Even if you don't have a good time, you still want to show your strength in front of your relatives and friends during the New Year, what should you do?
Actually, this is a good thing.
If you want to pretend x, you can't do it, you feel uncomfortable, I think it's good, then don't pretend. It's better than failing to install x.
It's already bad, so why show the "strength" that doesn't exist? That is, for the sake of face, it is the self-esteem of the damned "die to save face and suffer sin" that is causing trouble.
Who really cares if you're doing well? I think it's just your flesh and blood, your parents and partners. Brothers and sisters don't necessarily want you to be good. Most people care about whether you "fly high" or not, and only your parents care about whether you are "tired of flying".
And if you are not doing well, your parents must know.
When you go to "show your strength" in front of your relatives and friends, have you ever thought about how they will deal with themselves? A lie may need more lies to cover up, and you go back to the big city to move bricks after the Chinese New Year, leaving your parents to face the questioning, jealousy, or trouble of relatives and friends. Are you embarrassed?
So when you find that you want to "show your strength", but you can't, why not follow your heart? If we can't do it, we won't pretend. Why do you want to pretend to be those seven aunts and eight aunts?
List of Quality Authors To give you a few examples, I have come across them myself.
1。About 20 years ago, a neighbor who had been working outside for many years and didn't come home, finally came home and drove a Santana and smoked a Chinese cigarette. Leather shoes shine. The whole is a successful person, and he returns to his hometown. The relatives all looked envious, but I don't know when it started, it seemed that everyone looked at him a little strangely. He inquired privately, it turned out that there was a vegetable grower in Shenzhen with him in the next village also went home, and he had a relative who went to that village to talk about his development, and people scoffed at him, telling him that he had lost money in the past two years, and he had lost more, and it was estimated that he was ready to fool people to pick up the plate.
2。After I joined the work, I went home one year, and there was a neighbor next door who was two levels lower than me, who had just joined the work, and his parents showed all kinds of chest muscles, how high his salary was, how good the unit was, and the company in Shanghai provided an apartment and a shuttle. He himself is also in the middle of winter, and he also walks around the streets in a trench coat and a small suit. My mother asked me, you graduated a few years earlier than others, why is it only a few thousand yuan a month, and tens of thousands of dollars after others just graduated? I said it couldn't be, he was a "double non" undergraduate finance major in a remote area, and he could mix so well in Shanghai? As soon as I inquired on the side, a certain toiletries company, a well-known pyramid scheme, found that it was offline. After the year, there were relatives who went to Shanghai with him, more than a dozen people lived in one room, all kinds of tosses, and then I heard that something had happened, and his parents didn't have his son.
3。A certain peer, who graduated from high school and went to Shenzhen to work, took a group of migrant workers, commonly known as the contract foreman, and it is said that he mixed very well. When I went back for the Chinese New Year, my family's newly built house was moved, and the whole village was invited to a banquet, bringing a very thick gold chain and gold watch, a fur coat, and shoes to wear Nike. The problem is Nike, he and a group of peers bragged that this Nike was a limited edition and was specially brought from Hong Kong, and then a child who was still in college was very unscrupulous, pointing out that his shoes were fake, and the hooks were reversed. A group of us suddenly realized, no wonder it looked a little awkward.
Of course, these examples are pretend to be unsuccessful. There are also pretending to be successful, everyone believes it, and then they come to borrow money, borrow strength, and then they are speechless!
So do you want to "show your strength"? In our country, especially in the rural areas, it is still necessary to properly display strength.
But if you don't have the strength to force a wave of existence, I personally don't think it's too necessary, it's your own business to live well, if you care too much about the eyes of others, you will only make yourself more and more powerless.
Moreover, another tradition of our country is low-key and humble. Most of the people who are really powerful and capable are relatively low-key. Your strength can be reflected in other people's mouths and eyes, rather than relying on your own "show strength" during the New Year.
Not everyone can be low-key and humble, but if it's already a time when you feel overwhelmed, I think moderation is the best choice!