Under the introduction of the matchmaker, the 55-year-old divorced woman Yu and the 64-year-old man Liu met. Liu is a man who has been widowed for many years and owns a house of more than 80 square meters. And Yu is in a houseKindergartenWorking as a dietitian, the salary is about 3,000 yuan per month.
The matchmaker first went to Liu's house to learn some information and found that his home was cleaned up and tidy. Liu told the matchmaker frankly that he had a monthly payment of more than 1,000 yuanPensionThere are more than 7 acres of farmland, and the annual rent can be 8,000 yuan. In addition, he also lent 220,000 yuan to the contractor, which is currently being sued in court, hoping to repay it through the sale of the house.
Then, the matchmaker came to Yu's house again and learned about her situation. Yu is hereKindergartenI have been working for six or seven years, and my monthly salary is about 3,000 yuan. The reason why she once divorced was that her ex-husband often did things to her, and even seriously injured her. After the divorce, because she did not have a house, fortunately the principal and his wife took her in and took care of her like relatives.
Liu and Yu are thereKindergartenAfter meeting at the door, the two began to get to know each other. Liu took the initiative to tell Yu that he had been widowed for many years, and his ex-wife died of illness. And Yu Mou frankly stated the reason for her divorce, and her ex-husband often did something to her, which made her unbearable.
Yu to LiuPensionA little worried, she felt more than a thousand a monthPensionToo little. She thinks that a person'sPensionAt least more than her current salary, because what can you do with a few thousand dollars now? MarriageMen always spend women's money, how can this be done?
However, Liu did not agree with Yu's opinion. He thinks that a person has a good personality and can be really good to each otherMarriageThe most important. Although, he saidPensionNot much, but he also has other income**, such as rent on farmland. He believes that in the face of a future of living together, two people should support each other, and not only focus on material conditions.
After some exchanges, the two were unable to reach a consensus. Yu felt Liu'sPensionToo little to meet her needs and future security. Yu believes that whether it is now or after retirement, the man's income should exceed her salary. And Liu believes that the relationship and sincerity of two people are the most important.
In this blind date, the differences between Liu and Yu were mainly focused on the man'sPensionAspect. Yu thinks that the man'sPensionToo low to meet her material needs and future security. Liu, on the other hand, emphasized the importance of affection and sincerity. The inconsistency of views prevented them from moving forward.
For this question, I think everyone's values are different, rightMarriageExpectations are also different. Some will place more emphasis on material conditions, while others will pay more attention to themEmotionand the sharing of the spiritual level. Not all people are able to accept and adapt to different values, which is why some people go on blind dates many times and still don't succeed.
When choosing a partner, I think it is important to take into account your own and the other person's needs and the right pairMarriageexpectations. If a person has high material requirements, then it is necessary to find a partner with a stable and high income to meet their needs. And if a person values feelings and character more, then he can be more tolerant of the other person's economic situation, because material conditions are not the only criterion for judging whether a person is suitable or not.
In short,MarriageIt is a choice of comprehensive factors, which needs to take into account the matching of material conditions, personalities, values and other aspects of both parties. Only by finding a partner who can understand and support each other can we build stability and happinessMarriageRelationship.