5 Let your child experience setbacks as early as possible

At present, frustration training is very important in children's education!

Many children are missing this lesson.

In the seventies and eighties and even nineties of the last century, almost every child grew up with various blows or blows.

So there was no such thing as frustration education at that time.

But in the new century, this kind of education has been seriously lacking.

Now that the children have gone to university, master's degree, and doctorate, they encounter a little setback, and some of them even choose to commit suicide!

There are various reasons for this, but from an adult's point of view, it is not a hurdle that cannot be overcome.

For example, falling out of love, failing to pass the test, failing to do well in the graduate school entrance examination, and some are just because they have a bad relationship with their classmates......

That's how I met such a child.

His father is a civil servant, his mother is a teacher, and he is the only child.

Of course, he is pampered, and he is regarded as a treasure wherever he goes.

In his senior year, he stayed in school for graduate school during the summer vacation.

I had a dispute with my parents over the choice of major.

The father, based on the experience of the past, felt that he should find a job in the future first, but the child had his own ideas and disagreed.

His father rushed to the school to communicate with him.

Anyway, both sides are not very pleasant.

As a result, before his father left school, he jumped directly from the school building.

One can imagine how big a blow it will be to the father and the family.

For several years, the whole family, including my grandparents' house, did not celebrate the New Year.

Later, I had a daughter through surgery, and I turned around.

In this case, one is selfish, never thinking about others, and the other is that there is no patience and no setbacks.

And endurance is not cultivated by reading a few books or telling a few storiesRather, it is cultivated by physical exercise.

Therefore, when the child is young, he must be allowed to suffer a little.

For example, some of our parents let their children go back to the countryside during the summer vacation of primary school to help with rice harvesting or planting rice at relatives' homes.

In front of him, he said that he would be allowed to work with relatives and children, and he would finish the work for a week.

His parents are not around, and he has children of the same age, no matter how tired he is, he is embarrassed to be lazy, and he will not show his grievances.

After a few summer vacations, he will experience the hardships of labor and the hardships of life.

The child will also think that he only does one week a year, and the children of the farmers have to do all kinds of farm work every day.

After such physical labor, thoroughly exhausted, the child will be much more sensible.

One of the shortcomings of education is that many parents are reluctant to let their children suffer.

I was reluctant to fight, and I was not allowed to be strictly controlled by the school.

When the child quarrels with his classmates at school and thinks that he has not won or has been reprimanded by the teacher, the parents sue the school at every turn.

This leads to many things that schools dare not do, such as criticizing children, letting children do physical exercises, and building endurance.

These are actually very useful for children.

If the child is indeed at school due to poor school management, of course, the school can be held responsible.

But for some trivial things, just feel that the child has been wronged and find trouble with the teacher, so how can the school educate?

I remember a few years ago, the deputy director of a police station in Hunan Province was punished by the teacher because his daughter was late for class, so he drove a police car directly into the school and forcibly took the teacher to the police station for an hour of detention!

Some trainings are indeed easier for schools to organize, but it is difficult for parents to do them.

For example, every morning the children are asked to arrive early and run for half an hour.

At that time, I was asked by my homeroom teacher to run as long as it didn't rain. Therefore, the classmates in the class have fewer colds.

Also, I believe that many parents have taken their children to learn to swim.

The age at which you learn to swim must be young, preferably before the child is ** years old.

Anyone who has learned to swim knows that parents follow the child closely, protecting him every step of the way, for fear that he will take water, this method, most children will not learn.

And be ruthless, let him flutter in the water, drink water a few more times, and after a few times, he will learn!

And children continue to drink water in the water, keep summarizing, and finally learn to suffer by themselves, and that sense of accomplishment can be remembered for a lifetime, and they will be very proud.

When he felt that he was about to be drowned, he had to pedal hard and push upward, and as a result, he not only survived on his own, but also learned to swim.

A child who has had many similar setbacks, no matter what difficulties he encounters in the future, he will definitely think about how to overcome them, and in the end, he will definitely persevere.