Most women think that men are visual creatures, and the criterion for men to choose a mate is to look at their appearance.
In fact, this is the biggest misunderstanding of men, when a man is looking for a partner, the beautiful skin can certainly attract his attention, but compared to appearance, in fact, men value these 4 points more. 
Kind characterIn communication, people first need a sense of security, and then a sense of accomplishment and pleasure. People with good character can make people feel very secure, and kindness means that they are not bad people and will not hurt others. A femme fatale, no matter how beautiful she is, a man may be attracted to her beauty, but he will never want to spend time with her, because there is no sense of security, and you don't know when you will be hurt. Life is hard, even if it is a man, he just wants to find a kind partner, so that he can find an inch of tenderness in the wind and rain. You will not rub salt on your wounds, you will not watch you fall into the abyss indifferently, and you will not hurt your loved ones. is like what Wang Xiaobo said to Li Yinhe in "Loving You is Like Loving Life":"I just hope that you and I are good, we don't suspect each other, and we don't praise each other, as on weekdays, you talk to me like you talk to yourself, and I talk to you like you talk to yourself. ”
For kind people, only then can they dare to let go of their defenses, let go of their defenses, and have the courage to like them without hesitation and accompany them for a lifetime. It is said that a woman affects the fate of three generations, after all, everyone wants to be treated gently by life, if life is not, at least there is you. 
The three views are compatible"It's easy to fall in love because of the facial features, and it's not easy to get along because of the three views", how much love begins with a pleasing appearance, but ends with a disagreement between the three views. I read a "Report on China's Post-95 Marriage and Love View" on Weibo. In the item of "which condition of the partner is most important", many people are very surprised. Because in the hearts of many people, the new generation of young people basically look at the appearance and conditions, but what is surprising is that the three views unanimously defeated the personality, appearance, economy, and education to become the first. What is the consistency of the three views? When he likes to play basketball, you don't like it, but you don't say there's anything fun about a broken ball. When he cried sadly because of Kobe's retirement, although you didn't feel anything, you wouldn't laugh at him for being hypocritical. The three views are the same, not the interests and hobbies of the two people, and the views must be the same, but they know how to tolerate and understand each other. A life is really long, money and appearance may only determine whether you are likely to be together, but the three views determine whether you are suitable to go on. The circles are different, and they don't have to be forced. If the three views don't match, don't make do with it. 
There is not much difference in the conditions between the two sidesDragons look for dragons, phoenixes look for phoenixes, and heroes look for heroes. The older generation often says that the door is right, and the propaganda of the new era is evenly matched. The "Survey Report on Marriage and Love in Chinese Society" jointly written by the School of Psychology of Beijing Normal University and other units shows that:Half of the families require that the marriage partner must be "the right match". Seventy per cent said that the necessary condition for a marriage partner is to have "money on hand". Every ordinary girl has a dream: to be in love with a handsome man with a lot of gold and live a happy life from then on. Don't think about it, the prince falls in love with Cinderella, that is the plot in the idol drama, and in reality, the prince often falls in love with the princess. A good intimate relationship must be that you are very good, but I am not bad, whether it is the appearance or the level of education, or the family background of both parties. 
Men's love is never blind, on the contrary, they are rational and terrible. If you want to be in appearance, when the two go out, others will say that you are husband and wife, not that a flower is inserted in cow dung. If you want to be educated, the two will have more common language, so that he will not pay attention to consumption upgrades and sinking markets, while you only care about ** and Pinduoduo. Modern society puts a lot of pressure on men, and they prefer that their future partners can share the pressure on themselves, rather than adding pressure to him. 
Independent and assertiveIf you think that boys like small birds and silk flowers, then you are wrong. Most guys prefer women who are independent and assertive, because it means you don't have to take on another person's life. There is a topic on Zhihu:What kind of independent-minded girls have you ever seen? One of the high praise replied that it was like this:
Such a woman will give people the feeling that the desire to go to the library, go shopping, eat, travel, chat, and attend events with her is much stronger than the desire to overthrow her? You will appreciate her world and discover the beauty of your own world more clearly.A man is like this, maybe he will enjoy the sense of accomplishment of being relied on by you, but this is only temporary, and if you put everything you have on him, he will despise you and feel tired. True love must be able to live your own life, and then you can live a common married lifeIt's like what I said on Weibo: I understand that we are like this, if we love each other, then you drink ice cola, I drink coffee, do what you like first, and then do what we like together.
Occasionally I will taste your iced coke, occasionally you will drink my coffee, and we will be intimate and independent from each other, which is the best love. Any relationship is conditional, if you want a man to fall in love with you, then you must have the characteristics to attract him, this is not vulgar, this is human nature.