Original title: The dilemma of maternal love: When love can't touch the depths of a child's heart.
In this world, mother's love is endowed with endless beauty and warmth, and is regarded as the natural driving force for children's growth. However, sometimes we have to face reality: not all mothers are able to love their children unconditionally. Once, I came across a story that shook me deeply.
The protagonist of the story is a young mother named Emily. Her life seems perfect, with a lovely son, Alex, a stable job and a happy family. However, there is an unspeakable secret behind it.
Alex is a bright, lively kid who always explores the world with curiosity. However, Emily feels unable to make a real emotional connection with him. Whenever Alex tries to approach her, she always avoids her indifferently and even chooses to run away. She would rather fill the distance between her and her son with a game on her phone than share any intimate moments with him.
This behavior left Alex confused and sad. He began to wonder if he wasn't good enough and if he had done something wrong. He tried to win his mother's attention in various ways, but all of them failed.
The loneliness and loss in his eyes struck a chord in my heart.
I decided to be honest with Emily and hope she would find a solution to her problem. Emily told me about her inner struggles. She told me that she had not felt the emotion of motherly love since Alex was born. She had tried to tell herself that it was just a momentary loss, but it turned out that the problem had been around for a long time.
It turns out that Emily suffered severe psychological trauma during her childhood, and her mother never gave her enough attention and love. She was once a lonely, timid child who longed for a mother's loving care, but never got it.
As she grew older, she gradually became cold and detached, and she began to doubt whether she was worthy of maternal love, and even doubted whether maternal love was real.
I deeply understand Emily's inner predicament. Motherhood is one of the most important forces in our lives, it is able to nourish and shape a person's physical and mental health. However, when this power is taken away, a person's heart will suffer unspeakable damage.
I faced her fears with Emily and tried to find a way out of the situation. We decided to seek professional help and seek guidance from a counsellor. With the help of a counselor, Emily gradually realizes that she can't love her children not because she doesn't want to, but because she never learned how to express and receive love.
Through a series of sessions and exercises, Emily began to gradually open her heart and release the love that was deep within. She learns how to show care and love for Alex through actions and words. She began to actively participate in his life, playing, reading and talking with him. Alex gradually felt the presence of his mother's love, and his eyes were once again full of joy and peace of mind.
This story made me think deeply. We often think that motherly love is innate, but in fact, it also needs to be learned and nurtured. Some people are unable to express and receive love naturally because of their own experiences and troubles.
However, as long as we dare to face our inner fears and seek appropriate help, we can still find an outlet for love.
The story also tells us that motherly love is not only for the child, but also for the mother herself. When a mother is unable to love her child, the lack of her heart can also take a toll on herself. By repairing and rebuilding the connection of her mother's love, Emily not only gives Alex warmth and care, but also regains her inner balance and peace.
Perhaps there are similar problems in each of our lives. Perhaps we have been deprived of some kind of experience of love, or we ourselves have not been able to truly love others.