At the deep level of human nature, there is a force that is always surging in the undercurrent, and that is that "fear of power is better than respect for morality". By mastering this psychological tactic, you can avoid being bullied in every situation in your life. In the face of those who do not respect you, even if you do not fight back directly, you should learn to look at them calmly and firmly, let the atmosphere solidify, and let them feel your bottom line and determination.
Through such psychological battles, you can make the other person realize that your feelings and positions need to be respected in future exchanges. Remember, your position is not built by unprincipled concession and forbearance, but by making others feel awe of you. Why do some people dismiss your kindness and even be even more arrogant when you are nice to them?
The reason for this situation is you. Why? Because the reason why others dare to be presumptuous to you is essentially nothing more than two reasons:
1.They think that you have no principles anymore and think that you are an easy person to bully, so they will have no scruples in front of you. Just like when you first interact with people, everyone is more polite because they don't know each other's personality and strength. As time goes on, people test each other's bottom line in constant contact. If you show cowardice, the other person will test your limits further until they have a complete grasp of you. Once you get along with each other in a "he's strong and you're weak" pattern, it becomes very difficult to change.
2.Your kindness can sometimes seem cheap because people tend not to value what is easily obtained. On the contrary, if you usually keep your cool and occasionally lend a hand, others will be grateful to you. Good people aren't always good, and bad people aren't always bad. Sometimes, a bad guy does a good deed, and people think that there is something to forgive about him. And once a good person does something bad, there is often no possibility of being forgiven.