Love and Misunderstanding: Deciphering the Misalignment of Family Relationships
At present, the inner emotions of many young people seem to be full of resentment and confusion. How are they? Even young people who are college students seem to have trouble escaping this emotion.
An article caught my attention about a college student who had friction with his parents during the holidays. Her parents asked her to keep accounts and plan her expenses, and she interpreted her parents' actions as distrust and dislove for her. Reading between the lines, this article reveals the author's resentment towards his parents, and one can't help but worry about this family relationship.
Let's take a look at the situation this college student faced:
First of all, she is a 20-year-old college student, legally speaking, she is an adult. She was able to earn money as a tutor and received a scholarship, which shows that her academic performance is not bad.
However, in her opinion, her parents' bookkeeping requirements for her were a form of dislove for her. She thinks that her parents are "both responsible and standing", and although they say that they don't mind her spending, in reality they don't. This made her feel neglected by her parents.
Secondly, she had a childhood full of love and care. Until she was 13 years old, she never felt like she was lacking in love. However, with the birth of her younger brother, she began to feel the change in her parents' attitude towards her. She fears that she will lose the favor of her parents, because she feels that her brother is taking away this love.
In her opinion, she is at an awkward age. She has no ability to earn money, but she needs to rely on her parents for support. However, her parents treated her as an adult and treated her with the requirement of accounting and planning expenses.
The college student's heart seems to be full of misunderstandings and dissatisfaction. She interprets her parents' concern as a restriction and distrust of her, ignoring the love and support her parents have given her. She seems to have become narrow-minded, and it is difficult to understand the good intentions of her parents.
However, it is worth noting that sisters and brothers should be one of the most intimate relationships between them. In the future, they will all be each other's most reliable support. However, this college student was unable to appreciate the beauty of this relationship because of his inner prejudice. Her heart seems to be filled with hostility towards her parents and younger brother, which is based on a misunderstanding of loving and being loved.
Perhaps, we should reflect on it: are we neglecting the education of love in the process of educating our children? Shouldn't we listen more to their hearts and understand their doubts and confusion? Perhaps, when we feel with our hearts, we can better understand each other and move towards true mutual understanding and tolerance.