In contrast to those who beg for help at every turn, there is another kind of people. This kind of person always tries his best to complete things by himself, is always afraid of troublesome others, and walks in the world with the attitude that he does not ask for others in everything. Some of them are helpful but shy to ask for help.
Psychoanalytic:
First of all, this type of person may have some pimples, or have been rejected a lot in interpersonal interactions, and there are shadows, so they choose to be alone; or there have been darkest moments in life when you feel ashamed of your acquaintances, and therefore ashamed of bothering others; Or there is also a personality factor, born strong and likes to play all-round, so he never bothers others until he has to.
Second, choosing not to trouble others is because you are afraid that you will get into trouble because of trouble. "Money solves problems that are not problems" is the truth. They are afraid of owing favors, and in the final analysis, they are worried about the short run.
In fact, everyone in the world is not an isolated existence, and everyone in a social group has its limitations. Different from man's turn to nature, society moves forward in a way of division of labor and cooperation, and individuals can only grow more when they integrate into the group. This requires mutual aid, i.e., the need to help others and receive help from others on a regular basis. It is impossible for a person to know everything, and the so-called "Almighty King" does not exist at all, so what to do when encountering problems, which requires group intervention and trouble others. Only by interacting with others and helping others can society progress.
From another point of view, in this society, everyone is brushing up on their own sense of existence, just as I wrote this little article for some kind of expression. Troublesome others is to release value to others in disguise, and it can be said that troublesome others is also achieving others, that is, the helper agrees to help and achieves the helped, and at the same time proves the existence of the helper. For example, in the relationship between men and women, the woman sometimes deliberately creates opportunities for the man to help, which can stimulate the man's desire to protect.
It can be seen that bothering others is a friendly way to promote interpersonal relationships.
Of course, troublesome things are beyond the psychological expectations of the helper, and you can't deliberately throw a very tricky "favor" for others to help, and the "help" should be within the other party's ability. And the way, attitude and skills of bothering others must be mastered well, not to make people take it for granted, "pick soft persimmons and pinch them", and at the same time know how to give back to others, so that interpersonal relationships can come and go.
The conclusion is that if you are always afraid of trouble, you will be troublesome, and if you are not afraid of trouble, you will not be troublesome.