We all grew up in the same village, and it was a beautiful andTranquilityofRural。I was a few years older than him, but we played a lot, went to school, and had a carefree childhood. However, over time, we grew uplifeGradually, the days became busier and our intersections gradually decreased. It wasn't until this year's Spring Festival that I met him again by chance, and I paid more attention and understood him in my heart. He is already a middle-aged bachelor at the age of 49, and I feel compelled to share his story with you.
He had a nickname when we were kids, called the slug. The nickname stems from his persistent snot problem, which he always runs with snot running like two sticky onesBean worms。Whenever the snot comes to our mouths, we worry about it, for fear that it will drip into his mouth. But he always sucked the snot back into his nostrils on time and continued to flow on his own, never wiping it or blowing it out.
This nickname came from this, which became his special code name. Although we used to be playmates together, we both wandered aroundlifeThe trajectory is drifting away. His family was not wealthy, his thinking was relatively simple, and his appearance was not very outstanding, and he eventually became a single single. But unlike the general situation, he is very good for singleslifeBut it's quite free.
InRuralIt's not easy to be a bachelor. However, he is not bound by this pressure, because he is simple-minded and dashing. When he was young, he went to factories and construction sites to work, but as he grew older, he couldn't find a job that suited him, so he chose to "lie flat" at home. Although there are only a few acres of land and a few houses left by his parents, he is not lazy and hardworkinglifeIt can still keep him afloat.
Since there is no family burden, hislifeIt's relatively easy to be able to find some temporary work and earn some extra income. He bought oneMotorcycles, The car is equipped with a singing machine, and every day there will be gatherings and gatherings, ** some songs of the Four Heavenly Kings in the 90s, as well as some operas such as Henan Opera. He thought it was fashionable, and he enjoyed it, and he had a good time.
In addition, he likes to drink. Although he only has an income from a few acres of land, he always finds an opportunity to drink some cheap tobacco and alcohol. He has a little trick up his sleeve for drinking, and that's to help others. Whether it's repairing a house, decorating it, attending a wedding or helping to plant garlic during a busy farm job, he will always show up in time to help others complete their tasks. And in return, he will only get some dishes and a meal of wine. He is helpful and will help until the task is completed. It's a win-win situation for him, while also providing him with an endless supply of alcohol**.
Also, there is a little story of his own who developed a special relationship with his family. This family'sEconomyThe situation is not good, the husband goes out to work all the year round, at homelifeIt's tough. When he was busy on the farm, he often went to their house to help, and slowly changed with the family. He did his best to help them get through it, even giving it his all. Eventually, the family's wife started a relationship with him, and she spent her days with her big brother.
Despite the fact that the husband of the family knew all this, but in order to solve his ownEconomyquestion, he also acquiesced to the relationship. This may be a relationship of interest, but as time goes by, the couple's relationship will inevitably have some deep foundation, and there will be some exchanges of true feelings with each other. While this is morally unacceptable, in:RuralSuch things are not uncommon.
Despite being a bachelor, he doesn't need to worry about his retirement. Since he had no children and was not married, he was classified as one of the five guarantee households. This means that when he gets old, he can go to a nursing home and will get a few hundred dollars a monthPensions。Therefore, he is not worried about his futurelife, his comfortlifeIt doesn't get in the way of his old age.
with many who have childrenRuralCompared to people, in this regard, he is actually stronger than them. ManyRuralPeople went to work in factories and construction sites when they were young, but they did not get itPension insurance, now over sixty years oldRuralPeople only have more than 100 yuan per monthPensionsThe problem of pension is difficult to solve. Of course, most children will still take care of their parents, but there are also some children who have a difficult life and cannot give enough feedback to their parents. SuchRuralThere are many elderly people.
Looking back on this single big brotherlifeI couldn't help but think about how I compared myself to him. Many people have worked hard all their lives, experienced difficulties and setbacks, but may not be able to achieve their goals. In order to marry a wife and raise children, they also have to bear mortgages, car loans, etcEconomyburden, hard work for children to go to school, find a job, get married. However, in the end, you may not be on the path you want.
And this single brother, although he has no family, noEconomyburden, but can live a relaxed and enjoyable lifelifeof fun. He has no desire to chase material things, and he doesn't careSocialvision. He is independent and has his ownlifeway, but also to be helpful and build authentic relationships with others.
HislifeIt's simple, but it's full of fun and meaning. What he was doing, while it may have been disgusting to others, was a pleasure for him. He doesn't envy anyone else'slife, and I don't feel that I have any shortcomings. Perhaps, we can learn something from him. Either waylifeWorries about the future, or worries about the future, can be seen by changing your attitude. As long as you relax your mind, live in the moment, and cherish the people and things around you, you can enjoy the simple and beautifullife。Don't beSocialThe values that bind one's mind and one must be brave enough to pursue one's own happiness.
Everyone has their ownlifeEveryone's definition of happiness is different. Whatever the choicelifeway, as long as you can live happily and meaningfully, it is a kind of success. We should keep an open mind and respect everyone's choices and values. lifeIt is not only the pursuit of material, but also the sustenance of the soul. When we truly understand this, perhaps we will be able to live a happier lifelife