Husband and wife get along very well, do not pretend to be deaf, do not be dumb, do not pretend to be blind
Some say it's the grave of love, while others see it as a haven of happiness.
How can we make the boat of marriage steady in the wind and waves and sail to the other side of happiness?
In fact, the secret lies in three words:
Nope
Pretend to be deaf, not dumb, not blind.
1. Don't pretend to be deaf: Listening is the bond of the heart.
In marriage, we often encounter situations like this:
Our partner is excited to share our joys and sorrows, while we are absent-minded and even perfunctory.
This kind of behavior of pretending to be deaf is undoubtedly a kind of neglect and harm to the feelings of the partner.
Listening is not only to listen with your ears, but also to feel with your heart.
When we really listen to our partner, we can understand their joys and sorrows, and feel their emotional changes.
This understanding and feeling will bring us closer to our partner's heart and strengthen the emotional bond between each other.
In order to truly listen, we need to put aside what we are doing and devote our full attention to the communication with our partner.
We need to use our eyes, expressions, and body language to express our concern and interest, so that our partner can feel our sincerity and warmth.
At the same time, we also need to learn to ask questions and give feedback, guide our partners to express their feelings and thoughts in depth, and make the communication richer and deeper.
2. Don't be dumb: Communication is the key to solving problems.
In marriage, the importance of communication cannot be overstated.
Too often, however, we choose to be dumb, that is, to remain silent or avoid talking.
Not only does this not solve the problem, but it also deepens the gap between each other.
Communication is the key to problem solving.
Through communication, we can understand the needs and expectations of our partner, find the crux of the problem, and work together to solve the problem.
This kind of open and honest communication will allow us to get to know each other better and enhance mutual trust and tacit understanding.
In order to communicate effectively, we need to learn to express our feelings and thoughts instead of suppressing them.
At the same time, we must also learn to listen to our partners' opinions and suggestions, and respect each other's differences and choices.
In the process of communication, we should also remain calm and rational to avoid emotional words and actions that hurt each other's feelings.
3. Don't pretend to be blind: Recognition is the source of happiness.
In marriage, we often ignore our partner's dedication and efforts, or even take them for granted.
This kind of blind behavior can make partners feel neglected and unrecognized, which can affect each other's happiness.
Recognition is a source of happiness.
When we see and recognize our partner's dedication and efforts, we can stimulate more motivation and motivation for them, making the relationship deeper and stronger.
This kind of recognition and encouragement will make us cherish each other's existence more and work together for the happiness of our family.
In order to achieve true recognition, we need to learn to observe and discover the strengths and strengths of our partner, and give timely affirmation and encouragement.
At the same time, we must also learn to tolerate and accept our partners' shortcomings, and warm their hearts with love and understanding.
In the process of recognition, we also need to be sincere and candid, so that our partner can feel our sincerity and care.
The secret of happiness in marriage is not to pretend to be deaf, not to be dumb, not to be blind.
Through listening, communicating, and acknowledging, we are able to better understand, be close to, and cherish our partner, making our relationship deeper and stronger.
This pattern of getting along can not only help us solve the problems in our marriage, but also make us more united and strong in the face of life's challenges.
Marriage is a book, noChapter 1 is written with psalms, while the rest are plain prose.
May we all find our own happy poems in this plain prose.