"The divorce rate is getting higher and higher, and there are many couples who divorce because of subtle differences. If I can't live with you, I'll consider living with someone else. Well, the older generation thinks, it's broken, just fix it. "But young people think that if something breaks, they have to buy a new one.
Do you really think that changing one person will solve the problem? In fact, if you change one person, you may have different problems or you may have the same problems, so why not try to change another person? Therefore, here are five things you need to do if you want your marriage to last.
1.Communicate effectively and avoid the Cold War.
Communication is an important part of maintaining a long-term marriage in a long history. Avoid misunderstandings and conflicts, and enhance understanding and affection between husband and wife. This is necessary to avoid the Cold War destroying trust between couples.
Mr. Wang and Mr. Li are a very loving couple. We have been married for over 10 years. We have always emphasized effective communication in our marriage, avoiding cold wars and facing problems head-on. If there is a conflict with each other, they always choose to communicate effectively, listen to each other's thoughts and feelings, respect each other's opinions, and find solutions together. This positive style of communication allows you to maintain good communication and interaction throughout your marriage.
On the contrary, couples they know always choose a cold war when they have problems, and every time a disagreement or conflict arises, they fall into a state of apathy and alienation. Over time, the couple's relationship became increasingly fragile, eventually leading to the breakdown of the marriage. These examples show that effective communication is the key to a long-lasting marriage. Far from solving the problem, the cold war has complicated it.
For a long-term and stable marriage, couples need to learn to listen, understand, respect each other, and face problems together.
2.Grow together and maintain balance.
Mr. Li and Mr. Lin have been together for more than 20 years. From the campus to the wedding dress, we have experienced the ups and downs of life together, always supporting each other and growing together.
In marriage, two people learn to maintain balance, respect each other's autonomy and individuality, always cope with difficulties and challenges together, enjoy happiness and success, share together, and celebrate together. They also maintain the pace of personal growth in their marriage.
Ms. Li has continued to progress in her career, and Ms. Lim has become an excellent teacher. Not only does their personal growth make them proud of each other, but in marriage, they not only take care of each other's needs but also set goals together. We plan to pursue a better life together.
This mutual growth allows the two of you to keep progressing and improving your marriage. They also know how to maintain balance. As we grow together, we also encounter a variety of ** and challenges. However, they were always able to maintain balance and keep their marital commitments.
In this way, they breathe new life into their marriage. By growing together and maintaining balance, Lee and Lin had a long and happy marriage.
3.Control emotions and avoid conflict.
If you want your marriage to last, you need to control your emotions and avoid conflict. When you experience dissatisfaction or disagreement in your marriage, do you choose to be angry or sit down? Of course, the latter will help your marriage last longer.
Mr. Zhang and Mr. Wang have known each other for many years and have been friends for more than 10 years. They have valuable experience. This means that no matter what difficulties or disagreements they encounter, they will choose. Instead of blaming each other and accusing each other of the Cold War, it is better to communicate calmly.
For example, when discussing family finances, even if Mr. Wang felt that Mr. Zhang was spending money on unnecessary projects, he would not immediately get angry or criticize him for wasting expenses, but would take a deep breath and calm down. "If you express your opinion and worry about her, Ms. Zhang will also listen carefully and respond rationally, instead of getting angry because of such trivial things. This is how the contradiction is handled. Most of the arguments and complaints in a marriage will be avoided if you can understand each one. "Communicating effectively, solving problems effectively, managing one's emotions well, and avoiding conflicts is not an easy task, and it requires the patient understanding and efforts of both husband and wife.
4. Mutual understanding and respect.
Husbands and wives must understand and respect each other. In daily life, we should always pay attention to the changes of the other party and understand the mood of the other person. Only then can we understand each other. Husbands and wives must respect the wishes of both parties when dealing with family conflicts. The secret of a long marriage is not romantic love, but mutual understanding and respect in everyday life.
5.Loyalty, trust, and commitment to the end goal.
The key to a long marriage is fidelity. Even in the face of ** and difficulties, you must remain faithful to your partner. Over the years, loyalty remains. Trust is the foundation of marriage, and every trust is like a small lighthouse that illuminates the way forward.
No matter how bad your partner is, no matter how bad your relationship is, you have to stay faithful unless you don't want to be together. If you betray your opponents, you will also leave a shadow on them. Then he won't trust you anymore.
Marriage is not about running away when you encounter problems, but about solving problems, not about changing people to solve them. Marriage is hard-won, so cherish it.