Polyandry solves the problem of difficulty in marrying a wife
Although there was a patriarchal phenomenon in China historically, this problem has been greatly improved with social progress and policy adjustments. However, due to the imbalance in the male and female population, it is difficult for many men to find a spouse, which is a social problem that cannot be ignored.
In response to this problem, Huang Youguang, a distinguished professor at Fudan University, put forward the proposal of "polyandry" to alleviate the marriage problem caused by the imbalance between men and women. The suggestion sparked a heated discussion among netizens, with some seeing it as a challenge to human morality and others expressing support.
In any case, we need more thought and discussion to find the best solution to this problem.
The "Mountain" of Marriage Matching: The Bride Price Problem Most of the reasons why some Chinese men cannot marry wives stems from the high bride price. In 2017, a murder case occurred in Dongshizhuang Village, Fudao Town, Tangyin County, Anyang, Henan Province, which shocked the whole country, and the cause was the bride price.
What was supposed to be a happy moment on the wedding night turned out to be a tragedy for both families. The bride and groom quarreled again over the bride price of 110,000 yuan, and the groom, who was furious, picked up a hammer and smashed the bride to death.
The excessively high bride price undoubtedly affects people's marriage success rate. This means that many men do not have wives because there are not enough women, but because they are poor.
In order to get married, many families have to spend all their wealth and even go into debt. Assuming that the bride price is 100,000 yuan, the three gold is 10,000 yuan, the banquet money is 100,000 yuan, plus other expenses, and you are not prepared to get married if you are not ready to get married, it may be difficult to get married.
In conclusion, the bride price issue has become an important factor affecting the success rate of marriage in China, and solving this problem is very important to improve the marriage and love situation of men.
Marrying a wife is a big decision that needs to be considered not only on the day of the wedding, but also the aftermath of the high bride price. There is a paragraph ** that went viral on the Internet that the wife of the newlyweds did not have a husband ** and became pregnant only a few months later.
To make matters worse, the wife admits that she has been unfaithful to her marriage and argues that if the husband is willing to live with her, he should not be questioned about the identity of the child's father. It stands to reason that such a wife should make the husband unbearable, but the fact is that the husband can only accept his wife's betrayal, because he borrowed 300,000 yuan in order to marry her.
Divorce and remarriage are obviously impractical, so he can only choose to endure. These stories remind us that the bride price has become an obstacle to marriage, and that we should also value the character of both men and women.
In the traditional Chinese view, men have always been regarded as the dominant players in society, while women are in a subordinate position. This idea of gender inequality has existed in society for thousands of years, and despite the growing influence of women in modern society, there are still some legacy problems of feudal society.
For example, some men are macho and often lose their temper and appear very arrogant because of their own lack of ability. However, with the development of society, women's abilities have gradually emerged, and some rich, status, and capable women have begun to emerge.
Not only are they capable of taking care of themselves, but they can even live independently. Therefore, choosing a partner who is macho and needs to be served by a woman is perhaps something that only a madman would do.
This is not only a problem for women, but also a major problem in the marriage of men and women. The reason why men beat singles, in addition to poor economic conditions, may also be a character problem, unable to attract women.
Returning to the proposal of a guest professor at Fudan University, why did it cause such a big controversy? This may be because this idea of sexism is still present in society, and people are unhappy about it.
Nepal is a unique place where some tribes practice polyandry because of poverty. The original purpose of this system was to ensure that the family's assets were not lost, and at the same time, it was necessary to live and work together on a small plot of land.
Husbands will divide and cooperate, some are responsible for plowing the fields, some are responsible for household chores, and some are responsible for making money. On the surface, their lives seem to be in harmony and order. However, this system has caused great distress and pain to the wife.
Under this system, the wife is only a tool responsible for bearing children and venting desires for several husbands, and she needs to take turns to accompany the father of the children during the night and put a special thing at the door to avoid disturbance from other husbands.
Although this system ensures the stability of the family to a certain extent, its violation of women's dignity and rights cannot be ignored.
Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory states that human needs include five levels: physiology, safety, belonging and love, respect, and self-actualization. However, Professor Wong Youguang suggested the practice of "polyandry", which clearly falls under the category of physiological needs, no different from animals.
This is contrary to the progress of human society for thousands of years, and if implemented, it will undoubtedly set human society back thousands of years. Therefore, this view cannot be shared.
So, what exactly is marriage? Is it just for the sake of succession? Obviously, this is at odds with the mainstream values of modern society. Marriage should be the union of two families, emphasizing harmonious coexistence.
In addition, the data on the gender gap of 30 million men and women is not rigorous, because this data includes the elderly and children, and is not the data of men and women of marriageable age. It has been verified that there are only 4.5 million more men of marriageable age than women.
Are 4.5 million men destined to be single? Not necessarily. Data can only tell the truth, but it cannot measure the acquired factors such as individual efforts, opportunities, and self-created values, which are important considerations in marriage decisions.
Therefore, the system of polygamy is undoubtedly a fallacy, and it can even be said that it does not look like the opinion of a well-known professor, and it is no wonder that it will trigger criticism from netizens.
The 45-year-old woman married her first love with 5 children, and although the bride price was only 110,000, it did not affect their love. Their stories tell us that true love is beyond material things, it is a pure emotional connection, and that no matter age, identity or wealth, as long as there is love, you can have a happy married life.
Hebei: By 2025, bad wedding customs such as bride price and big business will be comprehensively controlled.