I am a second-married mother with a lovely child. Some time ago, I met a man who really treated me well, and we fell in love. However, when we talked about the bride price of the wedding, there was a quarrel that broke my heart.
The bride price that my family asks for is 160,000, which is not too high in our local area. However, my boyfriend's father scolded me to my face: "A second-married woman with a child, the lion opened her mouth widely, I think 20,000 yuan is too much." I cried on the spot, pointed to my boyfriend's father and said, "What about my second marriage, I can't ask for a bride price?"If you think it's expensive, I won't marry. ”
This argument left me feeling deeply hurt and helpless. I am a mother and I need to provide a stable family environment for my children. I am also a woman, and I have the right to pursue my own happiness. However, I was so ruthlessly belittled and insulted because of my previous marriage experience.
I know that this society has a deep prejudice against women who marry for the second time. They believe that women who are married for the second time are like used commodities that no longer have value. They forget that every woman has her own value, whether she has ever been married or not, whether she has children or not.
I also understand that the bride price is a traditional custom and a sign of respect and gratitude to the woman's family. However, when the bride price becomes a transaction, a tool to measure the value of women, it has lost its original meaning.
I hope that everyone can understand and respect every woman's choice. Whether they are unmarried girls or married mothers, they have the right to pursue their own happiness. Their value should not be measured by anyone in terms of money.
I also hope that everyone will be able to respect the traditions and customs of every family. The bride price is a way to show respect and gratitude, but it should not be turned into a tool of oppression and humiliation.
Finally, I want to say to my boyfriend's father, "What about my second marriage, I can't ask for a bride price?"If you think it's expensive, I won't marry. "I know this may be the last time I shed a tear for your son. I will take my children and go to find someone who truly respects us and truly loves us.