In this age of information, we are immersed in countless messages every day. But have you ever been in a situation where you want to send a message to someone, but you can't press the send button because you don't know what to say? Don't worry, you're not alone, this situation has happened to many people. Now to give you a tip to find a "panacea" for sending messages.
1. Why does the situation of "I don't know what to say" occur?
I'm afraid of saying the wrong thing: Many times, we worry that our words are inappropriate and will cause disgust or misunderstanding from the other person.
Lack of common topics: There is a big difference between the life circle and interests of the other party, and I can't find a suitable topic entry point.
Paying too much attention to the other person's reaction: We tend to be very concerned about the replies to important people's messages, and we are afraid that our words will not be interesting enough or attract the attention of the other person.
2. How does this dilemma affect our emotions?
Increased feelings of anxiety: Feeling stressed every time you open a chat window, which can lead to social anxiety over time.
Affects relationship intimacy: Because of poor communication, it may make the other person feel that we don't care enough or don't care about them.
Self-doubt: Frequent "I don't know what to say" may make us start to doubt our communication skills and charisma.
3. How to deal with and overcome this dilemma?
Relax your mind: Remember, chatting is not an exam and there are no standard answers. Relax and let the conversation flow naturally.
Find common interests: Find out what the other person likes, start with a common interest, and chat will be easier.
Don't overthink: Sometimes, we think too much and bind ourselves. Be simple and express your thoughts and feelings directly.
Make good use of memes and humor: Appropriate memes and humor can ease awkwardness and make the chat more relaxed.
Sincerity is paramount: Whatever you say, be sincere. The other person can feel your intentions, which is more important than flowery rhetoric.
Fourth, practical suggestions
Make a list of topics: Prepare some topics in advance, so that you are not afraid of suddenly "going cold" when chatting.
Simulation exercises: You can find friends or family to practice chatting and increase your self-confidence.
Feedback adjustments: Review after the chat to see which topics the other person responded well to and which ones need to be improved.
In short, "not knowing what to say" is not a big problem, the key is how we adjust our mindset and strategy. Remember, communication is an art and a skill that requires constant practice. As long as you put your heart into it, you will definitely become a master of chatting! February** Dynamic Incentive Program