When I was a child, I often heard my parents say, "You don't understand now, but when you grow up, you'll understand that it's for your good." Especially after scolding himself and beating himself. But now that I've grown up, do I really have the so-called understanding? In fact, there are very authoritative scientific treatises on the West about how much trauma a dark childhood brings to the formation of children's character in life and the formation of work habits. But our people seem to prefer to speak with their own life experience, and I have walked more bridges than you have walked, and I often talk about it. Criticizing the so-called authority, science, or not being well educated. Whether it is a strict father or a strict mother, the concept of filial piety under the stick has prevailed in China for thousands of years.
Although the overall level of education in our country is improving, parents who are already married do not necessarily benefit from this equalization, and Chinese schooling does not teach how to educate children. Therefore, even if the arguments about educating children scientifically in society come and go, when it comes to every parent, I am afraid that the methods they will use to educate their children are still the old ways handed down from ancient times. This is the most ironic part, no matter how wronged, uncomfortable, or angry you are, you will still be considerate of your parents when you grow up. Because you know that they really don't love you, they really just don't know how to educate their children! Angry at their simple and stupid means, they can only succumb to their hearts again and again in the feelings that blood is thicker than water. ......When I was younger, my parents always complained that I only had fun with my peers and was indifferent to them. But they never thought about their own reasons. If I could, why wouldn't I want to have a happy family? I have only been in awe and fear of you since childhood, and you have not talked to you since you were a child, and you cannot expect them to have a common topic with you and talk with you pleasantly; You haven't said love to me since you were a child, and you can't expect me to be close to you all of a sudden, and suddenly say I love you; Since childhood, I have been beaten and scolded, and since I was a child, I feel that children don't understand anything, so they should listen to you, you really can't expect them to grow up and be the silent lambs, and they will be beaten and scolded silently, and they will not quarrel with you, cold war. All fruits have a cause that you have sown. ......Fortunately but unfortunately, the current situation of family education in our country is in a diamond-shaped (bicone) distribution. The tutor is extremely comfortable and warm at one cone tip, while the tutor is extremely unsuccessful at the other cone tip. The vast majority of them are people who have more or less childhood shadows, but do not particularly affect later life. It's not particularly scary to have a childhood shadow, after all, as long as the trauma is not too deep, it can heal slowly and on its own. What is really terrible is that those children who were once unhappy in their childhood grow up and bring their own children an equally unhappy childhood. It's not terrible to have suffering, it's terrible to have pain from generation to generation. When the former children grew up and had their own children, when they went to educate their children, they found that they seemed to have become abusers again in addition to copying how their parents taught them, and then how to teach their children. What an irony. 
Excerpt from Chai Jing's "Seeing" illustration A good family education is really quite important, especially today. Today, there is a lot of pressure on social competition, and how many young people are making a break in society, suffering setbacks, and being bruised all over their bodies. If there is always a warm family behind them silently supporting him, how lucky he should be and how fearless he should be! In fact, there are some young people who commit suicide in our country, in fact, if you think about it carefully, in addition to the pressure, are there family factors in these young people's suicides? Finally, I sincerely wish all families more and more happiness.