Suddenly, one day, my wife Linlin came to me and said: "Husband, do you know it, my brother and daughter-in-law got married, and their family actually received 100,000 bride price, but when we got married, it was only 10,000!" I'm not going to do it, it's not fair! ”
As soon as I heard this, I felt that something was wrong. Hurriedly asked, "What's wrong?" Why did you mention this all of a sudden? Linlin said with an aggrieved face: "You don't know? I saw in the group that my brother-in-law's family wants 100,000 dowry, and our family only has 10,000, I think it's too much of a loss! ”
My heart tightened, and I felt like I had stepped on some thunder. I thought to myself, "Why is this question so sensitive?" Seeing that Linlin became more and more excited, I only asked, "Then what do you think?" ”
Linlin shook her hair and looked disdainful: "Of course you have to have an explanation!" Otherwise, how would I live this day? You say, don't you? ”
I glanced at my brother and daughter-in-law who were busy and sighed: "This matter is not simple, it must be handled carefully." Linlin said directly: "I don't care, I want an explanation, otherwise I will divorce!" "I almost didn't fall down when I heard it, but it's a good thing, my brother-in-law's marriage is in crisis.
In the days that followed, Linlin could push me to the brink of exhaustion. As soon as she got home every night, she began to complain: "Everyone has 100,000 parents, but our family only has 10,000, isn't this clearly discriminating against me?" "I'm anxious like an ant on a hot pan, and I don't know what to do.
One night, Linlin was even more furious, ignoring the eyes of her neighbors, and shouted directly at home: "I don't believe it, can't I give more?!" ”
My head was as big as a fight, and I yelled at her without even thinking about it: "Okay, don't mention this again, don't you go crazy again, okay?" When Linlin heard me say this, she was furious: "If you don't help me, you're sorry for me!" ”
Seeing that my brother-in-law's marriage was in jeopardy, I decided that I had to find a way to ease the atmosphere. The next night, Linlin and I finally sat down at the dinner table. I took the dishes and chopsticks and said, "We're husband and wife, don't always quarrel." Actually, we have to be rational about this matter. ”
Linlin's eyes widened: "Rational? What's irrational about me? You just don't understand me! I hurriedly explained: "I mean, when it comes to the bride price, you can't just look at the numbers, you have to look at the reasons behind it." The younger brother-in-law's family received 100,000 yuan, probably because the times have changed, and the bride price standard has also changed. ”
Linlin muttered: "What if it changes?" It's not discriminating against me. I patiently explained, "No, other people's family circumstances are different, the wedding time is different, and the education is different." We had 10,000 yuan at the beginning, also because the family conditions were not good at that time, and my parents did their best. ”
Lin Lin was silent for a moment, and then said: "But the brother-in-law's family is biological, and we are also born to you, why is the gap so big?" "I suddenly felt a layer of cold sweat on my back, and I really couldn't get around this problem. I paused and whispered, "Actually, we should be glad that now that life is better, the children are all adults, marriage is a matter of two people, and we can't always rely on our parents." ”
Lin Lin frowned: "What do you mean by this?" I went on to explain, "I mean, our marriage should not only look at the bride price, but also think about it emotionally. Other people's families have many bride prices, but marriage is not necessarily good; We don't have a lot of bride price, but we've had a pretty good time over the years, right? ”
After hearing this, the resentment in Linlin's eyes seemed to fade a little, and she lowered her head and played with the dishes and chopsticks. I continued, "Let's not always compare, don't always worry about this and that, that will only make everyone unhappy. Let's cherish the happiness now, and for the sake of my brother-in-law's marriage, don't make any more trouble, okay? Linlin was silent for a moment, then finally nodded.
From that day on, Linlin seemed to have slowly calmed down, and she no longer got angry because of the bride price. Although the problem has not been completely resolved, at least our family has gradually returned to peace.
After a while, the atmosphere in the house gradually eased. Linlin no longer talks about the bride price, and she doesn't seem to be so worried about her brother-in-law's marriage. I am secretly glad that this turmoil has finally passed.
However, just when I thought everything was going to be fine, one night, Linlin suddenly yelled at me: "You shameless death, I've endured it for so long, can't you love me a little more?" ”
I was confused: "What's wrong?" Why are you going crazy again? Linlin said angrily: "You shameless person, my brother-in-law's family has given 100,000 dowry, you are good, you don't even show me a good face, you know to work hard every day!" ”
I sighed to myself, how could this not be done endlessly. But I'm not a fuel-efficient lamp either, and I said disdainfully, "Here you go again, and now you start yelling again, you're really endless." ”
Linlin became more and more angry: "You are just an immature waste, look at other people's brothers-in-law, the family will be grand, and our family is a broken mess!" ”
As soon as I heard this, the anger in my heart almost broke out. I was furious and said, "Okay, whatever you want, I'll do it for you!" ”
In the days that followed, Linlin kept complaining, and I became more and more angry. At this time, I suddenly thought of an idea, so I said to Linlin: "Okay, if you want to save face, I will fulfill you." Let's also have a big wedding, 100,000 bride price, the wedding is very lively, okay? ”
After hearing this, Linlin's eyes lit up: "Really? Are you so willing to spend money? I smirked: "Of course, I will!" I'll give you all the face you want, but you have to think about it, it's going to cost a lot of money. ”
Linlin's eyes flashed with excitement: "Then do it, I want a grand wedding!" So, we started to prepare for my brother-in-law's wedding. The venue, the decoration, the dress, everything came according to Linlin's request. I think she's satisfied.
On the day of the wedding, Linlin was so excited that her face turned red. The wedding was very enthusiastic, and the guests were amazed at how good our wedding was. Lin Lin boasted to her relatives and friends: "This is the style of our family, other people's weddings are far behind!" ”
I muttered to myself, "It's far away, it's far away, it's good if you're happy anyway." However, this grand wedding did not completely extinguish Linlin's dissatisfaction. Afterwards, she still talked about this from time to time, feeling that her family's wedding was still far away.
At this point, I felt like I was cornered. I thought, "I've really eaten sugar-coated shells now, do you think you can satisfy her with a big wedding?" However, I didn't choose to continue to follow Linlin's wishes, but retreated.
One day, I suddenly decided to have a good talk with Linlin. I patiently said, "My dear, no matter how grand the wedding is, it can't solve the fundamental problem. Let's think about it from another angle, do we care too much about other people's eyes and ignore the feelings of our brother and daughter-in-law? ”
Lin Lin frowned: "What are you talking about?" Are you crazy? I took a deep breath and said, "No, I think that if we blindly compare, we will only make the problem worse." My brother-in-law's family is 100,000, no matter how hard our family tries, it is impossible to change this fact. However, we can change our attitude towards this matter. ”
Linlin looked at me puzzled: "How to change?" I smiled and said, "Let's start from the heart and live the life we want to live." The bride price is not a standard for measuring the quality of a marriage, what we want is for our brother-in-law to live a happy life, not to cater to the eyes of others. ”
Linlin hesitated for a moment, and finally nodded. I breathed a sigh of relief that this time I finally had some eyebrows.
The days passed slowly, and the marriage of my brother and daughter-in-law also stabilized. Linlin also slowly understood that marriage is not about the amount of bride price, but about the understanding and tolerance of two people. Our family finally returned to a dull and happy life.
This experience has made me more aware that we will inevitably encounter various difficulties and contradictions in life, but the key is that we must learn to deal with them calmly, rather than blindly using extreme means to solve problems. In the end, what really matters is the harmony and happiness of the family, not the eyes and evaluations of the outside world. In the process, I also learned a lot about being a mature husband and father. Perhaps, this is the most important bride price in marriage.
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