Sammi Cheng forgives Xu Zhian: What can't you believe the most?
What is the last thing we can afford to ignore in love? Recalling that in 2019, after Xu Zhian's derailment scandal**, Sammi Cheng chose to stand up and face it. This incident is both a painful lesson for the couple and an important lesson for them on the road to marriage.
We go deep into the heart of marriage, and in addition to feeling the happiness and warmth brought by each other, we will also encounter each other's mistakes and moments that need to be forgiven. No one is immune to making mistakes, and this is a true portrayal of life.
In marriage, we need to go into each other's hearts, bravely face our weaknesses, and at the same time not give up on each other, grow together, correct each other, and encourage each other.
Sammi Cheng's choice: Behind forgiveness, is a story about growth The love story of Xu Zhian and Sammi Cheng is not a typical fairy tale love story, but a story about growing up.
Their experience has taught us that true growth is not only about realizing that you are the core of the relationship, but also about recognizing that no matter how hard you try, the progress and outcome of things that concern others will not be all under your control.
Hui Zhian and Sammi Cheng's love experience has been repeatedly turned, and they had hoped to go to a happy ending together, but in the end, no one can control the direction of the story.
At the award ceremony in 2001, Hui thanked Sammi Cheng for his encouragement and support, and thanked him for believing in himself and waiting for this award for 15 years.
Sammi Cheng couldn't cry in the audience. This story teaches us that if we put our expectations and standards of happiness on another person, then we may put ourselves in a dangerous situation.
Therefore, true growth is to realize that you are the important core of the relationship, and at the same time, to realize that even if you try hard, the progress and outcome of the things that affect others will not be all under your control.
Once upon a time, they shared many fond memories, but in the end they ended in disappointment. It's because of love, it's fickle and can't**. When you meet a scumbag, it's not because of bad luck, or because you have a bad eye, but because feelings are two people's business, and you can't fully control the other person's behavior, which is the impermanence of life.
Even if a person's essence is good, there may be limitations, with the imprint of the family of origin, with the flaws of human nature. From a psychological point of view, a person's subconscious mind often transcends rational thinking, causing them to do something unexpected.
A relationship, if it was once beautiful and now sweet, you will think that the future will also be beautiful, but everyone has a lot of inner truths and uncertainties that they don't know and can't control.
Therefore, instead of pinning all your expectations on the other person, it is better to be down-to-earth and responsible for yourself. This is the best attitude in a relationship. Because, basically, the person you're in love with is just an ordinary person.
is like the Zixia Fairy in "Journey to the West", the lover of her dreams is a hero of the world, riding colorful auspicious clouds to marry her, but her love is also full of deception and regret.
02.Love dreams can be expected, don't indulge in the illusion of loveMany women who are skeptical of feelings believe that they are insecure and therefore eager for the other person to prove their own safety.
However, a short proof does not ensure that the person is consistent. There are also many women who are hungry for love who think that they lack love, so they want to find a man who can give her a lot of love.
She ends up meeting a man who can make her feel loved, but does that guarantee that "being loved" will last for decades? There is no guarantee of the future by using the past and the present.
This is what we need to look at clearly, not have illusions, and truly understand the truth about relationships and human nature. Love can have dreams, but a long-lasting beautiful, perfect relationship is an illusion.
It is only when we find our core and are no longer completely dependent on relationships that we can truly find inner peace and security. It's hard, but it's really the way we grow and love ourselves.
We all need something deep inside that can give us peace of mind, it can be the arms of our mother, or it can be the person in the future. However, we cannot expect that person to solve all our problems, because true salvation comes from ourselves.
Sammi Cheng also suffered from depression, but she later managed to come out of the shadows and return to a state of self-confidence. "I want him to see a change in me, but what I want more is that I can live independently, whether he's there for me or not," she told us. ”
Sammi Cheng's experience makes us think deeply, do women often rely too much on each other in their relationships, pinning their self-worth and expectations of love on men? It is an unhealthy form of emotional dependence, and true growth should be self-affirmation and self-actualization.
Only when we can be independent and self-affirming can we truly realize our self-worth, instead of relying on the eyes and evaluations of others. Let's be self-centered, live in a down-to-earth way, and realize ourselves, so that we can truly achieve happiness and growth.
I want to"Have an independent self"We need to learn to gradually let go of excessive expectations and dependence on relationships. That inner child, only you can truly protect it.
Becoming a psychologically mature adult means being able to achieve a real separation from your parents and no longer rely on your mother's arms or dolls to fall asleep. This is not to say that you can't expect or get attached, but you must be wary of the dangers that can arise when there is an imbalance between expectation and attachment.
True growth is not waiting for a man to discover your value, nor is it to gain a man's affirmation by becoming excellent, but you see yourself yourself, accept your imperfections, actively express your needs and boundaries, and take the initiative to find resources to nourish yourself and protect your inner child.
Only in this way can you truly become a mature adult and no longer be a child passively waiting for love. No longer being too dependent on relationships and no longer being defined by relationships, you can truly be yourself.