Many people feel a sense of frustration after breaking up in their marriage, feeling that they have been "dumped".
At this time, some people will start to panic, either desperately send messages to the other party, begging the other party not to leave, and simply think that they can get the other party's change of heart by lowering their posture.
Or in a state of unwillingness, he thinks of revenge against the other party as a way to vent his anger and desire for control.
It's not easy to get back together, the success of the reunion is just the beginning, and the key factor that can really make the relationship last is still whether you really love each other.
Too many people don't make up their minds at the beginning, they blindly get back together, and the result is that they still repeat the mistakes of the past, and they still break up in the end.
CCTV's "Face to Face" column once aired a program, titled "The Woman Who Bited Her Nose Out", which tells the story of Chongqing Zhang Xiaoyun (pseudonym) who divorced because her marriage fell into a cycle of domestic violence, but after the divorce, she still did not get rid of her ex-husband Xu Hao (pseudonym) for her atrocities, until she was hurt the most - her ex-husband Xu Hao bit off her nose.
When Zhang Xiaoyun was 18 years old, he was introduced by relatives and met Xu Hao, who was one year older than him.
But for Zhang Xiaoyun, who has a low level of education and a gentle temper, he has never thought about what his expectations for love and marriage are.
So, two years later, Zhang Xiaoyun, who didn't consider whether he liked Xu Hao, went through the marriage procedures with Xu Hao at the urging of his parents.
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In the first year of marriage, they were as loving as an ordinary young couple.
However, less than a year after giving birth to her daughter, Zhang Xiaoyun was subjected to Xu Hao's first domestic violence.
The reason for doing it was very simple, but Xu Hao put the instant noodle bowl directly on the insole.
Seeing this, Zhang Xiaoyun was long-winded and ......
Who knew that Xu Hao would fight directly.
After being beaten, Zhang Xiaoyun's first thought was to leave.
But in the face of her young daughter and Xu Hao's constant apologies, she relented and chose to stay and forbear.
However, two years later, Zhang Xiaoyun was beaten again, and he was even more ruthless than the first time.
It turned out that Xu Hao was addicted to gambling in the past two years and owed a lot of gambling debts.
In order to avoid debts, Xu Hao took Zhang Xiaoyun to Fujian to work.
Life is unsatisfactory, which makes Xu Hao's mood more and more unstable, and he keeps swearing at Zhang Xiaoyun every day.
One day, Zhang Xiaoyun couldn't listen to it anymore, so he replied, and who knows, Xu Hao moved directly.
This hit made Zhang Xiaoyun rest for half a month, and his injuries improved.
But under Xu Hao's "sincere" apology again, in order to give the child a complete home, Zhang Xiaoyun once again chose forbearance.
has been living like this for 11 years, Xu Hao has become more and more unscrupulous, and even abused and beat Zhang Xiaoyun when he was talking to his sister on the phone.
Fortunately, through her sister, her family knew about the inhuman life she had lived for so many years, and with the support of her family, Zhang Xiaoyun bravely filed for divorce.
After a year of stalemate, Zhang Xiaoyun finally got the divorce certificate.
divorced, Zhang Xiaoyun immediately went to work in other places, and escaped from this home that frightened her.
However, Xu Hao did not let her ...... goWhat makes people angry is that he actually asked his two daughters and a son to take turns abusing Zhang Xiaoyun on WeChat.
even asked her daughter to kneel on the street, with a sign on her chest looking for her mother, and took photos and sent them to the circle of friends and classmates.
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Seeing that his daughter and son were so humiliated, Zhang Xiaoyun's heart softened ......
She agreed to have a good talk with Xu Hao, and in order to ensure Zhang Xiaoyun's safety, on the day of the meeting, the family took away all the tools that would hurt people.
I thought it was foolproof, but halfway through the conversation, Xu Hao suddenly bit Zhang Xiaoyun's nose!
By the time the two were separated, Zhang Xiaoyun's nose was gone, and his face was dripping with blood, which was very terrifying!
Xu Hao, as the perpetrator, insisted that he was right. When facing the torture of the police, he argued that because he "loved" his wife too much, he put down his body and couldn't get back together, so he "lost control of his emotions" and used extreme measures.
In the end, Xu Hao was severely punished by the law.
However, this bitten nose has become Zhang Xiaoyun's eternal injury.
She could not imagine that the man she had married, the husband who had conceived three times in October and gave birth to her children, ended up with a disability.
And Zhang Xiaoyun's three children also witnessed the whole process of their father biting off their mother's nose, and the eldest daughter did not dare to return to the house where the incident occurred until now, and when she closed her eyes, it was a picture of her father hurting her mother......
In addition to violent retaliation, there are also suicidal acts to retaliate.
2020 Miss Hong Kong contestant Liao Huiyi's 27-year-old boyfriend Sam, after breaking up, used suicide to destroy Liao Huiyi's star journey that she cared about the most.
Here's the thing.
Liao Huiyi had a 27-year-old boyfriend Sam who had been dating for a year and a half before the beauty pageant, the two had the same hobbies, liked fitness sports, and did not shy away from it during the beauty pageant, and loved it very high-profile.
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After Liao Huiyi was defeated, her ex-boyfriend Sam also publicly showed that she loved her girlfriend and was the champion of Miss Hong Kong in her heart.
But soon after Liao Huiyi entered the circle, her feelings changed.
The woman began to have scandals, and the other party was Kong Dexian, who had worked together in TV series.
Although both sides of the scandal denied it, Liao Huiyi's boyfriend publicly bombarded Kong Dexian on Instagram and warned him to stay away from his girlfriend.
At that time, Liao Huiyi explained to him that "her boyfriend drank too much", but it may be that the relationship is really bad, and the man's public diss behavior affected the woman's image and caused her more dissatisfaction.
10 days later, Sam posted another article claiming that he was ruthlessly dumped by Liao Huiyi.
said that the woman should not want herself when she enters the entertainment industry.
Sam's breakup complaint made Liao Huiyi quickly become the target of ridicule by netizens, and many netizens went to Liao Huiyi's ins to leave messages and scold her for being "the bus of the entertainment industry".
Perhaps it was this way of redemption that caused Liao Huiyi's greater disgust.
A month later, Liao Huiyi finally spoke up to fight back.
said that he just wanted to break up peacefully, but Sam tortured her by means of "stealing numbers, stalking, threatening, bombing and harassing hundreds of ** every day" and even "always threatening her to jump off the building if she didn't get back together".
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She said that it didn't matter if she was scolded by netizens, but her ex-boyfriend Sam's approach, even if he was a victim and his feelings were let down, he shouldn't have been, and it made her feel terrible and unacceptable.
Later, Sam himself admitted that he used improper means, and also accepted an interview to reflect on his performance in the relationship, saying that he regretted that he used the wrong method and did not cherish his feelings correctly.
Originally, the story came here, and there was no more to see it again.
But who knows, Sam has never given up the plan to seek death, saying that he is very mentally painful and can't accept Liao Huiyi breaking up with him, and he doesn't want to live when he thinks that his future marriage partner and lifelong partner is not Liao Huiyi.
After multiple suicide attempts, the last time, Sam committed suicide by jumping off a building and was pronounced dead at the age of 27.
The suicide note left by Sam was made public, and the suicide note said that he could not accept being betrayed and given up by the woman.
This suicide note made Liao Huiyi be abused on the Internet again, and even many netizens said that she should apologize with death.
Although the sin is not death, the star journey she cherishes is indeed hopeless.
Several of the original jobs have been canceled, and it has never been reluctant for TVB to hide a small artist who has not yet begun to spend money and energy.
Kong Dexian, who had an affair with Liao Huiyi, also lost his job and dived temporarily.
How so? Perhaps, to some extent, Sam's desire for revenge in exchange for death has been fulfilled.
He hated the entertainment industry that made him lose his girlfriend, and his girlfriend's future was gone.
He hated the male artist who had an affair with his ex-girlfriend, and the male artist was also unlucky.
But this way of dealing with it, whether it is Sam's family or Liao Huiyi, the price is too heavy.
It's not worth it.
The matter of reunion, in fact, is very logically easy to understand, that is, to re-establish trust and resolve the problems that exist with each other. As long as you are clear about these two points, and then think of ways around them, you will naturally be able to find a compound plan that suits you, so we must have a sense of purpose and direction. Don't do things that don't work. Especially the kind of self-moving things, those practices, are useless. Whether it is a man or a woman, it is always important to understand that the matter of getting back together is to make us strive to do what we can do. Don't think about the results of things, you tried hard, tried your best. Even if it doesn't work out in the end, you won't be left with too many regrets. That's it, that's enough.