A Man Called Ove All the losses in life will come back in another way

Frederick Buckman said

"At a certain age, all the doubts in life can be condensed into one question: how should we live? ”

Buckman once confessed that he favored the elderly and children.

Most of the protagonists of his works are children around the age of 10, or people in their fifties who are transitioning from middle age to old age.

He said:

"All the adults were furious, only the old people and children laughed. ”

But strangely, adults are not so easily happy, and most of them forget that they were also children, and they were also innocent, and they laughed.

And when the old man reaches a certain age, he has finally experienced enough, understood, let go, and calm, he can choose to be a child again, and choose to return to the simplicity of life.

Mr. Buckman's ** seems to have a magical power, awakening the sleeping child inside the adult, removing the disguise, strength or defense, bravely facing the true self, and bravely listening to the inner voice.

His representative works "A Man Named Ou Wei Decided to Die", "Grandma's Apology Letter", "The Long Way Home", "List of Life", "Bear Town", etc., each story is telling a kind of attitude to life, and it is also telling - everyone is born different.

He is good at depicting the personality characteristics of the characters, capturing the beauty of human nature, and often in the details, the goodwill and sincerity of the characters are naturally revealed.

The stories in * are often very close to our lives, intimate and ordinary, and intriguing.

Some protagonists, at the beginning, are not so much in life, but pushed forward by life.

Suddenly, one day, I inadvertently asked a "why", and the trajectory of my life changed incredibly.

Or break some conventions, or break free from the shackles of a certain concept, or jump out of the age limit......

When a person has a belief in his heart, insisting on trying some new possibility, and changing the state of life that he doesn't like, at this time, nothing can stop him.

In 2012, Buckman published "A Man Named Ove Decided to Die" and became famous.

The work was later translated into 25 languages and became an international bestseller.

In 2015, this ** was also adapted into a film of the same name and was nominated for the 89th Academy Award for Best Foreign Language Film.

*, the protagonist Ove is 59 years old, has an eccentric temper, adheres to conventions, loves Saab all his life, and expresses disdain for people who drive other cars. Dissatisfied with everything around you.

His principles are indestructible.

He is dedicated to his work.

But when you reach the age of retirement, you will also be fired.

As a retired community manager, Ove patrols around early every morning, moving bicycles that are not parked in the grid, checking whether the garbage is sorted according to the regulations, complaining about whose lawn is not mowed, and cursing the stray cat that has shed its hair.

He doesn't like anything, nothing escapes his eyes.

This is mainly due to a strong sense of social responsibility, so he always feels that it is necessary for him to take the initiative to take the burden.

But life is like this, the back waves push the front waves, and the new era does not seem to lack a retired Ove.

When he reaches a certain age, everything around him reminds him that you are not that useful.

The pace of the times is too fast, and people no longer have the patience to slow down and see how a flower blooms and how a plant grows.

People also rarely have time to say warm words to the people around them, listen carefully to a story, or make a cup of coffee with their own hands.

Everything is trendy, everything is going digital.

And Ou Wei is still down-to-earth, one step at a time.

Such an Ove himself also feels a little derailed from the times.

The world has changed! Ove pondered.

"A society where no one can dump a bucket truck, even if such a group of people actually told him that they didn't need him anymore. Is this appropriate? ”

Leaving the job that she has adhered to for decades, his wife is no longer alive, no children, no relatives, no job, no goals, and no worries.

Ou Wei felt that since there was nothing left to be nostalgic in this world, life was worthless and meaningless.

You have to kill yourself! Ove thought to himself.

Then the question arises.

His strong sense of responsibility and kindness in his bones often make suicide plans not go so smoothly.

Ou Wei planned and committed suicide a total of six times, but he failed to "get what he wanted".

Since the god of death doesn't accept it, let's just live well.

Ove, who chose to survive, gradually found that life was not so bad, but he also felt a lot of warmth.

So we will see that at the beginning of the story, Ove does not like anything, and he stubbornly wants to commit suicide.

At the end of the story, the love and warmth of the surrounding world unconditionally accepted Ove, and also allowed Ove to accept life calmly.

He chose not to waste his life anymore, but to personally verify that life can change a state of mind, a different way of living, and live a decent life.

Life and death are just a thought.

It can take many reasons to want to die, and sometimes it is just a thought to live.

Even if a lonely person is illuminated and warmed by the world once, he will have more strength and more hope for life.

Everyone will get old, and whoever he is, he can't run away from time and age.

But everyone was once a child. Growing up through experience, either lucky or unfortunate.

Speaking of Ove, he was also an unfortunate child.

When he was seven years old, his mother died of tuberculosis.

My mother used to work in a chemical factory, and at that time she was not aware of air quality safety. She also smokes, and comes to her every now and then.

There were very few memories of his mother, but Ove remembers that every Saturday, his mother would sit at the window of the kitchen, looking up at the sky, surrounded by smoke and humming songs.

He always sat on the windowsill with a math book on his lap and listened. Although his mother's voice was a little hoarse and out of tune from time to time, the young Ove liked to listen to it.

My mother is gone, and I have to live like this.

The father, who had not spoken much, became even more silent, as if his mother had taken away the only word he had.

Ove and his father depend on each other.

They don't have much, but they never have less.

There's always a way for them to keep themselves busy, too.

"There is a nest of birds living on a dead tree behind the house, and they feed it every two days. Ove understands that once every two days, it's important. He never knew why, but he never needed to understand everything thoroughly. ”

Ove's father was a railroad worker, taciturn, kind, and loved on the railroad.

At that time, everyone else had a car, but he didn't.

There was a lot of talk behind people's backs, but he still did his duty and did what he had to do.

People say it's a reliable person.

On the day of the general manager's daughter's wedding, the wedding car broke down.

Ove's father hurried with a toolbox in his hand, relieved of his urgent need.

The general manager then gave him a dilapidated Saab, and Ove's father tinkered with it.

That day, Ove's father was happy. Ove had never seen his father so proud.

8-year-old Ove immediately decided not to drive any other car except Saab in this life.

Between my father and Ove, there is not much communication between them, but they like each other's company.

When he wasn't busy, his father would drive Saab and take Ove for a walk in the countryside, which was the happiest time of the week.

There was no one at home to take care of Ove, so Ove followed his father to work on the railroad every day after school.

Some people's honesty and kindness are engraved in their bones.

If Ove picks up his wallet, he must take it to the lost and found.

He later confessed to his father that he really wanted to keep the money at that time, but he knew that he would definitely not do that if he changed his father.

Father nodded in satisfaction.

It was also around that day that Ove learned to distinguish between right and wrong.

I have the impression that from that day on, he decided to be as like his father as possible, and he was very satisfied.

Ove, who grew up with his father, inherited his father's silence as it was.

This will be evident later.

However, when Ove was sixteen years old, his father also died unexpectedly.

No one can say what that day meant to Ove. But after that day, Ove was no longer happy.

For many years after that, he was not happy.

His father was generous and kind all his life, but he had nothing to leave for Ove.

It's just an old house, a Saab that can still be driven, and a watch that has been deformed.

Thankfully, my father's personality was unanimously recognized by his colleagues, who agreed to let Ove take his father's place.

Ove then gave up his studies to work on the railway, and then lived alone, hovering between two points and one line.

Like his father, Ove was diligent and conscientious.

He found that he loved his work.

Work can bring a certain freedom, and he likes the feeling of being down-to-earth and self-reliant.

Moreover, this job continues the weak relationship between him and his father.

In addition, he found that he also loved the house.

"The house is reasonable, it can be calculated and drawn on paper, if it is not waterproofed well, it will leak, and if it is not done well, the structure will collapse. The house is fair, it gives you as much as you give. ”

He likes regularity, and he likes that there is always hope in life.

He is taciturn, has no friends, or one can say, has no direct enemies.

Ove doesn't like to get into conflict head-on, he just quietly does his thing.

It stands to reason that such a person will at least live a stable life if he doesn't provoke anyone.

But good people are sometimes favored by bad luck.

The people close to Ove left him, and the house he liked and the work he liked continued, which also deprived the boy of the only life support.

The neighbor's house caught fire, and the fire spread to Ove's house.

He chose the latter between saving his own house or saving his neighbor's grandson.

He was framed by a colleague on a trumped-up charge and lost his job.

He would have had the opportunity to defend himself, but he was unwilling to identify someone else.

"A person's qualities are determined by his actions, not by what he says. ”

The general manager believed in Ove's character and offered him a job as a night cleaner on a train in the suburbs.

The manager, who is still quite honest and generous, said

"Sending a child of a righteous gentleman to the street just because the child is also a righteous gentleman is simply a sin. ”

Life is full of accidents and surprises.

Ove worked on the railroad for five years and worked as a cleaner for two Chinese New Year's Eve.

It was the latter job that gave him the opportunity to meet the love of his life.

One ordinary morning, Ove jumped on a train and met her for the first time.

Her name is Soya, a lively and beautiful girl, and a kind and generous teacher.

Ove vividly remembers that it was the first time he had laughed since his father's death.

After that, life was never the same again.

Before he met her, the only thing he loved was numbers, and the math that others hated, Ove could be very focused and excelled.

As for childhood, Ove has no impression, at school, no one bullied him, and he didn't bully anyone.

Sports are neither good nor bad. He neither participates nor flees, but simply exists.

The mother was gone early, and the father was silent.

Ove just grew up quietly like this.

"He doesn't have a lot of memories about growing up either. He's not the kind of person who keeps everything inconsequential in his head. He remembered that he used to be happy, and after a few years, he was not happy. ”

Soya's arrival, like a beam of colored light, re-illuminates his world and enriches his life.

When we first met, she had blonde hair, red shoes, a gold brooch, and the laughter that would last for Ove's life.

She likes to talk, and Ove likes to be silent.

Ove is very punctual and hates not being punctual.

But Soya became his exception and preference.

When she appeared in front of Ove in a long printed dress and a red cardigan, Ove felt that her punctuality could be forgiven.

Ove didn't know that there would be so many moments in his life, and he was willing to spend an hour many times, just to wait for his lover.

She excitedly talks about her study career, the books she reads, and the movies she watches. When she looked at Ove, for the first time in his life, he felt like he was the only man in the world. ”

After meeting her, Ove realized that he would be willing to spend the rest of his life listening to her talk about the things she loved.

"No one ever asked Ove how he lived before he met her. But if someone asked, he would always reply that he had no life. ”

Ove is a firm believer in justice, morality, hard work, and a world where right and wrong are clear.

It is these seemingly clumsy and simple characteristics that make Soya fall in love with each other.

They have been together for many years, and they are about to usher in their happy life.

However, a bus accident deprived that little life of the right to arrive, and also made Soya need to spend the rest of her life in a wheelchair.

She said

"Live or die, Ove, we have to keep going. ”

Ove thought that in this world, she was the only one worthy of his struggle.

But she still went before him, which made Ove unable to let go for many days after that.

"People say he's mean. They may be right, but he doesn't know, he never thinks about it. People also say he's "unsociable," which Ove guesses means he doesn't like people very much, which he admits. For the most part, people aren't very reliable. ”

He cursed and cursed, but he helped his new neighbor reverse the car, helped his old neighbor fix the heating, and helped the stray cat get rid of the ...... young woman who was bullying him

Even if you want to die, you must die quietly and quietly, and never bring a little trouble to others.

After a series of failed suicide plans at home, he tried to jump off the platform, but when another person jumped first, Ove's sense of justice did not allow him to sit idly by.

He chose to jump, but to save people.

The man was saved, and Ove became what people called a "hero".

However, he saw in a trance that there was another chance to commit suicide, as long as he stood still, he could crash into the oncoming train.

But at the last moment, looking at the fear on the faces of the young man in the train, Ove couldn't bear it, so he had to dispel the idea of being hit and his flesh and blood blurred.

He is such a person who will take into account the feelings of others even when he dies.

He also loves his wife Soya, but half a year ago, his wife died of cancer.

Since then, Ove has lived alone, he often feels that life is boring, and he always thinks about suicide in his heart.

But for a kind person with a strong sense of responsibility, it is best not to cause chaos to others, and it is necessary to plan it well.

So until that day actually came, everything still looked normal.

Ove still makes coffee for two a day, and twice a day walks around all the rooms, touching the radiators to see if she has quietly turned them on.

Every week, he would always go to the cemetery with a bouquet of flowers, and talk to her about it.

Without you at home, it's a mess. ”

She didn't pick up the stubble.

I can't live this day. ”

She remained silent.

Electricity bills have gone up again. He told her when he stood up.

She replied silently.

I miss you". He whispered.

She acquiesced.

Ove was so lonely, he usually spoke little and rarely communicated with anyone, but he seemed to have a lot to say to her.

In fact, he is not a good person to find topics, so he seems clumsy and silly.

After all, once upon a time, it had always been her guiding their topic, and he was responsible for answering.

Right now, it's just a matter of saying what comes to mind.

Yesterday I promised to come but didn't, you must be angry. He muttered.

She remained silent.

Although there was little response.

He would also tell her how he planned suicide and how he failed again and again, and how his new neighbors annoyed and the trivialities of the neighborhood.

He carefully dug up the old flowers that had been planted there the previous week, turned over the frozen soil, and planted new ones.

She'll love it, he thought.

Life meets life, and sometimes it is a kind of mutual fulfillment.

Soya often said:

Every path you take in your life will eventually "lead you to your destined destination."

Ove's kindness was rewarded with more kindness that he had never expected.

When he let go of suicidal thoughts and began to open his eyes to look at the world again, the world also radiated light to him.

He helped the old neighbors who had not been in contact with him for many years to ventilate the heat, and did his best to ensure that the neighbors were not taken away by the people in the nursing center.

They let go of each other's prejudices and chose to forgive and let go.

Another neighbor's third child was born, and Ove had an unprecedented grandson or granddaughter.

He had cared for an unlucky cat who had stayed with him for a long, long time until Ove closed his eyes peacefully.

He was bent on death, but in the end he was particularly greedy for the simplest happiness of the world.

The world isn't that good, but it's not that bad either.

Where there is shadow, there is light, and where there is coolness, there is warmth.

Text: Not interesting, soul & plain shoes.