The divorced daughter-in-law asked her mother-in-law to pack her luggage, and her mother-in-law cried and wanted to drive me back to my hometown?
When it comes to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law often shed many bitter tears.
However, not all mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships are so complicated. The warmth between many intimate mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law is often overshadowed by those discordant relationships.
I once witnessed a warm mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship happen to a sister I knew.
Her family and her husband's family were originally neighbors, and she was raised by her mother-in-law since she was a child. My mother-in-law has always liked her very much and hopes that she can be her daughter-in-law.
However, at the time, she did not attract her son's attention. After many failed relationships, with the help of the two families, she and her mother-in-law's son finally got married and had a son.
However, the good times did not last long, and her son fell in love with someone else. The mother-in-law beat and abused her son, and even threatened to sever the relationship between mother and child. In the end, the son did not look back, and the two had to divorce.
After the divorce, the mother-in-law chose to live with her former daughter-in-law and refused to accept the new daughter-in-law. She kept saying to her former daughter-in-law: "It was my son who failed you, and I don't recognize him anymore." From now on, you are my daughter, let's live together. ”
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have always maintained a mother-daughter relationship, and their son's chaotic behavior has not affected their relationship.
Until the death of her mother-in-law, the funeral was also handled by the former daughter-in-law. The new daughter-in-law was not recognized during the mother-in-law's lifetime.
Do you see it? If you want your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to live in harmony, it's not easy. The key is that both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must have the correct three views, empathy, empathy, empathy, and sufficient emotional intelligence.
It is often said, "Why should a woman be embarrassed by a woman?" "A woman's emotions and pain are best understood only by the woman herself. If you can empathize with each other, or recall your least favorite mother-in-law behavior when you were a daughter-in-law, you may be able to better understand the other person and do something and not do something.
After getting used to seeing many complicated mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, this mother-in-law and daughter-in-law story we are going to share today may provide you with some inspiration on how to get along.
Aunt Han is 58 years old this year. All the while, she lived a quiet rural life, while her wife worked in the construction team. The two can only reunite briefly during the Spring Festival a year.
In the past years, Aunt Han first worked hard to raise her son, and then took care of her in-laws, until she was able to take a break from her in-laws. However, the great trials of life came in her seemingly peaceful days.
Five years ago, Aunt Han's son, who was working hard, fell in love. That girl was born with a smile, delicate and kind, and was deeply loved by Aunt Han. So, a year later, the son and the girl tied the knot. In order to allow the two newlyweds to settle down in the city, Aunt Han almost exhausted her family's savings to buy a property. Although her daughter-in-law has invited Aunt Han to live in the city many times, she has always adhered to the habit of the countryside and guarded her wife's home. stay away, so that the son and his wife can live their own lives.
The next year, the good news came that the daughter-in-law was pregnant. Aunt Han longs for her upcoming grandson, and agrees with her wife to say goodbye to work after completing the current project. However, the good life plan took a turn for the worse on my wife's last day at work. My wife accidentally fell down the elevator shaft and died on the spot. Aunt Han was heartbroken and almost unconscious.
From that moment on, Aunt Han sat silently at home alone, absent-minded, and even tea and dinner became unimportant. She gradually lost weight.
The son and daughter-in-law were heartbroken and worried that Aunt Han would not be able to bear the weight of life alone, so they proposed to take her to live in the city. However, Aunt Han has always refused to agree. The daughter-in-law endured the hardships of pregnancy and said to Aunt Han: "Mom, I am about to usher in the advent of life, but I have no experience in raising children after all, can you come and help me?" ”
So, at the request of her son and daughter-in-law, Aunt Han started a new life in the city.
Just came to the city, and soon after, Aunt Han ushered in the birth of her little granddaughter. Taking care of her daughter-in-law's confinement and baby wholeheartedly, Aunt Han no longer has time to immerse herself in sadness.
Watching her daughter-in-law's body gradually ** and her granddaughter growing up day by day, a smile appeared on the face of Han's wife.
After a while, I played with my little granddaughter during the day and danced in the park at night, and lived a very comfortable life. Although she thinks of her late wife from time to time, her heart inevitably stings a little, but after all, she has come out of her grief. Now, Aunt Han's only wish is to take care of her son's family and share the burden of life for them.
However, the good times did not last long, and the turning point of fate came. The son and daughter-in-law originally worked in a foreign trade company, but due to a reason named Y-love, the company laid off employees on a large scale, and the family suddenly lost their livelihood and their lives fell into difficulties.
In desperation, Aunt Han had to use the pension left by her wife after her death to support them in trying to start a business. The two children also showed excellent fighting spirit, starting with setting up a stall and working hard day and night. In less than two years, they rented a few shops and started a wholesale business.
However, life is unpredictable, and happiness comes and goes quickly. As the money in his pocket increased, Aunt Han's son began to become fluttery. Originally honest and honest, he found a new woman outside, and when he returned home, he asked for a divorce from his daughter-in-law.
For this unexpected discord, Aunt Han's heart was like an overturning anger. Even if it was her own son, it made Aunt Han angry. However, the son has been lost in the fog of new feelings, and Aunt Han can't wake him up no matter what. Faced with such a situation, Aunt Han angrily severed the mother-son relationship with her son, and even wrote a formal agreement to choose to spend the rest of her life with her daughter-in-law.
The dramatic turn of fate is not over. Soon after, due to a car accident, Aunt Han's son died unexpectedly. The woman who had once separated their family disappeared without a trace after taking everything she could take with her. And the rest of the matter was finally handled by Aunt Han's daughter-in-law herself.
Aunt Han always felt guilty in her heart, thinking that she had not educated her son well, which caused her daughter-in-law to suffer a lot of damage. In order to make up for her mistakes, she spared no effort to help her daughter-in-law reduce the burden of life, took on the heavy responsibility of taking care of the children and doing housework, and even went to the store to help her daughter-in-law share the work in her free time. She gave to atone for her son's sins.
Aunt Han saw her daughter-in-law working hard alone, from a 130-pound woman to more than 90 pounds, which made Han Jie feel distressed. As a woman, she deeply understands her daughter-in-law's hardships and sincerely hopes that someone can lend a helping hand and help her daughter-in-law tide over the difficulties.
For this reason, Aunt Han privately found her daughter-in-law's best friend and asked her to help find a good man, hoping to support each other. She knows very well that her daughter-in-law is young and life should not be so hard.
The daughter-in-law's best friend was moved by Aunt Han's kindness and promised to find a reliable man for her daughter-in-law. After getting along for a period of time, the daughter-in-law and the man introduced felt that they were suitable for each other, which made Aunt Han happy too.
However, two days ago, Aunt Han overheard the man's arrangements for the future life of her daughter-in-law and granddaughter, but did not mention any plans for her. Aunt Han began to worry, as a lonely old man, where will she go in the future?
The next day, the daughter-in-law told Aunt Han to pack her luggage. Aunt Han was stunned, did she want to send herself back to the countryside? Does the daughter-in-law no longer need her? The worry of being alone welled up in her heart, and she was so sad that she wiped away tears. She also understands that her daughter-in-law has no obligation to her, and she is relying on her daughter-in-law.
It took two days for Aunt Han to pack her luggage. At this time, she heard her daughter-in-law slapping loudly in the room.
I can't help but take my mother-in-law away, she has suffered a lot for this family, and in order to protect me, she even broke off the mother-son relationship with her son. She's like my own mother. Now that she's not in good health, I can't send her back to the country, I can't leave her alone. If you really can't accept it, then we can only break up-".
When Aunt Han heard this, she cried and pushed open the door and hugged her daughter-in-law: "Girl, don't worry about me, you can go." Otherwise, if I don't go back to the country, I'll live here alone and won't cause you trouble. ”
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cried together.
It turned out that the daughter-in-law did not want to send her back to the countryside, but wanted her to live with her. If the man can't accept her, the daughter-in-law will decide not to marry him.
All of this eventually touched the man as well. He promised to take good care of Aunt Han and let her live with them.
After careful consideration, Aunt Han felt that she was not suitable to live with them for the time being. She decided to stay here alone, after all, it was not far away, and let her daughter-in-law treat this place as her mother's home, no matter when, she would have a way out.
Emotional host Tu Lei once shared such a point of view:
In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and son-in-law, it is important to pursue the realm of two sentences, that is, to treat care as if it were a biological child, while maintaining mutual respect and treating guests as courteous. ”
This is essentially based on an intimate and reserved way of getting along with each other. If you can elevate the level of care to the point of being your own, you must have the wisdom of empathy; Being able to treat each other with respect as if it were a guest is a sign of intimacy and a certain distance.
Everything comes from understanding each other's positions, knowing how to think more about each other, being more considerate of each other, and at the same time having the right values, neither favoritism because of closeness, nor being strong because of estrangement.
As long as this can be done, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will definitely live in harmony.