For many young people, the end of the year means another year longer.
During the Chinese New Year, many unmarried young people of single school-age will always encounter a topic that cannot be avoided - blind date.
Especially for single women in their first years, their parents are eager to find them a boyfriend right away.
They also seem to be much more lenient with the man's conditions.
Some girls can't help but ask, "Should I find someone to marry in order to meet my parents' expectations?" Will I be happy in the future? ”
My friend Xiao Yan is 32 years old this year, and her parents are very anxious about her life events.
During the Chinese New Year, her parents arranged three blind dates for her.
The first blind date was 7 years older than her, and she was out and about engineering projects all year round.
The two had a preliminary exchange on WeChat.
Before the exchange, the other party explained the situation, if there is no feeling, you can not meet, which can save the energy and time of both parties.
Xiao Yan also had this intention, and felt that the other party was reasonable.
After watching **, Xiao Yan found that he was indeed not the type he liked, so he expressed his thoughts to the other party, and the two ended the blind date peacefully.
However, when Xiao Yan's father learned about this, he began to count her down.
He blamed Xiao Yan for being ignorant, thinking that even if he didn't feel it, he should meet out of politeness.
Xiao Yan tried to explain the other party's idea to her father, but her father still insisted on his opinion.
The second blind date made an appointment to meet in advance, but when the time came, he was late in nowhere to be seen, which made Xiao Yan feel very disappointed.
And the third blind date object expressed his opinion on Xiao Yan's current status of not finding a boyfriend.
He said that Xiao Yan must be too visionary, and he is quite capable of carrying it at such an age.
This kind of remark made Xiao Yan instantly lose the will to continue chatting.
Xiao Yan has never resisted blind dates, she knows that the circle after work is very small, and if she doesn't take the initiative to get to know others, it is indeed difficult to find her other half.
Once introduced Xiao Yan to a blind date at home, Xiao Yan was busy with work at that time.
He said to Xiao Yan: "What are girls doing when they are so tired? That's pretty much it. ”
Xiao Yan replied: "How can you make money if you don't work?" ”
He said, "I can support you." ”
It's just a new male, but there is no sense of boundaries.
Later, she also came into contact with other blind dates one after another, and encountered all kinds of strange things.
"I also want to find a boyfriend as soon as possible, but if I want to spend the rest of my life with people who lack a sense of boundaries and don't respect others, I'd rather be single," Xiao Yan said. ”
Xiao Yan's experience is not unique, and many young people who work outside the home face similar problems.
Blind dates are a traditional way to find a partner.
However, blind dates carry a certain amount of negative emotions among many young people.
Many young people firmly believe that love should happen naturally, not through a blind date that can be arranged.
They believe that blind dates often lack authenticity and make it difficult to cultivate real feelings.
At the same time, they are unhappy with the excessive intervention of parents and introducers, believing that it is a neglect of their personal choices.
There are also young people like Xiao Yan, who do not reject blind dates.
They know that their social circle is limited and they need to reach out to more people in other ways to find a suitable partner for them.
But the reality is often not satisfactory, and most of the people they have come into contact with on blind dates are not very suitable.
When blind dates fail, they often get a response like "if you have more contact, you will like it, and your relationship needs to be cultivated".
Some parents will even say, "It's almost enough, you're so old, it's even harder to find in the future, so don't pick it." ”
This makes them feel that their feelings are being ignored by their closest parents, leaving them with disappointment and sadness.
The essence of a blind date should be for the happiness of both parties, not to become the fuse of family conflicts.
As parents, we should not allow our children to marry for the sake of getting married.
Because, if the children are not happy after marriage, it will become an eternal pain in the hearts of parents.
As children, we should try to communicate with our parents so that they understand our concerns and ideas.
I hope that there will be more understanding and tolerance between parents and children.
For people who crave love, blind dates provide an opportunity to meet someone new.
We hope that everyone who is looking for love can find the person with whom they can spend their life in their own way.
Blind dates should not be a burden in life, but should be a process full of surprises.
Parental understanding and support are crucial in this process.
Parents should understand the young person's position and give them enough space and time to make their own decisions.
I sincerely hope that everyone can find their own happiness and be able to have a lover who will eventually become married.