Raising children to prevent old age is gradually becoming a beautiful legend, although it is cruel to say, but more and more reality confirms that if you want to raise children to prevent old age, there is a high probability that it will be empty.
The eldest lady was a woman in our village, and in my childhood memories, she was a very strong, tall woman.
She is about 1.75 meters tall, like a northern woman, and she is very tall in our southern women's pile. The villagers nicknamed her the eldest woman.
The eldest mother-in-law's family lives in the west of the village, and my family lives in the east of the village. Our village is relatively large, divided into two production teams, one in the west of the village and one in the east of the village.
She is not a production team with us, and we do not work together. Usually we rarely go to the west of the village, unless we go to the old well at the west end of the village to fetch water.
I didn't stay in my hometown for many years, and I came out to live in school after I was 14 years old, but why do I still remember the eldest mother-in-law?
Because she was not very tall, but very strong, and I heard from the adults that she was very capable of working, and not only were the women not her opponents, but even the men were not able to do her, and she was very famous in our whole village, and she was a capable woman.
She gave birth to five children, two sons, three daughters, and his eldest son is still a classmate of mine.
After the eldest son got married, he was separated and singled, and the eldest daughter-in-law had health problems and could not have children, so she found a lot of doctors and drank a lot of traditional Chinese medicine, but it was still useless.
After the second son got married, he also separated and separated, and the second son gave birth to two children, both boys.
The second son thought that his brother had no children, so he thought about stepping a son to his brother, but his sister-in-law didn't want it.
My eldest son, who is also my classmate, works in the county every day, and his wife plays mahjong and plays at home every day.
The three daughters married one after another, and the lively family was finally left with the eldest mother-in-law and the old one.
The sons all built another building and moved out, and the old couple lived in the old house.
The old couple planted their own two-person responsibility field, and planted some vegetables in the vegetable garden, and they were also self-sufficient.
After more than ten years of such peaceful days, the old man fell ill with stomach cancer, which was at an advanced stage when it was discovered.
After a few months of healing, the old couple spent all the savings they had worked hard to accumulate for a lifetime, and the old man left.
The eldest mother-in-law was left alone, and she was able to grow her own fields and vegetables at first, and it was nothing to do.
However, the older you go, the worse your body will become, and your ability will become weaker and weaker.
The eldest mother-in-law is no exception, although she was very strong in labor when she was young, but after all, she was old, and she suffered from diabetes, and gradually lost her ability to work, and had to rely on her sons for support.
In rural areas, parents are generally supported by their sons, and daughters do not bear the responsibility of supporting their parents.
In this way, the responsibility of the eldest mother-in-law is implemented on the heads of the two sons. Each son is a year of several hundred catties of rice, and a certain amount of money is given to the mother-in-law to take medicine.
At first, the implementation was quite good, but slowly the eldest son and daughter-in-law began to default.
Originally, the younger son and daughter-in-law were quite good to the eldest mother-in-law, but the eldest daughter-in-law was gossiping outside, saying that the younger son and daughter-in-law had the benefits of the eldest mother-in-law, so they were good to the eldest mother-in-law.
In order to prove her innocence, the little daughter-in-law no longer dares to be good to the eldest mother-in-law, but the food that should be given and the money that should be given will not be less.
The old house where the eldest mother-in-law lived, because it was old, began to leak, and told the two sons to let them repair and pick up the leaks, but the two sons, you count on me, I count on you, every day they say that there is no time.
During the rainy season, the eldest mother-in-law's house was full of leaky basins, and even in the bedroom, the quilt was once wet.
But the sons turned a blind eye and went out to work outside every day to earn money. The two sons live in a three-story house, but the old mother lives in a leaky house, which is a bit sad.
The two sons produced relatively little food, and the eldest mother-in-law had a large amount of food, which was not enough.
When her sister saw this, she gave her a load of rice.
That day, the rice sent by my sister was finished, and the eldest mother-in-law went to the eldest daughter's house, and we don't know what she was going to do, but she didn't go home that day.
I didn't see anyone for a few days, and my sons were a little panicked, so I called ** to my sister's house to look for it, and my sister said that my mother would go back that day.
The sons felt a little bad and searched for their mother on her way home. Walking to a stream, they found their mother's shoes, neatly on the bank.
Their mother was telling them that she had committed suicide by jumping into the water, not by falling into the water.
The two sons searched along the stream, and finally found their mother at a bend, swollen and almost unrecognizable.
The woman who was once so powerful went like this, and died at the age of 70. When my mother told me this, I couldn't calm down for a long time.
Indeed, the elderly in the countryside have no pension and can only rely on their sons to support them, and it is good for the sons to be filial, but when they meet unfilial sons, it is a problem to eat.
When I was young, I worked hard to raise my children, but when my children grew up, I was old, I lost my ability to work, and I couldn't support myself.
This is the sorrow of the elderly in rural areas, and I hope that the rural insurance can be improved a little, so that the elderly in rural areas can live without relying on their children, and make the society better and more harmonious.