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Indeed, everyone's life is made up of endless relationships, and it is a great blessing to have beautiful connections with others.
But everything has a cause and an effect. Whatever you want, you need to practice hard.
People who are truly successful in relationships are nurtured in these three aspects of life:
Observe the wisdom of words.
There is a famous quote in The Godfather. "The fate of a person who can see the essence of things in a second is completely different from that of a person who cannot see the essence. Half a lifetime can see things as they are. This also applies to relationships.
In interpersonal communication, knowing how to recognize people is a very profound wisdom.
When we are treated well by others, we should be careful to see if they misunderstand our kindness.
A lot of pain stems from mishandling relationships. When respect turns to contempt, don't complain or doubt yourself, just think of it as a growing pain.
After experiencing frustration and insecurity, we are able to understand people more deeply, which makes us mature and strong inside.
Being good at distinguishing right from wrong and observing speech and emotions is an important ability to deal with interpersonal relationships.
Paying close attention to your words and emotions is like holding up an umbrella for yourself to nip problems in the bud. A person who is good at observing others can calmly handle all kinds of relationships, whether advancing or retreating, and defending.
Grandma Liu in Dream of Red Mansions is a typical example. Although she has a low social status, she uses her keen insight and high spiritual wisdom to play an active role in the Grand View Garden.
At the banquet, she followed Sister Feng's wishes, was able to make everyone laugh, never get angry, and showed generosity and understanding. This ability to observe speech and emotions allows her to thrive in complex relationships.
Guiguzi believes that observing verbal emotions and understanding the minds of others is the key to success. Even in a dangerous society, there are always people who can win the trust and support of those around them like a fish out of water.
This is not only because they have a high IQ, but also because they are good at communicating with people and know how to read people's faces.
The human mind is elusive, but it's not impossible to spy on it. By observing a person's words and actions, you can understand what he feels inside.
If you remain calm and consistent, you will gain respect, understanding, and recognition from others.
The virtue of kindness.
Mr. Hu Shi once said: "The most hateful thing in the world is an angry face. ”
In relationships, it is very important to maintain a humble, peaceful attitude.
In life, we will inevitably encounter some difficulties and setbacks, and we may also be misunderstood or questioned by others. But these are not enough to make us lose our zest for life and respect for others.
In order to get along better with the people around us, we must learn how to smooth out the edges and corners and make them square inside and round on the outside.
Kindness and cheerfulness are not only a virtue, but also the greatest education of a person. You must learn to maintain a pleasant appearance when socializing with others. By doing so, you can increase your own visibility and earn the respect and trust of others.
Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty is a good example.
Although he was treated unfairly by the incognito innkeeper, he did not get angry about it, but praised the hated innkeeper and joined him in the Praetorian Guard.
This tolerant attitude earned him the respect of the shopkeepers and made him a great emperor.
Confucius said that a gentleman has nine thoughts, three of which are beauty. It's hard to think about outward warmth, outward respect and outward anger, he said.
A gentleman is a gentleman who behaves in words and deeds, especially when he has a calm face, a modest demeanor, and is not angry when he is angry.
This attitude will not only make you get along better with others, but it will also earn you more respect.
Beautiful appearance is a very important quality.
We must learn how to maintain this attitude and use it to face the difficulties and challenges of life. When you treat others in a pleasant way, they will respond in the same way.
This attitude to life makes us happier and happier.
Equal competence.
Fun and comfort are essential qualities in relationships.
Mr. Hu Shi once said: "The most hateful thing in the world is an angry face. "When we deal with others, we maintain a humble, peaceful attitude and gain the respect and trust of others.
The story of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty and the shopkeeper teaches us how to stay calm in the face of other people's unkindness.
If you treat others in this way, you will get the same reaction from them.
The "Tortoise and Hare Race" is a mutually beneficial way to get along. Through fairness and mutual benefit, we can achieve better outcomes in our relationships.
The 66-year friendship between Ba Jin and Bingxin is an example worth emulating. Their friendship lasts because they achieve each other and ennoble each other.
In relationships, we need to learn to support each other and grow together.
Lim's words remind us that tolerance is an essential quality in relationships.
By tolerating others, we can avoid risks, overcome the ups and downs of interpersonal relationships, and usher in the prosperity of birdsong, flowers, mountains, rivers and seas.
Friendliness, equality, and mutual benefit are all very important qualities in relationships.
We need to learn these qualities in order to face life's difficulties and challenges and live in harmony with others.
There is an adage that is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
The deepest happiness a person can experience in a lifetime is to devote himself to the work he loves and immerse himself in love. "Be considerate of others and always have warm expectations. ”
All three of these highest elements of happiness are deeply rooted in the art of interpersonal communication.
The form of happiness is always changing, and harmonious and happy interpersonal relationships are the shining treasures in the world of happiness.
People who are good at perceiving people's hearts and observing the state of the world are always free to open up their own lives, and can also add richness and color to the lives of others.
A person who treats others with a pleasant appearance and kindness can always change the course of his life. It is tightly organized and paints a calm and expansive picture of life.
And people who are equal and balanced in interpersonal communication, who are neither humble nor arrogant, can always take their own steps and dance their own dances in this world. Unique rhythm and style.
Time flies, and the years are like songs. I hope that you will devote yourself to cultivation on the long road of life, and eventually reach the stage of life that is difficult for others to reach, and harvest the scenery of life that is difficult for others to reach. It is unique and will attract the eyes of the whole world.