In the second year of the divorce, I married a poor boy, got pregnant unexpectedly, and slapped my ex-husband in the face
Wang Quanbao is tall and has a big head, but his thin body seems to be able to be blown into the sky by the breeze.
He is 1.8 meters tall, only about 60 kilograms, and his smart brain is slightly prominent, but a large red birthmark on his face makes him feel inferior.
On the surface, it looks quite chic, but once he turns around, he reveals his inner cowardice and never dares to look directly at the crowd.
The feeling of low self-esteem has been with him since he was a child, penetrating his nerves and heart, and still stinging his heart even as time passes.
Because of the defects in his face, Quan Bao has always had low self-esteem.
He has been timid and afraid since he was a child, and he doesn't like crowded occasions, and after graduating from high school, he chose to major in car repair to avoid too much socialization.
My friends may think that I am a little stupid to be with him, and some people may even express their incomprehension to me.
After all, it is easy for a civil servant with a solid net worth and a privileged family to choose a man with an ordinary appearance but a different personality.
However, I threw myself into this relationship without hesitation and rushed into the arms of Wang Quanbao.
My name is Beauty, and my friends call me by that name.
In 2015, when I was 29 years old, I ended my marriage that year, and after five years of struggle, I finally made the decision to let go.
After the divorce, I became irritable and irritable, sensitive and restless to everything around me.
No one knew what I was struggling with, including my parents, and they didn't understand the real reason for my divorce. In their eyes, I was just a willful girl, and I wanted to dink, and I divorced when I felt that my personality was incompatible.
I often wanted to cry out loud and pour out all my grievances, but I always endured it.
I tried to pull myself together to go to work, but my friends always advised me, "Get a man and start a family." "I could only laugh and not speak, how could they understand my fear? In my last marriage, I had enough of the stares and sarcasm of others.
If it weren't for that trance, I accidentally touched someone else's car, maybe I would have been alone forever and couldn't be a mother.
One morning in 2016, when I was buying Hangzhou xiaolongbao on the side of the road, somehow, my mind seemed to go blank, but I didn't pull the handbrake, and the car crashed into it with a "bang".
Two big men rushed over and unceremoniously demanded that I lose money. I told them I had insurance, but they didn't say yes, claiming they were in a hurry to drive away.
We had an argument and they insisted that I pay 2,000 yuan in compensation, and one of them rudely pushed me. Suddenly, a tall and thin man appeared, and he was Wang Quanbao.
He immediately stood in front of me: "We can discuss the vehicle issue, but what kind of ability is it to bully a woman?" It's not that people don't want to compensate, just be reasonable if you want it. ”
Even though I don't know anything about it, I can clearly see their deception.
Wang Quanbao took out a small bottle from his toolbox, applied it a few times and wiped it, and the item was completely new, but the two fat men were still skeptical.
I didn't want to dwell on them anymore, so I gave them 500 yuan and told them to leave. Wang Quanbao said I was paying too much, they were fraudsters. I just smiled and thanked him and left.
That day, I remembered this warm-hearted man with a birthmark on his face.
In the past, my colleagues always said that there is a magic on Douyin, you can see what you think of, and I didn't believe it at first.
But once I believed it thoroughly, and when I was bored at night, I swiped ** on Douyin, and suddenly pushed a car repair **, which was magical.
The streamer was wearing a mask and couldn't see his true face, but his voice captivated me and made me stop sliding my fingers.
The voice sounded familiar, and as soon as I heard it, I knew that it was the guy who helped me fix my car during the day.
I had a rare opportunity to ask him a lot about cars.
Even though we were just talking about cars that day, I felt happy inside.
So I immediately followed him, entered his homepage, and checked his ** one by one, only to know that he was really a shop owner with his own car repair shop.
Since then, I often go to his live broadcast room to chat in my free time to pass the lonely time.
It was May Day, and I drove my parents to the hot springs, but when I walked to a remote and desolate place, the tire of my car blew.
Standing under the scorching sun, I made countless calls for help**, only to be told that it was too far away to come. When I wanted to cry without tears, I suddenly thought of the masked anchor who could repair cars.
Through Douyin, the only way I could be contacted, I wrote my message for help in the message box.
Unexpectedly, he replied, asked for the approximate address and my ** number, and then drove for more than an hour to rescue me without saying a word.
The moment they met, he was surprised and said, "It turned out to be you." ”
I'm also sure I heard him right, it's really the same person.
That day, he braved the scorching sun and repaired my car. I handed him a bottle of Red Bull, and he waved his hand and refused it. I wanted to pay him for the repair, but he also refused, saying that he was very grateful for my support in the live broadcast room.
To be honest, I was a little touched that day. I don't believe that there are such simple and kind people in this world.
Later, I added WeChat with him. To thank him for his help twice, I invited him to a meal, but in the end he paid for it.
It was this back and forth that opened a new chapter in my life.
He was three years younger than me.
He has experienced the struggle of an auto repair apprentice, a 4S shop technician, and then opened his own car repair shop, relying on technology and integrity to win a good business.
I, on the other hand, came from a well-to-do family but had a failed marriage.
Despite our different backgrounds, if we had met at the age of 20, we probably wouldn't have chosen each other.
However, the ups and downs of life and experiences have gradually brought us closer.
In the process of getting along, I found that he treated me without inferiority, was cheerful and open-minded, and could talk and laugh with me.
We actually like to play the same game, and from the beginning of the game, we forget about the difference in identity.
He knew about my divorce experience, encouraged me not to be discouraged, thought that there were still many good men in the world, and even admitted that if it weren't for his mutilated face, he might have pursued me.
He also shared the heartache he had experienced because of his facial problems.
Listening to his experience, I felt distressed.
I said angrily that the appearance is just the skin, and the heart is the important thing.
After I finished speaking, he looked at me, and I suddenly felt a little embarrassed and stammered.
My words gave him hope, and he grabbed my hand and expressed his desire to take care of me for the rest of my life.
I withdrew my hand in surprise and was speechless.
Looking at his discolored face, I felt a little cruel.
To lighten the mood and give each other a chance, I said, "Let's take our time." ”
To be honest, I still have a good impression of Wang Quanbao. Although I agreed to be with him, it was not because I sympathized with him, as I said, I believe that the beauty of the soul is what really matters, and the appearance is just a layer of skin.
I hesitated mainly because his confession came too suddenly, and I was not mentally prepared.
In addition, after going through a marriage, I have a better idea of what kind of man I really need. Although my ex-husband is very good and handsome, he secretly does many dishonorable things, which makes me deeply understand the emptiness of appearance.
In order to maintain the face of my marriage, in order not to worry my parents, I forced my face to smile, held back tears, and worked hard to maintain my marriage for five years.
The doctor told me that Gong Han was difficult to conceive, which made me a scapegoat in my ex-husband's family, and a nail in my mother-in-law's eyes, and also a resentful woman in my ex-husband's mouth. I tried my best to have a child and even considered IVF, but my ex-husband's non-cooperation made it all come to naught. Eventually, to save face, I declared that we chose Dink.
The five-year marriage ended in divorce......
What if you don't have a high degree or a good family background? What does it matter if you have a birthmark on your face?
As long as we can earn money cleanly and rely on our own ability, we should not be ridiculed.
I could feel his inferiority complex and understand the pain in his heart.
The day we confirmed our relationship was November 11, 2016, Singles' Day.
When Quanbao hugged me gratefully and said that I had given him happiness so that he could finally take off his single hat and stop having that bullshit Singles' Day, my heart was shaken.
Maybe we are all waiting for love, waiting for our own harbor.
I tentatively asked my parents if they would object if I remarried.
My mother laughed all of a sudden, and she said, "There is no reason not to get married, you should have found someone to accompany you a long time ago." In the future, when your father and I are old, who will take care of you? ”
My dad started asking, "How's that man?" What is the profession? What is the family situation like? Do you have children? Is it good for you? ”
Dad, don't worry, your daughter is already divorced, and it's good that someone is willing to accept it. ”
You can't be hasty, you can't compromise, and if you can't find the right one, you'd rather not find it. No matter who you choose, you need to go through my review, and you can't choose without permission. I can't accommodate you like I did last time. ”
My mother seemed to sense my thoughts: "Tell me, my dear, what does that man do?" Is it good for you? ”
I described the situation of the royal treasure in a vague way.
My father was furious and scolded me for having a problem with my brain. He said that there are so many men with good conditions in the system, why I don't know how to look for it, but I just found a car repairer, and it is a ......
My father slammed the door in anger, and my mother sighed and said that no one will blame you for a bad marriage, but if a second marriage is not good, it's a woman's problem.
In order to convince them, I revealed to my mother the fact that Gong Han could not get pregnant, and told her all kinds of injustices that my ex-husband's family had done to me.
I confessed to my mother that I believed that Wang Quanbao really loved me, even if he didn't care about the troubles I felt.
As a divorced woman, I don't see any disadvantage in getting along with an unmarried man. I don't care about his appearance and profession.
My mother didn't persuade me again, she just wiped her tears gently and advised me to think twice.
The reason my father treated me so hard and didn't let me make impulsive decisions again was because they were against my first marriage.
Although the family is a good match, my ex-husband's family is not friendly. Although he had a position in his work, my father always believed that marriage was not just a matter of two people, but also a relationship between two families. I couldn't understand that at the time.
I was very stubborn and insisted on marrying him. Due to some details that caused unpleasantness to the two families, we hardly interacted with each other later. Therefore, I was reluctant to tell my parents about my troubles, and I did not get any support, so I let my in-laws bully me.
My ex-husband's marriage to me wasn't entirely impulsive, we were in love with each other.
Looking back, my biggest mistake was not getting to know his family situation in depth.
His mother is very controlling, and his sister likes to sow discord.
His mother and sister were always in a bad mood.
Later, I couldn't get pregnant because of the cold in my palace, and they put the blame on me.
The happiness after marriage was short and wonderful, but with the issue of not being able to conceive, our relationship began to strain. He started complaining about me and even started beating me.
Not being able to have children became the trigger for our divorce.
As a Bensan woman, I had to secretly endure the pain of **, and I also had to claim that we were Dinkists, which was really uncomfortable.
For the sake of a child, I was even willing to pay for him to do IVF myself, but he didn't care.
Later, he got along with a girl in the unit, and often didn't return home, I finally saw everything clearly, and laughed at my stupidity at the beginning, and I actually suffered for such a man.
In order to free myself, I filed for divorce and quickly left that sad place.
This time, I made another decision that I considered willful, and the royal throne, which was completely different from our family's background, became my choice.
Although I was hesitant, once the rebellious mood hit, I became more and more persistent.
Especially when I stepped into the door of Wang Quanbao's house, I was attracted by the warm and harmonious atmosphere, which made me full of envy and longing for this family, eager to quickly integrate into it.
Although their family is ordinary, their father is a retired worker, their mother is a housewife, and their sister and brother-in-law run a small shop.
But they were so amiable in their manners and took me, a first-time visitor, very seriously. They dressed in their best clothes, prepared a sumptuous meal, and my sister and brother-in-law even closed the shop and stayed at home to entertain me with all their might.
I was touched by their enthusiasm, and they did not have any prejudice against me because I was divorced and unable to have children, on the contrary, they praised me for being blessed to be acquainted with the royal treasure of their family.
I was even more moved by his mother's words, she told me that although Wang Quanbao had a birthmark on his face, he was not inferior to others in other aspects, filial and enthusiastic, and was always willing to help those in need in his neighborhood.
I kept nodding my head because I had come to appreciate the king's character. He is a man who makes me feel at ease, measured and thoughtful.
Despite my parents' resolute attitude, Kwon Bao's parents still came to propose marriage according to traditional etiquette. Although my father's face was gloomy, he received them politely, and he could barely see each other.
Wang Quanbao's parents were courteous and thoughtful, and sent many gifts, including new houses and new cars, and even generously gave a bride price.
The wedding was not grand, just the family got together for a simple meal.
To our surprise, three months after we got married, I found out that my period did not come, and I didn't pay much attention to it at first, until I had some unusual symptoms, and I went to the hospital for a check-up together.
We were pleasantly surprised that I was pregnant with a baby. I looked at Kwon Bao's eyes, and his face was also full of consternation, who would have thought that we would welcome our own child?
My parents were overjoyed to hear the news and invited us home for dinner for the first time.
Seeing Quanbao's concern for me, my father's attitude began to ease a lot. Perhaps in the hearts of every parent, they hope that their daughter can marry a good person. I used to just want to marry decently, but then I realized that a kind partner is far more important than everything else.
For my sake, Quan Bao quietly traveled to Shanghai to undergo facial laser surgery.
Looking at his fading birthmarks, I felt sorry for him and hugged him tightly: "Why do you want to do this? ”
He was silent, just hugged me tighter. I know he feels sorry for me, and he longs to enjoy the stability and happiness that love and marriage bring like everyone else.
With its honest car repair technology, Quanbao has won the trust of many old customers, and its business is booming day by day. The year my son was born, he decided to expand the business and opened a new repair shop.
Kwon Po's family, including his parents and sister, was especially nice to me. They always supported me and gave me warmth and care, which made me feel very emotional. From the loneliness of the past to the warmth of the family now, I feel the beauty of life.
The family is reunited, supports each other, and shares a happy time.
Looking back, I experienced a fierce love affair with my ex-husband, but it lacked lasting warmth and unwavering commitment.
I didn't mean to compare Quanbao with my ex-husband, but through the experience of life, I learned a lot and felt a lot of emotion.
I quietly stepped into the palace of marriage, silently ushered in the joy of pregnancy, and then welcomed the arrival of a new life without hesitation, because I wanted to show the world the happiness I had.
However, my decision shocked my colleagues and friends, who accused me of making crazy choices and even advised me if I had lost my mind after the divorce.
Only I know what kind of peace and happiness I desire.
Maybe my new partner doesn't have a dazzling appearance and doesn't have an enviable social status, but he's been working hard for our family, trying to change, and he wants to give me a warm home, a safe haven, and that's enough.
He did not hesitate to give me all the financial power, which is a great trust for a woman.
Now, my parents are starting to like him, and even more so our precious son.
I found that he was now more confident, and my mother-in-law said that if it weren't for me, he wouldn't have had that distressing laser surgery.
Looking at my mother-in-law's eyes full of distress and satisfaction, I couldn't help but feel tears wet my eyes.
In a way, he gave me the courage to start over, to become a mother, to feel love again, and I saw more love in his eyes, not only for me, but also for our children.
With the birth of the child, my relationship with him is deeper, we care about each other, and we have to fight several ** every day, and I also began to enjoy the life of ordinary people, and I like to share the child and his bits and pieces on social platforms.
This series of events aroused the jealousy of her ex-husband.
He called me ** in a mean tone, but eventually apologized and admitted that he had treated me inappropriately before. I felt his loss, but I still had doubts in my heart.
I didn't ask too much about his life, just politely greeted him and hung up**.
Later, I learned from others that the relationship between the ex-husband and the young girl had not progressed. His mother insisted on waiting until there were signs of pregnancy before agreeing to their marriage, but sadly, despite a year together, the girl never got pregnant.
The ex-husband felt anxious and eventually had to go to the hospital for a checkup. He was shocked by the results of the examination, and he was diagnosed with necrospermia. This fact was like a bolt from the blue for him, and he finally understood that not being able to conceive a child was not my problem at all.
The whole family was stunned, and what was even more difficult for them to accept was that I had remarried and had a son.
For men, it's a harsh reality. At first, I advised him to go to the hospital for a check-up, but he was reprimanded because he always thought that men would not have fertility problems.
If they had known the truth earlier, maybe they wouldn't have been so indifferent to me, and maybe I would have had different life choices with him.
However, life can't go back to the past, and I can accept it, but they can't. This led to a turning point in fate and brought a new chapter in life.
In 2020, I added a chubby daughter to our little princess, adding more joy to our family.
The epidemic has brought some twists and turns to our lives, but my husband Kwon Po has not been defeated. He was flexible and resourceful, aggressive in soliciting business, and although he was affected by some influences, he still worked hard. He was undaunted, skilled and relied upon, which allowed him to win many important orders.
Our marriage has been going through six years, and although it has not been smooth sailing, I am grateful to my husband for being tolerant of me. My father often said that when I was over thirty, I was still so willful, and I admit that in front of my husband, I did enjoy his favor to the fullest, and sometimes I would be willful a few times, enjoying his spoiling.
I never felt that he was younger than me, on the contrary, I felt that his arms were so strong that I and my children felt extremely relieved and grounded.
This year, we have a new home, a spacious and bright four-bedroom and two-living room, which is my husband's dream to realize step by step, and it is also his promise to me. He said that he wanted to give me and my children a good life, and he is fulfilling this promise step by step, and I have witnessed his hard work and dedication.
Someone asked me, as an excellent person, do you feel wronged to choose an ordinary partner? You can have everything, so why look for an ordinary person?
I would say that this is exactly why I chose.
Because I have so much, I can calmly choose someone who truly loves me.
money, I can earn it myself. Family, I can build on my own.
I don't need to rely on marriage to improve my standard of living, let alone rely on marriage to change my social status.
For me, a man is not a capital to show off, but a partner to bring ordinary happiness.
In the past, in order to pursue happiness, I used to keep my voice down, but in the end, I didn't get it. Only by experiencing it first-hand can I understand how precious it is to be ordinary and unmaterialistic.
I can divorce my ex-husband because I am an independent woman.
I could choose to marry an ordinary person just because I was still capable of living well.
Knowing how to live, my mind has become less tired, and I just want to enjoy a happy time......
After ending a marriage, I saw clearly the importance of human nature and the essence of life, and divorce is not a terrible thing.
In life, both men and women are pursuing true love that is in line with their hearts.
Some people are lucky enough to find such love easily, but some people are not lucky enough and fall into the so-called love in a hurry.
However, when they look back, they realize that they were not married to their sweethearts, and they could not fit into that family.
This is an era where people are judged by their appearance, and people are not only interested in appearance, but also about factors such as status, identity, and family background, which are not something that people can choose.
However, when this man gave her a chance to confess, she did not miss this fate.
Sometimes, missing out can mean a lifetime, and someone is afraid to pursue and fulfill their heart's desire because they feel that they are not suitable and unmatched.
However, there are miracles in this world, and as long as you work hard and are brave enough, you should be brave enough to pursue them, not only in love, but also in our dream ......