exploration full of emotion and reversal.
Recognize the real reason for yelling at your child
Many people think that yelling at children is because they have done something wrong and made themselves angry. But the truth is often not that simple. In fact, behind yelling at children, parents' own anxieties, pressures and expectations are often hidden. For example, if you are under pressure at work, and when you come home and see that your child is not doing what you are asking you to do, you will instantly have an emotional outburst. But if you think about it, is it because your own emotions are not handled well that they are so easily triggered?
Accept your own imperfections, as well as your children's imperfections
As parents, we always expect our children to grow up the way we want them to, but the truth is that every child has their own pace and characteristics. Just like no two leaves are exactly the same, every child is unique. When we learn to accept our imperfections, we will be able to be more tolerant and understanding of our children's imperfections. In this way, the urge to yell at the child will naturally be reduced a lot.
Find a more effective way to communicate
Yelling at children is actually an ineffective way to communicate. Not only does it not solve the problem, but it can also hurt the parent-child relationship, making the child fearful and rebellious. So, is there a better way? The answer is yes. For example, when a child does something wrong, we can try to calm down first, and then communicate with the child in a calm tone, understand his thoughts and feelings, and guide him to recognize the problem and find a solution. In this way, not only can problems be solved effectively, but also understanding and trust between parents and children can be enhanced.
Counseling can play a big role in this process. Through professional counseling, we can have a deeper understanding of our emotions and behavior patterns, and learn how to effectively manage emotions and communicate with children. In this way, we can gradually get rid of the vicious circle of "yelling at the child" and move towards a more harmonious and healthy parent-child relationship.
So, if you often yell at your children, you might as well try these methods. Remember, controlling your emotions doesn't mean suppressing yourself, but learning to express and process your emotions in a more positive, healthy way. In this way, you will not only become a better parent, but also a happier and more confident child.